jojored --
Here's a website that you might want to check out. It will help you strengthen your arguments about some "eunuchs" really being gay.
http://www.well.com/~aquarius/
Did you know that in the Talmud, the rabbis spoke of two kinds of eunuchs? Man-eunuchs and sun-eunuchs.
Or that the way to tell if a person is a sun-eunuch is that he does not have muchbody hair -- not even much pubic hair (nothing is said about examining anything else in the pubic area) and his voice hasn't deepened as much as "real" men. (In other words a sun-eunuch is a twink.)
Some rabbis thought that a sun-eunuch could be "cured." So, although they are exempt from leverite marriage (marrying the widow of a brother or other close relative who died without children), they still have to go through the loosened shoe ceremony. Man-eunuchs are simply skipped over for the next relative.
Even Clement of Alexandria, the early Church Father who writings are the basis of nearly two thousand years of the Church's rabid anti-gay message recognized the difference between two kinds of "eunuch."
And male and female assistants at the toilet are employed about the ladies—some for the mirrors, some for the head-dresses, others for the combs. Many are eunuchs; and these panders serve without suspicion those that wish to be free to enjoy their pleasures, because of the belief that they are unable to indulge in lust. But a true eunuch is not one who is unable, but one who is unwilling, to indulge in pleasure.(Pedagogue 3.4.26)
He even thought that the "eunuch" who did not desire women was in some sense truer than one who could not have physical intercourse, but who might sully his mistress' chastity in other ways to satisfy his, and her lusts.
And Clement is not just inventing a hypothetically more perfect guard for the harem. The two types of "eunuch" are common knowledge.
Some men by birth have a nature to turn away from women, and those who are subject to this natural constitution do well not to marry. These, they say, are the eunuchs by birth.(Stromata 3.1.1)
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The "eunuchs" that served their kings, not as harem guards, but as viziers and other high officials were almost certainly not all castrati. Think of Potiphar (Genesis 37-39), and Ashpenaz (Daniel 1).
Ashpenaz, especially seems to have had an eye for the laddies. When the king ordered Ashpenaz to supervise the training of "youths in whom was no defect, who were good-looking, showing intelligence in every branch of wisdom," he chose four of the comeliest to take a
personal interest in. And Daniel, in particular, found "favor and compassion" in his sight. Ashpenaz was so smitten with Daniel and his friends that he allowed them even to defy Nebuchadnezzar in their refusal of the king's gifts.
Queen Candace's treasurer is another eunuch who probably was not "emasculated or ha[d] his male organ cut off, " (cf: Deut 23:1). He was returning from Jerusalem where he'd worshipped in the Temple.
Acts 8:26-38(New Living Translation) said:
As for Philip, an angel of the Lord said to him, "Go south down the desert road that runs from Jerusalem to Gaza." So he did, and he met the treasurer of Ethiopia, a eunuch of great authority under the queen of Ethiopia. The eunuch had gone to Jerusalem to worship, and he was now returning. Seated in his carriage, he was reading aloud from the book of the prophet Isaiah. The Holy Spirit said to Philip, "Go over and walk along beside the carriage." Philip ran over and heard the man reading from the prophet Isaiah; so he asked, "Do you understand what you are reading?" The man replied, "How can I, when there is no one to instruct me?" And he begged Philip to come up into the carriage and sit with him. The passage of Scripture he had been reading was this:
"He was led as a sheep to the slaughter.
And as a lamb is silent before the shearers,
he did not open his mouth. He was humiliated and received no justice.
Who can speak of his descendants?
For his life was taken from the earth.
The eunuch asked Philip, "Was Isaiah talking about himself or someone else?" So Philip began with this same Scripture and then used many others to tell him the Good News about Jesus. As they rode along, they came to some water, and the eunuch said, "Look! There's some water! Why can't I be baptized?" He ordered the carriage to stop, and they went down into the water, and Philip baptized him.
The section of Isaiah (chapter 53) is the story of the Suffering Servant. After the death of the Servant, The LORD will honor the sacrifice and prolong the days of the Servant's "offspring" (53:10) and will account many to righteousness. The offspring of the the servant include the barren woman, (54:1-8), the exile (54:11-14,56: 8), the destitute [poor widows and orphans] (55:1-3), the believing foreigner(56:1-3,6-7) and the eunuch (56:3-5).
Philip proclaims that this passage is a prophesy of the ministry and crucifixion of Jesus. He teaches the treasurer that the prophesy has now been fulfilled and that he can rely on the promise of an everlating legacy better than the children he has given up in chosing the lifestyle of a eunuch. As the treasurer comes to believe in the blessings that Philip says he can claim, he is emboldened to ask if there is anything hindering him from accepting baptism and claiming them now. Philip agreed to the immediate baptism.