Unhappy with my height

[pelican]

I have come here in hopes to receive guidance to overcome a major obstacle in my life before it eats away at me. Here it is:::

I'm a guy who just turned 21. As general knowledge tells us, 21 years old is the age that males reach their maximum height and is stuck with that height for the rest of their lives. And as you all should have figured out by now, I am short. I mean short! Below average short... I'm 5'5 (165cm for those brought up with the metric system). Also, just a bit more info on the side, I'm Chinese and was raised in a Western country.

Throughout my childhood and teenage years I've never been too insecure about my height. I was confident in who I was because I was at a good social status at school (I didn't get picked on, had many good friends etc) and had relationships. The thought that kept me confident and emotionally afloat was the fact that I still had many years to grow tall before I am 21. However, now that i AM 21 and standing only at 5'5 tall, I feel very insecure about myself. This is mostly due to the fact that I have to face reality that i will only be 5'5 for the rest of my life.

Nowadays, as 21 year old adult, I have lost my confidence as a person. I always find myself comparing my height with everyone who walks past me on the street. I can't help but feel jealous and inferior to those who are taller than me. Also, when I talk to people who are taller than me, I always feel that my short stature will be my first impression on them. All day long when i interact with people, I am constantly noticing people's height in comparison to me.

I want to get rid of this negative thinking process and stop being so self-conscious about my height. What are ways to get rid of this habit of mine? I don't want to live the reset of my life being depressed over my height. I hope you guys can help me. Prayers and advice welcome. thanks a lot.

 

[Xenocide]

Why do you feel insecure about it? Do you feel there are things you can't have or doors that are closed because of your height?

 

[NiobiumTragedy]

We all have things about ourselves we don't like and can't change. You just need to come to terms with your situation, learn to accept it, and embrace it. It's part of who you are and if you show others your confidence in that, it will not be an issue.

 

[TheOliveSeed]

There's nothing wrong with your height. I think you should stop comparing yourself to others.

 

[Luther073082]

There are things you can control in this world and things you can't. It does little good to concern yourself with the things you can't control such as your height.

 

[tcwoods91]

That's Satan trying to get at you! Your height in no way diminishes who you are. God made you to be 5' 5". That means something! God has a big plan for your life! He has made each and every one of us differently, because He has a purpose that you are to fill. We are members of the body of Christ. Each of us is different, but it does not diminish the importance of any member.

In my life one side of my body is noticeably bigger than the other. This doesn't lessen my importance in God's kingdom. Step forward boldly my brother! If you have accepted Jesus, He is living inside of you and nothing can stand against the power of Jesus Christ! Seek God in all things and the confidence will begin to build! I know because He did it in my life. (I was voted most shy in my senior class of highschool, two years later I have confidence and boldness in Christ!)

Your brother in Christ!

Trevor

 

[Annie Mouse]

There are some things in life we can dramatically change, other things that we can somewhat change, and yet other things that we cannot change at all, even if we'd really like to.
As most people know, height falls under the last of those categories. There's nothing we can do about how tall we are, other than to accept it and try to make the most of it.

I'm kind of at the other end of the spectrum. I'm a female and I'm nearly 5'9", which is taller than I ever cared to be. I was never truly comfortable being so tall, especially when I was a teen. I did not think I had the personality to go along with it, as I'm sort of the "shy bookworm" type. I would have been much more comfortable being a few inches shorter.

I've sort of wondered about it at times, because as far as I know, I'm the tallest female on both sides of my family. The other women in my family were of average height, for the most part. My half-sister is 5'5", for example.

However, I figured God had some sort of purpose in putting so much height on me.
I view it as one of those things in life that was hard for me personally, but as an opportunity to make "lemonade out of lemons."
There are a few advantages to being a tall girl, or a short guy, though sometimes it can take a bit of thought to try to think of positive aspects of it.
In my case, for example, being taller than I wante to be has contributed to me being more driven in certain areas of life than I might have been.
I try harder to be thin, to walk in purity, and to obtain university degrees than perhaps I would've if I had not been so tall. At least that's my guess.

 

[Gista]

I want to get rid of this negative thinking process and stop being so self-conscious about my height. What are ways to get rid of this habit of mine? I don't want to live the reset of my life being depressed over my height. I hope you guys can help me. Prayers and advice welcome. thanks a lot.

There are so many important factors than height. It says in the Bible about what good will worrying do, it won't add a cubit to your stature (paraphrasing).

Find other stuff to be good at. Life weights, sculpt your body. I know someone who is 5'2 and i admit sometimes that i'm envious of his 3 % bodyfat.

 

[GGstar]

That's absolutely fine... it really doesn't matter how tall you are, most of my guy friends are the same height as me or smaller (5'6') and to me it really isn't important I see them as tall because of their personalities... it's not something you can change therefore it's what God decided for you.

 

[ImperialPhantom]

You're the same guy you were before, and your height worked for you before, so there's no reason it wouldn't now. Not to mention, like someone else suggested, hit the gym. It's WAY easier for a 5'5 guy to look big and ripped than it is for a guy who's 6'2" to do so. Not to mention, you'll live longer on average.

 

[notanordinarygirl]

My dad is 5'6", shrinking with age. He married a 4'11" woman (my mom) and seems pretty happy with himself.

I'm 5'2" and sometimes I wish I was shorter or taller, but hey, if it's any consolation, you're tall enough for me!

You're 21 now and still shaping who you are. Your height may stay the same, but I can almost guarantee you, you won't be as worried about it throughout your life. Give yourself time. Get to know yourself. There may come a time wheren you'll stop thinking of your height as an issue.

 

[wheymore]

Stop worrying about things you can't control and worry about things you CAN control.

I'm 5'6" and I have so much confidence that my girlfriend jokingly calls me arrogant because I consistently workout and it shows. You can control your body composition, so why not focus on something like that if you can't get your mind off your height?

 

[elenore]

Why don't you pray about it. God heals people, and occasionally does stuff like raise people from the dead and replace lost limbs. I'm sure he can give you a few inchs. With faith 'nothing is impossible for those who believe'.

 

[wheymore]

Why don't you pray about it. God heals people, and occasionally does stuff like raise people from the dead and replace lost limbs. I'm sure he can give you a few inchs. With faith 'nothing is impossible for those who believe'.

Yes, pray that God changes your genetic code that determines your height.

Did you just call short people an ailment to be healed?

 

[Publius]

I have come here in hopes to receive guidance to overcome a major obstacle in my life before it eats away at me. Here it is:::

I'm a guy who just turned 21. As general knowledge tells us, 21 years old is the age that males reach their maximum height and is stuck with that height for the rest of their lives. And as you all should have figured out by now, I am short. I mean short! Below average short... I'm 5'5 (165cm for those brought up with the metric system). Also, just a bit more info on the side, I'm Chinese and was raised in a Western country.

Throughout my childhood and teenage years I've never been too insecure about my height. I was confident in who I was because I was at a good social status at school (I didn't get picked on, had many good friends etc) and had relationships. The thought that kept me confident and emotionally afloat was the fact that I still had many years to grow tall before I am 21. However, now that i AM 21 and standing only at 5'5 tall, I feel very insecure about myself. This is mostly due to the fact that I have to face reality that i will only be 5'5 for the rest of my life.

Nowadays, as 21 year old adult, I have lost my confidence as a person. I always find myself comparing my height with everyone who walks past me on the street. I can't help but feel jealous and inferior to those who are taller than me. Also, when I talk to people who are taller than me, I always feel that my short stature will be my first impression on them. All day long when i interact with people, I am constantly noticing people's height in comparison to me.

I want to get rid of this negative thinking process and stop being so self-conscious about my height. What are ways to get rid of this habit of mine? I don't want to live the reset of my life being depressed over my height. I hope you guys can help me. Prayers and advice welcome. thanks a lot.

I'm 6'3" and you know what being tall gets me? "Mike, could you help me move this?", "Mike, can you lift this for me?", "Mike, can you open this?"

It's also gotten me brain damage from constantly hitting my head on ductwork and old doors.

Being tall is highly overrated. Trust me, you're not missing a thing.

 

[Sadiegrl]

i like what everyone had to say, also remember that the mind is the battlefield where Satan will always attack you. Stay focused on powerful thoughts that steer you towards God instead of away from Him and onto anything irrelevant.

-You can do all things through Christ (so being short isnt hindering you at all)
-God loves you unconditionally (no matter what society has to say)
-I will not fear for God is with me (dont worry about other people's thoughts)
-I am not easily offended (if someone does call you short)

thoughts of these nature align your mind with God's and the enemy will have nothing to torment you with. Resist him and he will flee. Tis true. So when negativity starts creeping in your mind, do something about it and say back a positive thought about who God says you are...because we should believe Him over society

 

[PhantomTorment]

Well no matter how much your height may bother you, you just need to regain that security in yourself that you once had. Being down about not being tall isn't going to make you any taller, and will just impede you and continue to make you more insecure.

 

[Standing_Ultraviolet]

On a lighter note, it could be worse. I'm slightly below 5'4. I would be pretty cool with 5'5

 

[Somber]

edit.

 

[explodingboy]