urgent help needed

[Godsgurl4ever2006]

hey,
I have several on line friends and one of the people that i share my trouble with got depressed and did drugs and it is all my fault i should just keep my problems to myself from now on but she could have died and i would have never forgiven myself so any advice you can give i would be greatful for and prayers too

 

[Blynn]

Godsgurl,


There is no way that you are responsible for someone else's bad choice. The friend decided on her own to take drugs. This is not your fault! Trust me as someone who has dealt with many close friends and relatives that are either drug or alcohol addicted they may try to blame their choice to drink or do drugs on you, but it is ultimately their choice.


Please do not carry this burden or do this to yourself.


God bless
Roberta

 

[amie]

Hi Godsgurl!
You know how I feel sweets! the same! It is not your fault, and I want you to know that! You did nothing wrong! everyone is responsible for their own actions, nobody makes us do things. I am sure this friend must have already had some type of emotional problems that you may not know about, I am here for you. I love you kiddo! Take care and God Bless!
Amie

 

[forjesus]

In no way is it your fault, this friend needs help, and i pray she gets it. Keep your faith, and remain strong, you can help your friend by praying for them, and showing them that God loves them, and is waiting with open arms to forgive them. God Bless

 

[allieisme]

There is no way you should trouble yourself like the way you are doing, YOUR friend made those choices, not you, there fore you should not hold yourself accountable...I will continue to pray for you though..Im sorry that your feeling this way GodsGirl!.. Makes me sad to think that your huting so much..

 

[Kristen]

I agree, it's NOT your fault! I will pray for you and your friend.

 

[Faith0263]

Definately NOT your fault...I agree with these that have posted. The choice was theirs...and I will pray for you, them and the entire situation!

 

[Godsgurl4ever2006]

but had i just kept my problems to myself like i am going to do from now on she would have never done that

 

[Mandy]

I disagree! We all have the sole responsibility of how we deal with things and what we choose.
You are not responsible for her actions at all. It is good for us to share our problems, after all we are told in the Bible to bear one anothers' burdens.
Please do not blame yourself!

 

[Shane Roach]

Originally posted by Godsgurl4ever2006
but had i just kept my problems to myself like i am going to do from now on she would have never done that

There's no reason for you to never have a friend you share your porblems with. It is, however, one of those unfortunate facts of life that all our friends are human, and make mistakes from time to time.

I think you made a good choice though in looking here for some place to share your troubles. Hopefully you will find friends both on and offline to help you through this, and also perhaps you get your feet back under you so you can be tehre for your friend who started up on drugs. Don't take responsability for her. You can't help her if you load yourself up wiuth responsabilities you cannot fulfill. Rather, instead of taking false responsability for your friends own behavior, simply support your friend emotionally and encourage your friend to get help, keep seeeking help, and get off drugs.

First nad foremost, though, you need a healthy attitude, and taking responsability for other people's actions is unhealthy. It can even lead to "co-dependence", which is a whole other issue. Take responsability only for yourself.

You can't control others, nor are you called to do so.

Please take care of yourself.

 

[Godsgurl4ever2006]

i still feel like it is my fault and i can't forgive myself and have stopped eating i havn't ate scence supper monday night and don't plan on eating anything tommarrow i feel so bad she could have died and it would have been all my fault

 

[amie]

Ok kiddo,
you must eat...what you are describing sounds like psychological transference, and you must try to see the situation in a different light, from a third party perspective. I know that you are trying to feel the pain that you believe you have caused someone else, but Godsgurl, you have caused no one else harm or injury! we are all responsible for our own actions here, and this person obviously has some issues going on in their life, and you clearly have nothing to do with these honey...really, baby I would be brutally honest with you. I am going to help you through this, you are NOT alone. I am walking beside you through your pain, but it is not your fault. I know you can hear that a hundred times and still not believe it. I am praying with everything I have in my heart for you. I am here EAT!
Love and blessings to you
Amie

 

[Godsgurl4ever2006]

thanks amie but i can never forgive myself for what i did

 

[Mandy]

You did nothing wrong at all!! You have to believe that. We wouldn't lie to you.
I will continue to pray for you.
Please eat!

 

[Godsgurl4ever2006]

thanks

 

[amie]

There is nothing you need forgiveness for in regarding this situation! I am telling you how it is, and you must EAT! you will get ill and weak without proper nourishments and we'll all be worried about you! Spend some time in prayer, you may feel refreshed and renewed in spirit! Once again, you really have done no wrong, I know you are beating yourself up over this, and it is going to be even harder for you, I am praying for and with you! EAT!!!!!!!!!!!!
love and blessings to you
Amie

 

[Godsgurl4ever2006]

thanks..like i said i ain't going to starve myself to death or nothing my parents will probably force me to eat supper but i don't eat breakfast or lunch

 

[amie]

Come on over Godsgurl...we'll order a great BIG yummy pizza! Don't tell me like ice cream you don't like pizza??? I love ya kiddo! Take care and we are praying for you!
Amie

 

[Godsgurl4ever2006]

i like pizza but i don't like to eat anymore

 

[Rob]

I am praying for you too Godsgurl. Something I always do when I have a hard time forgiving someone is to pray for that person.

You are having a hard time forgiving yourself.

Say a prayer asking for the strength to forgive yourself.

I agree with the other posters who say you didnt do anything wrong.You didnt. Holding things in is just about the worse thing you can do. They build up and eventually will find a way to get out. Like not eating.

God loves you and is crying for you to embrace His forgiveness. May you be blessed