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I couldn't sleep, but God laid a lot on my heart about my vows. I thought I'd share them here and get some feedback from other Christians.

Today I leave my parents' house to become the head of our household, as Christ is head of the church (Eph. 5:23, 31, Gen. 2:24). I promise to cherish you as Christ cherishes the church. (Eph. 5:29). I will give myself up for you as Christ gave himself up for the church. (Eph. 5:29). I will never divorce you. I will always be faithful to you. I honor you as an equal heir in the Kingdom of God. (1 Peter 3:7). As Christ finds no blemish in his church, I find no blemish in you. (Eph. 5:28, Song of Sol. 4:7).


Today I also leave my body behind to cleave to you as one flesh. (Gen. 2:24). I will nourish and cherish you as I nourish and cherish my own body. (Eph. 5:28). Because my body no longer belongs to me, but to you, I recognize that nourishing and caring for my own body is also a duty to you. (1 Cor. 7:4). I will not deprive you of my body except when we both agree. (1 Cor. 7:3-5). I will strive to be "naked and unashamed" before you, keeping no secrets and hiding no weaknesses. (Gen. 2:25).


Today I celebrate the greatest earthly gift God could ever give me. "You have made my heart beat faster with a single glance of your eyes, my sister, my bride." (Song of Sol. 4:9). I will love you unconditionally, striving to be patient, kind, longsuffering, and understanding each and every moment of each and every day. (1 Cor. 13:4, 1 Peter 3:7). I will keep each and every one of these vows, whether I am sick or well, whether I am poor or rich, until the day I die.
 

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Hmm good idea although maybe things could be changed


Today I leave my parents' household to become the head of our household, as Christ is head of the church (Eph. 5:23, 31, Gen. 2:24). I promise to cherish you as Christ cherishes the church. (Eph. 5:29). I will give myself up for you as Christ gave himself up for the church. (Eph. 5:29). I will always be faithful to you and so long as you remain faithful, I will never divorce you. I honor you as an equal heir in the Kingdom of God. (1 Peter 3:7). As Christ finds no blemish in his church, I will find no blemish in you. (Eph. 5:28, Song of Sol. 4:7).


Today I also leave my body behind to cleave to you as one flesh. (Gen. 2:24). I will nourish and cherish you as I nourish and cherish my own body. (Eph. 5:28). Because my body no longer belongs to me, but also to you, I recognize that nourishing and caring for my own body is also a duty to you. (1 Cor. 7:4). I will not deprive you of my body except when we both agree. (1 Cor. 7:3-5). I will strive to be "naked and unashamed" before you, keeping no secrets and hiding no weaknesses. (Gen. 2:25).


Today I celebrate the greatest earthly gift God could ever give me. "You have made my heart beat faster with a single glance of your eyes." (Song of Sol. 4:9). I will love you unconditionally, striving to be patient, kind, longsuffering, and understanding each and every moment of each and every day. (1 Cor. 13:4, 1 Peter 3:7). I will keep each and every one of these vows, in both sickeness and health, no matter if we are poor or rich, until the day death seperates us.

The last part especially I think needs a little work.

I put in both sickness in health because I think it emphasizes that it doesn't not matter if you are sick or healthy and it does not matter if she is sick or healthy. Your previous one lacked some I think because it only talked about your health. Not hers.

The second part I think the word I AM poor or rich is innappropriate. WE are rich or WE are poor.

The part about death. Again you are only looking at yourself or your possible death. Basically I am going to keep these vows until one of us dies. I think its theologically inappropriate to promise to keep the vows only until you die. The problem is that there is almost . . . infering that there is marriage after death. Or marriage in the Kingdom of heaven. I don't much like it.

Other changes, mostly in italics are words that I'm less concerned about I just think it sounds better or some words are unnecessary. You can take those or leave them, they are just suggestions. But I really recommend playing a bit with the last part in light of my advice about it. You don't have to use my wording but I think you should probably reword it.

The divorce thing, you can again take or leave. I personally wouldn't promise to NEVER divorce my wife. But I would promise to never do it so long as she remains faithful to me.
 
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