Unequally Yoked

[Kio]

I'm a non Christian and I was in a relationship with a Christian guy. We broke up 2 months ago due to the fact that I was not open enough to the religion. After that, i tried to know more about Christianity myself by attending church and reading books. Now, I'm really open towards it and I have faith in the Lord. Because I still love my ex boyfriend alot, sometimes I feel that maybe we can get back together if i accept Christ one day. However he's very firm on his decision. He keeps thinking that I have a hidden motive and I'm trying to know Christ now all because I want to reconcile with him. But as a matured and sensible individual, I know that I should only accept Christ if and only if I believe and I won't do it just because I want to get back together with my ex boyfriend. But he don't understand at all. Can somebody tell me what exactly is he thinking and worrying about right now?

He's really the nicest guy I've ever met and both of us are so right for each other. We only have this difference in religion. However I know that if my ex boyfriend isn't a Christian, probably I won't even like him in the 1st place, cause I felt it's God who had nurtured him into such a great guy he is now. I really wish to be with him but unfortunately, things had turned out this way. I don't know whether our paths will cross again one day and I don't know whether I'll accept Christ one day. But I'm really praying hard for it. I hope you can pray for me too.

 

[Yummi]

His reaction is quite normal, you started to be interested in christianity after the breaking up. He is a christian and cannot date a non christian girl, and he's right not to compromise. Maybe that he still loves you and is afraid to be leaded into a wrong way if influenced by his feeling, that's why he is so firm. He thinks he needs more than mere interest for christianity to be convinced of a real faith, because Christ urges us to produce genuine fruits to be trustworthy.

Anyway, as hard as it may be, don't expect any change from him. Instead, draw nigh to God and think about yourself.

Now, I'm really open towards it and I have faith in the Lord. Because I still love my ex boyfriend alot, sometimes I feel that maybe we can get back together if i accept Christ one day.

To accept Christ and to have faith in the Lord is the same thing. The belief you have now must bring you to repentance and full acceptance of Jesus as your Lord and Savior to be called faith, because faith supposes belief on God, plus knowledge, love and relationship with him, dependance, obedience, witnessing, good deeds and spreading of the gospel you received.

I encourage you in your desire to convert yourself into christianity, you're on the right way and will never regret it. If it is God's will that he will be yours, then sooner or later you will be together again and this time, with a blessed relationship. Make God your purpose and he will give you what you need.

"But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you." Matt 6.33

I pray for both of you

 

[Whitestone]

Most simplistic way, tell him the truth.

 

[Kio]

Most simplistic way, tell him the truth.

Actually I told him abt it but he's so firm that I can't convince him to give us a 2nd chance. I tink he keeps thinking I'm doin all these cos I wanna to save our relationship. I'm really losing hopes.. I feel so emotional drained n helpless..

 

[Sara986]

He has done the right thing in not wanting a relationship with somebody who isn't also committed to Jesus. He will probably need to see you grow in your faith and produce signs that you have truly accepted Christ before he considers a relationship with you. From what you have said, I'm a little uncertain whether you have actually accepted Christ yet or not, but it sounds like you are heading down that direction. But you can't expect him to take you back right away. Once you put your trust in Jesus then you don't have to even worry about it though, because He'll provide the perfect person for you! I guess you need to ask yourself if things do not work out with this guy, then will your faith in the Lord still hold up? I have learned that a relationship with Jesus is much better than a relationship with any guy ever! I'm totally serious. God has blessed me so much and given me more joy then I could ever even describe with words!!