Vulgar Language

[Number 81]

Is it ok to use bad words (Other than using the Lord's Name in Vain or cursing ("damn you!") if no one hears it?

 

[epiclesis]

God hears it.

 

[Carrye]

Is it ok to use bad words (Other than using the Lord's Name in Vain or cursing ("damn you!") if no one hears it?

No. The point is not whether or not a person hears, but whether or not you say it. We should not be cursing other people.

 

[vrunca]

Is it ok to use bad words (Other than using the Lord's Name in Vain or cursing ("damn you!") if no one hears it?

I just had this conversation with my 17 year old!! He said there is nothing wrong with using the s or f or a words or any of those other lovely words...He said it is not using the Lord's name in vain...Well I told him that I don't want him using it, so that makes it wrong. And he argued with me about it saying it is not wrong and I said it is though....because the 4th Commandment is Honor your father and mother...and I don't like those words!!

And of course I can't say those words either, because my mom doesn't like them either.

 

[eyesofmystery]

It's not the best language to use, and the habit can be hard to break. Sometimes I use bad words (such as the f-word and things like that) but I do my best to not use them too often! Usually, my friends and I say "frig" instead of the f-word. But this reminds me of something funny that happened to a friend of mine - he is a seminarian so everyone expects him to be super-holy. Well, one time when he was giving a talk at a church gathering about a pilgrimage he did, he accidentally said "ass". We all giggled and he put his hand up to his mouth as if to say "oops..." and then he said "God still needs to work on me!"

I have another friend who swears like a sailor. But, since she works with children, she has to restrain herself quite a bit. Except it seems she makes up for her restraint by letting the profanities fly whenever our friends are hanging out together!

 

[Sisof8]

i actually have this discussion a lot... i NEVER Cussed as a teen and started cussing about 2 yrs ago and i dont wanna offend people and i dont wanna encourage kids to do it bc im not suuure of it, but.. i am not sure it's wrong... if it is tho then its wrong whether you're alone or with a priest

 

[Carrye]

Just remember that we use the word "curse" to refer to this sort of thing. What other context do we use the word in? Would you put a spell on me? Then why would you use words that have a similiar intention and effect?

 

[WarriorAngel]

I wonder is saying "D--N brick fell on me." if that is cursing?

I mean it is a brick, so it shouldnt be a curse??

I have tried to curb my language...it slips out when I am talking to friends sometimes..

BUT not often.

 

[Sisof8]

ok.... this shows my shelteredness.... or my stupidity ... i couldnt figure out why warrior was censoring darn brick

 

[vrunca]

I was actually just talking to my mom on the phone and I told her about this thread and she said something that made a lot of sense!!!

If it is something you wouldn't say if you were face to face with Jesus, it shouldn't be said at all.

 

[Ave Maria]

No. The point is not whether or not a person hears, but whether or not you say it. We should not be cursing other people.

What if you're not cursing someone but are instead saying it out of frustration at your computer or something?

 

[Carrye]

What if you're not cursing someone but are instead saying it out of frustration at your computer or something?

Remember, what we say and what we do reflects who we are. Denying yourself something like this builds virtue.

 

[vrunca]

What if you're not cursing someone but are instead saying it out of frustration at your computer or something?

Would you want Jesus to hear it....because He does!

 

[scraparcs]

I was actually just talking to my mom on the phone and I told her about this thread and she said something that made a lot of sense!!!

If it is something you wouldn't say if you were face to face with Jesus, it shouldn't be said at all.

Boy, that would shut me up!

 

[Sisof8]

ouch.

 

[Sisof8]

altho... i say F, S, B, A, you name it in my prayers to God, so i guess i do say it "face to face"

 

[HisKid1973]

If it is something you wouldn't say if you were face to face with Jesus, it shouldn't be said at all.

Amen Sis.. I think of these two verses.

Col. 4:6 Let your speech be alway with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man.
and
Mark 7:20 And he said, That which cometh out of the man, that defileth the man.. Meaning these things are in the heart..
Pax..Kim

 

[Seek Ye First]

No bad language must pass your lips, but only what is good and helpful to the occasion, so that it brings a blessing to those who hear it. Eph. 4:29 NEB

 

[Ann M]

If a tree falls in an empty forest does it make a sound?

 

[magicpixel]

You should always think before you speak, even if you're alone, because you can develop bad habits. If you say bad words in front of others you might hurt loved ones. And that's far more difficult to heal than restraining yourself.