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* kittie * said:Okay, from what I read, I feel as some people see this rep. system as a...popularity thing. Like for instance, if you have a lot of points, you're obviously some wise creature.
So my question is...Is that why people are upset? Are you (no one in particular) upset that some have 3000 because of a drive-by, while you have 400 from being "wise"? hmmm...Just wondering. I think each of us are arguing from a different viewpoint. Some see the rep. system as fun (and as something to encourage others), while others see it as something serious.
Because you can't argue when you can't see the other side....
As for me, I give them out as encouragement because I never go into the debate forums (meaning I wouldn't give them out for "wise" posts). The rep. system is for everyone. If someone feels down one day, or they're new...I'll give them points.
I don't know where the blessings come from unless someone posts that they blessed me. When you increase someone's rep you get to send a little love note with it and not have everyone read it because it's not in a post.LynneClomina said:cant blessings be for the fun stuff?? i mean, they are the GREATEST when it comes to encouraging ppl when they are down... especially newbies... and theyre useful! whereas the reps are REPUTATION, which should indicate your reputation, not how often you've been encouraged....
mesue said:I don't know where the blessings come from unless someone posts that they blessed me. When you increase someone's rep you get to send a little love note with it and not have everyone read it because it's not in a post.
for me, PMing is hard to do. I mean...not that it takes time. But many times, I have no idea what to say. And sometimes, it's possible for me to say the wrong thing, so it's best that I don't say anything at all. Or other times, the person doesn't want a PM. For instance, maybe they're just clearing their thoughts in their journal. So...I give them points just to know I'm there. Or that I'm listening (err...reading).LynneClomina said:my suggestions: make the little note in their guest book? tell them your are blessing them, or dont tell, what ever ya want... or PM them. that's easy to do.
JMRE5150 said:EDIT: Oh, I would like to add...that I have repped you before Polycarp1...a few weeks back. I think I have done it twice to be exact, but I may be wrong. I didn't do it because you had some kind of great response to a thread. I did it because I had reps to burn, I like you, and your name was on the page as I started repping folks. My point is, not all your 444 rep points are because of the reason that is suggested in the faq Erwin wrote, so unfortunately we all have rep points from 'other than expected' reasons. Sometimes I give them out for fun, like a few from me that you have. Enjoy them, my friend!
See? Here is what I mean by my post...* kittie * said:Okay, this perfectly describes why I give them out.
Because I like the person.
Sometimes there's no reason; I just feel like it.
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