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Twenty-somethings?

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So, it was my 20th birthday yesterday...and in my church there's support/mentoring groups from the older members to the younger members. I got switched from the "Young Adults" section to the Twenty-somethings group...and that just feels... weird.
This whole transition has felt incredibly weird, however, and I'm realizing it's because the last half of 18 till the first half of 19 sucked, and then the rest of 19 flew by. I'm now looking at summer jobs, summer school, and ending up a junior by next semester instead of a second semester sophomore. That's kind of weird too, now that I think about it... being that I transferred colleges...and having dropped out halfway through my second semester, I only brought with me one semester of transfer credits. Last semester, I was a second semester freshman, and now I'm a sophomore. If I take the classes I need, I could more than possibly be a junior next year.
I feel like every time I take a breath, my life goes faster.
Did anyone else feel this weirdness about transitioning into their 20's, or am I alone?
 

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It's going fast for me, but for all the wrong reasons. :|

I mean, there's a whole lot more I wish I could have accomplished in the almost 5 years since I finished High School, but life has done nothing but throw me fouls. It's enough to nearly drive you crazy.
 
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Ya it is kinda weird. I turn 21 this year and am facing college graduation and starting a career. plus a couple other big discissions. sometimes I still feel like a kid.. but I'm not. again it is kinda weird transition. a bit daunting to. but it's all good and in Gods hands
 
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I've always thought alot about this sort of thing.

What happens when we age? How will it feel?

I vaguely remember an essay I wrote for a college application, and it touched on the subject. The essay said something along the lines of:

"When I was in elementary school, I heard of all the rigors and responsibilities of middle school. Middle school was nothing. When I was in middle school I heard of all the rigors and responsibilities of high school. High school was nothing. Now that I am a senior in high school, I hear of all the rigors and responsibilities of college. It will be nothing."

Very cocky, which is probably why I wasn't accepted (mediocre SAT scores probably did me in), but my actual point, which I did not clearly spell out was that people can talk alot about future mental states, and dream about them etc., but the reality is the experience will most likely not be very much different from what you are experiencing now.

That is to say, I believe consciousness doesn't change very much from one point in time to another.

Already I am thinking in my head 'exceptions', like a child compared to an adult, and other extreme situations such as a combat zone... so lets just apply this idea to more mundane, every day life situations.

This sort of time-blind consciousness scares me; quite literally, I will wake up one day and be an old man, ready to die. And how I perceive my environment, assuming my senses are somewhat viable, will most likely be similar to what I am experiencing now, as I stare at my computer screen.

Absolute terror.

I could be wrong though.

And indeed, time seems to go faster.

Lately I've gained an appreciation of mortality, to the best a 23 year old civilian who has lived a relatively mundane life can gain. Or more specifically, a new perspective on time. One year is a dazzlingly short amount of time. A mere 365 days. Already this one is almost over. In a few hours I will sleep and 'time travel' to the future. Bam. 364 days left until a 'year'.

I suppose this isn't so much a new perspective on time than it is a new perspective on the words and concepts we associate with specific 'chunks' of time: a year is no longer as long as I thought it was, a lifetime incredibly short.

Absolutely, existentialy fascinating.
 
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Oh yeah, it goes real fast. And it only goes faster! :) Enjoy every day.

That's right. I remember 20 like I remember yesterday, and now I'm 25, which means I'm staring 30 in the face. Time just keeps going faster and faster and faster. You don't feel the time go by, but when you look back and think about it you can see how you've grown & changed, and everything you've been through.
 
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I turn 20 in two months and I am not looking forward to it!
I think because there's on longer the "teen" at the end of your age, it pushes us forward to "grow up" and while at 18 we're legally adults (well in Australia, anyway) I don't think we really consider ourselves "grown-ups" still we're 20.

It's scary because most of my class who I graduated with are either married/engaged/moved out of home with their partners/and or have had babies!
I'm definently not ready for that stuff yet! I am in a great relationship but we both feel we want to get to know each other even better while we're still young and grow spiritually before we get engaged. Is anyone else in a similar situation? Where you feeling that maybe you're behind everyone else when you shouldn't be?!
Crazy, right?
 
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i didn't feel weird when i turned 20. i've always felt more mature than my age, so it felt right to be 20. like, finally, people won't think of me as an immature teenager. plus, most of my friends are in their mid 20s, so it really wasn't that weird for me at all. my fiance is 24, my sister is 24, my fiance's sister who i'm friends with is 29 and her husband is 26, a friend of mine is 25. but i can see how it might be weird for someone else, depending on where you are in your life... it can be a huge turning point in your life.. you'll never get to be a teenager again, which is somewhat depressing, but you get over it. the older you get the more respect you get from others. i'll be 21 this year, which, ya, the number itself is kind of weird to think, i'm the big "2 1"...lol... but i feel mature enough to be older than 21 so it doesn't really bother me. after a while you'll get used to it. i remember when i first turned 20 i would sometimes forget and think i was still 19 then i would remember i was actually 20. and they say you don't forget how old you are until you're OLD, lol...
 
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