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[Christian4U]

well lets see my girlfriend and i had an argument last night..it was about differences in goals and values..she actually has a plan for herself but me on the other hand don't have any goals cause i haven't decided what i want...our values are basically the same but there are still those differences...so the question have is what do i do about that? i mean i have started setting some goals like going to Masters and then going to college and then probably owning my own business but after that i don't know...so what do i do...i don't want to change myself....i want to be me around her...is she trying to change me or just making me see that i need to decide before i graduate...i mean she means alot to me and i don't want anything to change that...what advice would you give me?
Mark

 

[en|gma]

well lets see my girlfriend and i had an argument last night..it was about differences in goals and values..she actually has a plan for herself but me on the other hand don't have any goals cause i haven't decided what i want...our values are basically the same but there are still those differences...so the question have is what do i do about that? i mean i have started setting some goals like going to Masters and then going to college and then probably owning my own business but after that i don't know...so what do i do...i don't want to change myself....i want to be me around her...is she trying to change me or just making me see that i need to decide before i graduate...i mean she means alot to me and i don't want anything to change that...what advice would you give me?
Mark

Ummm indeed.

Both of you are still young and have so much possiblities in life. The best thing to do is communicate with her. Ask her...is she trying to change you or just making you aware that you need to have more direction? You can discuss instead of asking other people what they think. It is best to talk directly with the person concerned. Do not make assumptions...this often leads to misunderstanding.

And dont forget to tell her how much she means to you

 

[YouthPastor]

you are 16. It is fine to have a goal or a plan for your life. But that can change - you are 16 - I assume she is also about that age - things can change in the next couple years.

Of course - the plans need to include God!

 

[*Miau*]

Pray for guidance from God together. He will help you to find a way out of this.

Be true to yourself,a dn follow your heart and what God tells you to do.
Take care