I get in this viscious cycle where I want to be myself and be able to have things to talk about to people, but the only time I can really be myself and most easily talk, is when I'm relaxed and carefree. It's hard for me to be relaxed and carefree when I worry about what to say whatnot... I don't like the fact that on my own I can't seem to easily think of things. When I'm relaxed they just come to me though. I'll tell myself that it's not what you say but how you act that's important, but in my mind, that logic isn't good enough. I can be a perfectionist, and in turn act so imperfect. Any advice?