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Haha, well, it is usually conservatives who take jabs at victimhood.
Trust me -- I know -- I am a conservative.![]()
Haha, well, it is usually conservatives who take jabs at victimhood.
Here's my lefty disclaimer. I feel great sympathy for anyone who has suffered rape, bereavement, an attack on their family member, a transport-related accident, mugging, arson, racial/sexual discrimination or abuse, domestic abuse, &c. &c. &c. But I do not want the foreign secretary to be someone whose only qualification is that she lost her entire family in the London terrorist bombings. Because she might be a bit biased and inclined to see things in a somewhat black-and-white fashion, no?
I am not saying that victims should be ignored, but only that we shouldn't treat them as if everything they say about the thing that has caused them to become a victim is necessarily accurate, true, and insightful. The fact is that if you have been raped then in all likelihood you will overestimate the risk of rape, and you are likely to characterise rapists in a way which doesn't necessarily reflect reality in order to cope with your struggle. That's completely understandable but it doesn't make you right.
I think you are ever simplifying the reactions of victims. The fact is that most supporters of the death penalty for eg, have never encountered a murder of their family members or friends. And many people that have experienced a murder of a family member or friend still do not support the death penalty.
Stating that all rape victims will be paranoid and overestimate the risk of rape is not correct. Some will, others won't. However, there are many people who have never been raped or come close to it that will still be paranoid and overestimate the risk of rape.
I believe that victims can't be generalised as you suggest, and that their opinions and feelings are just as mixed and varied as the rest of non victims in society.
I think you are ever simplifying the reactions of victims. The fact is that most supporters of the death penalty for eg, have never encountered a murder of their family members or friends. And many people that have experienced a murder of a family member or friend still do not support the death penalty.
Stating that all rape victims will be paranoid and overestimate the risk of rape is not correct. Some will, others won't. However, there are many people who have never been raped or come close to it that will still be paranoid and overestimate the risk of rape.
I believe that victims can't be generalised as you suggest, and that their opinions and feelings are just as mixed and varied as the rest of non victims in society.