unlovable...

[Stabat Mater dolorosa]

Are some people unlovable ?

 

[PropheticTimes]

Are some people unlovable ?

Unlovable? No. Difficult to love? Yes.

 

[Galatea]

No, God loves everyone. Even people who hate and revile Him. This is the amazing love that passes understanding.

Herein is love: that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.

Christ loved the Apostle Paul, even though he was killing Christians.

There is no such thing as an unloveable person.

 

[Stabat Mater dolorosa]

I feel I am sometimes, but not in God's eyes, in the eyes of people.

Well I have a great deal of contempt against myself which I guess plays in too...

 

[Galatea]

I feel I am sometimes, but not in God's eyes, in the eyes of people.

Well I have a great deal of contempt against myself which I guess plays in too...

Lol, I feel that way, too about myself. I have a genius for pushing people away, the ones I love and alienate them.

But, God always loves. This is a great comfort to me and I hope it is to you as well.

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

Are some people unlovable ?

I feel that way.

 

[Petros2015]

You can love anyone. But they may experience it as pain if they are very insecure and broken. They may mistrust it if they have had trust broken before. They may respond with fear or ego or even anger. If you think of love as a flowing thing that nurtures and returns, they may not be nurtured, they may not return it. They may not believe it. They may try to take advantage of it. They may disdain it. They may be afraid that they are under obligation to return it and that it comes with expectations. They may cling to it like a life preserver and want more and more. You can still love them, but it will be a sacrificial love and it may not do any good. Sometimes it may though, sometimes they might open up. Every person was made to be loved by (and is loved by) God. Many are unlovable by human standards with human 'love'. And some will return evil, even for Divine Love.

Is such a person unlovable? No. But in those cases, it can only be done from a safe distance. Maybe sometimes, an astronomical one.

I find it difficult to allow people to love me more than I love myself. If I, who know 'the real me', can not accept myself, than I can not accept love from others. Accepting God's love for me is a big first and necessary step.

 

[Tomm]

I feel I am sometimes, but not in God's eyes, in the eyes of people.

Well I have a great deal of contempt against myself which I guess plays in too...

You shouldn't think that way.
I used to think like that, but such thinking has gone.... saying the Rosary have helped me a lot.

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

I feel I am sometimes, but not in God's eyes, in the eyes of people.

Well I have a great deal of contempt against myself which I guess plays in too...

That's how I feel.

 

[Stabat Mater dolorosa]

You shouldn't think that way.
I used to think like that, but such thinking has gone.... saying the Rosary have helped me a lot.

I know Mary loves her children and that includes me, but praying the rosary hasn't helped my secular relations.

I do pray the rosario daily, but for the sake of fellowship with Mary not as a medicine for social loneliness and awkwardness.

 

[Stabat Mater dolorosa]

I'm sad to see that I'm not alone having these feelings though.

 

[Galatea]

You can love anyone. But they may experience it as pain if they are very insecure and broken. They may mistrust it if they have had trust broken before. They may respond with fear or ego or even anger. If you think of love as a flowing thing that nurtures and returns, they may not be nurtured, they may not return it. They may not believe it. They may try to take advantage of it. They may disdain it. They may be afraid that they are under obligation to return it and that it comes with expectations. They may cling to it like a life preserver and want more and more. You can still love them, but it will be a sacrificial love and it may not do any good. Sometimes it may though, sometimes they might open up. Every person was made to be loved by (and is loved by) God. Many are unlovable by human standards with human 'love'. And some will return evil, even for Divine Love.

Is such a person unlovable? No. But in those cases, it can only be done from a safe distance. Maybe sometimes, an astronomical one.

I find it difficult to allow people to love me more than I love myself. If I, who know 'the real me', can not accept myself, than I can not accept love from others. Accepting God's love for me is a big first and necessary step.

I respectfully disagree with your perspective. If the recipient of the love does not experience the love given in the way it is meant- there is a problem with the giver. The person giving the love is doing a poor job and not loving aright.

Love can not be done from a distance, astronomical or otherwise. Love is intimate- entwining and close.

I am talking about human love, not God's.

 

[Nous Sommes]

i think human love is wanting our own way without stating what we need or want. Like mind reading, it always misses the mark! Feeling unlovable is due to lack of good communication toward ourself and others. No one is unlovable because from that point of view if you need or want some kind of love from someone you asked them for and for some reason they cannot or will not provide it, or vice Versa it just means one party lacks the kind of love you want at that time.