Virginity

[Luther073082]

I think this conversation is going a little too graphic for my tastes.

 

[DarkNLovely]

WHY AM I ALWAYS LATE TO THESE GREAT THREADS!?!?!?

Anyhoo. I dunno. I have always been on the fense on this one. I haven't read through all the pages just yet, but is there anybody that id does matter for? Mostly I have read that it does not matter.

 

[DarkNLovely]

Do you really think there are any virgins out there?????

I doubt it ... at least not above 18!

Kathy

May I politly ask where you are from? Sounds like you need to move!

 

[CargoPants]

If she has repented then it's not a problem for me.

 

[Autumncard]

Where is a virgin in heart nowadays?

 

[kingoffools13]

Where is a virgin in heart nowadays?

what?

K
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[die2live]

Where is a virgin in heart nowadays?

Where has there ever been a virgin in heart?

Not to sound cynical, but we all mess up. That's why it's important to live for the present and not the past.

 

[Blank123]

How important is it that your spouse is a virgin when you get married? Do you think that you could "deal" with it if that had made a mistake in the past and weren't...or would you feel like you had been "cheated" out of something with that person?

its not especially important to me. So long as he's recognized premarital sex is a sin and repented of it (this is assuming of course its not due to being widowed or something) and committed himself to celibacy until marriage thats all i care about.

 

[Blank123]

Where is a virgin in heart nowadays?

what is a virgin in heart?

 

[Raph]

My main concern about marriage to a non-virgin is whether or not I am entering into a lifestyle of adultery. I believe the real binding nature of marriage is not a ceremony but the sex. So every sexual engagement can be considered another marriage. God may forgive a person for committing multiple adulteries but this forgiveness does not necessary erase a person’s marital status. So, by this understanding, to marry a non-virgin is to live a lifestyle of adultery. If repentance is the “turning away from sin,” how can a person repent from this sin?

I think that the “World’s Values” have infiltrated into the church far too much in regards to sexuality activity. Christians seem to take the consequences of sexual activity far too lightly when the operative word in the Bible is not to resist it but to “flee” from it.

 

[JonMiller]

David stayed with Bathsheba. I don't tihnk if you get remarried/etc that you are continuing to engage in adultery. God knows we screw up...

JM

 

[christiankate]

I have dated both virgins and non-virgins. Considering I'm a virgin, I would prefer a virgin, sure.... but It dosn't stop me from dating non-virgins.... so long as they don't have hiv/std's then thats ok....

 

[frenzy]

As long as they aren't someone who sleeps around a lot, I really couldn't care. I just want someone who respects sex as a loving act.

 

[koban4max]

How important is it that your spouse is a virgin when you get married? Do you think that you could "deal" with it if that had made a mistake in the past and weren't...or would you feel like you had been "cheated" out of something with that person?

Dear, dear, dear, you should stop worrying about these things.

 

[Brotherfromanothermother]

Dear, dear, dear, you should stop worrying about these things.

Why?

 

[Cordelia]

As long as they aren't someone who sleeps around a lot, I really couldn't care. I just want someone who respects sex as a loving act.

I agree. Respect and a godly attitude towards sex is much, more important that past mistakes.

Personally I'm tired of seeing virginity held up almost as an idol by some young Christians.

 

[deliciousBass]

I agree. Respect and a godly attitude towards sex is much, more important that past mistakes.

lol well once they start getting into the double digits I start to worry But not too long ago I read an article that said the average female has 4 sexual partners in her lifetime. I'm sure there's a bunch of tramps skewing the average too hahaha

 

[Cordelia]

lol well once they start getting into the double digits I start to worry But not too long ago I read an article that said the average female has 4 sexual partners in her lifetime. I'm sure there's a bunch of tramps skewing the average too hahaha

Lol heck I'm 23, nearly at that average already, and I'm virginal compared to some people I know...

 

[deliciousBass]

Lol heck I'm 23, nearly at that average already, and I'm virginal compared to some people I know...

Hehe, whoa, slow down!

I'll have to find my sources but I've read that the more sexual partners you have, the more you are prone to mental illness and a bunch of other disorders. In fact, I was discussing with a friend the other day about an article claiming that it actually causes a mild form of brain damage haha.

I do believe that it is spiritually damaging and that it makes it harder to trust subsequent partners irregardless of how the relationship ended and that it makes it more difficult to connect to them emotionally.

 

[Brotherfromanothermother]

Lol heck I'm 23, nearly at that average already, and I'm virginal compared to some people I know...

At nearly twice your age I'm at 2. Was married to both.