Unequally yoked?

[bobsmith873]

I'm 16 going in to my Junior year in HS. I've been dating my girlfriend who I'm crazy about for three months now. We both go to church and youth group and our pretty involved with the church in general. She's a Presbyterian and I'm non-denominational. We visit each other's youth groups all the time with no problem.

About a month ago we both went to Haiti (two different trips mine being the week before) with our youth groups. The day before I left we had a small argument about gay marriage. We are both against homosexuality but she said she we should at least all them to marry because it isn't hurting anyone. She would say "what if you loved someone a lot but couldn't marry them?". I knew she was wrong but didn't get in a debate with her because I feared it would ruin our last night together before we wouldn't see each other for 2 weeks.

So we both since have never brought up the topic until two nights ago. She had just got back from summer camp and I visited her at her house. We talked about our weeks then somehow we got on to the topic of gay marriage again. Just a week before this I had attended an apologetics conference and heard frank turrek speak on the topic so I was ready for this argument. My girlfriend became very angry that I wouldn't see things her way. I didn't do a lot of talking and just listened to her rant. She really wasn't making a lot of sense and I knew the answers to all her objections but whenever I tried to talk she would cut me off and I wasn't very pretty. I eventually just gave up and I left cas it was getting late. I'm feeling pretty confused right now because I really like this girl but I'm not sure if God doesn't want me in a relationship like this. Any feedback would be much appreciated. Thanks!

 

[ladybuelah]

Hey there,
Ok firstly take your age in to account, when your 16 your emotions are just that bit more powerful. I'm not judging you on your age at all but what I am saying is when your a few years older you will look back on this and see it as nothing more then a storm in a tea cup. The question isn't should or shouldn't you be with this girl, the question should be how is your relationship with God? It's okay to have different views to your girlfriend, your relationship can still work regardless of the differences, but if YOU feel that it is hurting your relationship with Christ, then you have to think carefully about what is the right thing to do. I'm not telling you to stay with her, I'm not telling you to break up with her. What I am telling you to do is think about what matters to you and how your relationship is doing with Jesus and go from there.

It may seem unrelated but believe me it is. Having different views isn't a problem unless it bothers you personally, think of what it says in the bible, if something is sin for you don't do it. Its down to your personal convictions, no one can tell you what to do. This one is between you and God.

 

[MacFall]

That's hardly an issue of equal yoke. Not even close, in fact. Live a few more years (or decades!) and things like that will look downright trivial.

On the topic of disagreement, though - why do you want to give the government the power to define marriage in the first place? The government is a corrupt, profane institution. It has no business getting involved in a sacred covenant between a man, a woman, and God. If others want to say they're married, fine; let them say it, and let God judge whether they are or not. A government with the power to define words is bad enough, but you're asking for a government with the power to control something that ought to be entirely the business of the church.

 

[iamauthentic]

That's hardly an issue of equal yoke. Not even close, in fact. Live a few more years (or decades!) and things like that will look downright trivial.

On the topic of disagreement, though - why do you want to give the government the power to define marriage in the first place? The government is a corrupt, profane institution. It has no business getting involved in a sacred covenant between a man, a woman, and God. If others want to say they're married, fine; let them say it, and let God judge whether they are or not. A government with the power to define words is bad enough, but you're asking for a government with the power to control something that ought to be entirely the business of the church.

we live in a nation with a seperation between Church and state. i dont know what to tell you. the church has no control over the affairs of the nation. all we can do is pray, which is more than enough. the government aleady controls the institution of marriage, thats why there are marriage liscenses. what you are saying is out of context to reality.

to my friend bobsmith. i am 19 right now. i started dating this girl sophomore year in highschool. she was methodist, i was non-denominational. we dated three years. looking back on it, i would not do it again if i had the choice. i always dated girls. i was never single i always had a girlfriend. yeah, the time i spent with my highschool sweetheart was fun but it got out of control and honestly, it wasnt worth it. my advice is to not date man. even if there is a girl you really really like, just be friends. my highschool sweetheart were in love and planned on getting married and all sorts of nonsense. take this time to develop your relationship with God. fall in love with Him. in my opinion i think it is only wise to start dating once you are ready to get married. if you are not ready for marriage what is the point of dating? the only benefit is kissing, right? you can have all the same conversations and experiences with a girl and not date. there are too many temptations involved once you're in a romantic relationship and its not worth it. my ex gf and i would pray before we hung out all the time and be 'good christians' but we ended up doing a lot of bad stuff cuz we let our emotions get in the way of God's purpose. GL man.

 

[MacFall]

the government aleady controls the institution of marriage, thats why there are marriage liscenses. what you are saying is out of context to reality.

People do bad things to each other all the time, therefore any moral proposition is "out of context to reality".