I have been married for a little over 2 years. My husband and I have a 1 year old son and my husband has a 15 year old son and an 18 year old daughter from a previous marriage. Last summer, my husband's 15 year old son came to live with us due to numerous discipline problems at home and at school. My husband felt that it was "his turn" to take his son, raise and re-direct this negative behavior. I was uneasy about the situation because at the time was about to give birth to my son. Well, he came to live with us and we found a whole new "sense of normalcy". However, when the school year started his son began receiving several discipline referrals which eventually led to him being expelled for the remaining of the school year. At home, he is very manipulative, sarcastic, shows a lack of respect for me (as the outsider), and does not follow directions or listens well. He can be very disrespectful at times. Throughout the school year, my husband has talked and counseled with him about the importance of him doing well in school and being respectful to adults. However, he still continues to have a chip on his shoulder. When school was released, he went to visit with his mother for the summer. While he was gone, my husband and I found out that he had been going through my personal belongings and taking things out of our bedroom while he was in the house alone during the school year. Needless to say, I became VERY upset and angry over the fact that he went through my personal belongings and stole. My husband and I discussed the importance of us sitting him down when he returned and discussing the seriousness of my stepson's actions. Then, a month after my stepson left, we received a phone call from his mother stating that she has kicked him out after a heated arguement with his sister which turned into a physical altercation between he and his mother. As a result, his mother sent him back to us. After I found this out, I was upset and angry about what he did to his mother AND what he did to me. I feel violated. He is back now and my husband has been disciplining him and has talked to him, but without me. My husband and I has even gotten into an arguement because he feels as if I should let things go and be a parent to his son. I am so tired of the abuse of his son that I took over the past year. I have supported my husband with the decision to have his son live with us and everything that it entailed even when I felt as if I was receiving the short end of the stick. I have no tolerance for anyone who steals and rummage through my belongings. Now, my husband and I are not seeing eye to eye and his son is walking around my home as if he has an attitude and I did something to him. I don't know if I can take another year of this!!!! Please help!!!!
