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[lovesdolphins]

I have sugar-free cranberry mix to mix w/ water....will that do?

probably not - you need the acidity of the actual cranberry juice.

Personally - I only drink it when I feel like I'm getting an infection.

 

[LovesEnduringPromise]

ALright thanks

 

[LovesEnduringPromise]

Is there any good news updates on any with conception?

 

[chillybean]

how'd it go lovesdolphins?

 

[lovesdolphins]

I'm not pregnant.

 

[LittleFoot]

aww man I'm sorry =(

 

[livin4christ9203]

I had a negative test today too! It may be too early to test though.. I don't feel hopeful now.. but I'm gonna test again on Sunday and if it's negative I start my meds.

 

[livin4christ9203]

I'm not pregnant.

I'm sorry, kinda know what your feeling at the moment!

 

[felinity]

I tested negative today, too, eighteen days past alleged ovulation.

 

[LovesEnduringPromise]

Wow. I am so sorry for all you guys that have had neg. tests. Know that I am praying for you! Prayer is powerful, and I know you can get frustrated with no answers, and it seems like you have been waiting forever for results. But God has his plans, we just have to wait for his time, not ours. I know it must be hard. But Im being optimistic here, and I want you guys to be too. Just fight the temptation to give up and stop praying or anything you feel, just be positive. Try and try everyday you can, but while doing this dont wear yourself down. I know it can be a stressful time for you and your husbands. Relax, usually when women relax and stop thinking about getting pregnant they usually end up pregnant. Just enjoy you and your husbands time together, and pray together, enjoy each other and when your 'making love' dont let it become a time for baby making....let it always be about love and hopefully God will produce something good out of that overflow of love. God bless. Yes, I feel like being cheery today ;-)

 

[annaapple]

I'm not pregnant.

I had a negative test today too! It may be too early to test though.. I don't feel hopeful now.. but I'm gonna test again on Sunday and if it's negative I start my meds.

I tested negative today, too, eighteen days past alleged ovulation.

I am so so sorry. I pray that church tomorrow will be a place you can find sanctuary, rather than a place where you are confronted by your grief (esp you, lovesdolphins - I know how many pregnant women are at your church).

May God bless you and keep you all.

 

[lovesdolphins]

We were invited to go out to dinner with 2 other couples tonight, and both wives are pregnant, I just couldn't do it.

I cried to my mom last night, it was nice to have someone to talk to in all of this.

I'm pretty sure that I was pregnant, and that I'm dealing with a miscarriage, mainly b/c of all the symptoms I was dealing with, and the lateness of my period, which is never that late.

 

[felinity]

I'm so sorry, dear. Even in my own disappointment, I can only imagine what you're going through.

 

[annaapple]

We were invited to go out to dinner with 2 other couples tonight, and both wives are pregnant, I just couldn't do it.

I cried to my mom last night, it was nice to have someone to talk to in all of this.

I'm pretty sure that I was pregnant, and that I'm dealing with a miscarriage, mainly b/c of all the symptoms I was dealing with, and the lateness of my period, which is never that late.

Maybe this is a really dumb question, but to you, does it make it 'better' or worse that you probably actually conceived? I mean, would you rather not have conceived at all, or are you a tiny bit more hopeful now that at least you can? Or are you feelings so mixed up you can't actually separate them? More hugs and prayers for you, anyway.

On another note, at church today the sermon was about prayer, and it got me thinking. I'm praying to have a baby (as I'm sure you all are too!) and yet God seems to be saying 'no' or 'not yet' - otherwise why are we in this forum?! So then I was like, why might God be saying no or wait to me? And what can I do to change the situation?

In my case, I think it is the move. He never sends us more than we can handle (in our lives, with our health, in the available time, with our emotions etc) and I have said to a few people who ask how it is going, "Fine, but there's no elasticity. If anything goes wrong, it will be more than I can handle." Now, I'm not saying a baby is wrong, but I have always been bone-shattering exhausted in the first 3 months - def. too tired to look after 2 little children, pack, sell the house, move etc...

Any ideas what it could be for any of you?

 

[LittleFoot]

sorry girls for all your negatives =(

No annaapple i have no idea why God isn't allowing us to be pregnant. I have to admit it has made me angry and bitter. Plus I can't sit in church with out crying the whole time.

 

[Assisi]

We were invited to go out to dinner with 2 other couples tonight, and both wives are pregnant, I just couldn't do it.

I cried to my mom last night, it was nice to have someone to talk to in all of this.

I'm pretty sure that I was pregnant, and that I'm dealing with a miscarriage, mainly b/c of all the symptoms I was dealing with, and the lateness of my period, which is never that late.

praying for you!

 

[Assisi]

On another note, at church today the sermon was about prayer, and it got me thinking. I'm praying to have a baby (as I'm sure you all are too!) and yet God seems to be saying 'no' or 'not yet' - otherwise why are we in this forum?! So then I was like, why might God be saying no or wait to me? And what can I do to change the situation?

In my case, I think it is the move. He never sends us more than we can handle (in our lives, with our health, in the available time, with our emotions etc) and I have said to a few people who ask how it is going, "Fine, but there's no elasticity. If anything goes wrong, it will be more than I can handle." Now, I'm not saying a baby is wrong, but I have always been bone-shattering exhausted in the first 3 months - def. too tired to look after 2 little children, pack, sell the house, move etc...

Any ideas what it could be for any of you?

Our readings and sermon this week were about prayer as well. Our Gospel reading was seek and you will find, ask and it will be given you, knock and the door will be opened unto you. The sermon was about praying with confidence. For me it was very significant, because until recently I have not been praying for a baby...

I think for us it feels like it's taking longer than it actually is. I think that the Lord is asking me to trust in Him more...but that that isn't the reason why we're not pregnant. I think we're not pregnant because my health has been quite bad.

 

[livin4christ9203]

Yeah, I agree with that. For the first 4 years, we were trying.. but as I look back.. i can see all the ways He was showing us we were not ready. Just recently I felt that He wanted us to seek help with it. And I believe that God did create those people who are doctors and gave them the knowledge to be able to solve these problems. So, we have been praying for it, and I feel now that we are better prepared, having a house of our own, my DH has a really good job and we know that we are able to provide for a baby now.

 

[lovesdolphins]

Maybe this is a really dumb question, but to you, does it make it 'better' or worse that you probably actually conceived? I mean, would you rather not have conceived at all, or are you a tiny bit more hopeful now that at least you can? Or are you feelings so mixed up you can't actually separate them? More hugs and prayers for you, anyway.

I can't really seperate them at this time. Hubby and I were talking on our way to church last night about the soul of the baby, and if there really was a soul there, since I was pregnant for such a short amount of time. We believe that life begins at conception, so there would be a soul there, but it's just weird to think about, and why God wouldn't allow this baby into the world.

Since this is the first time I actually got pregnant, it's a catch-22. I figured that I was one that would get pregnant, and remain that way, I thought I wouldn't have to deal with miscarriages. I pray that if I do, that this is the only one that I ever have to go thru.

We went to a bible study on Friday night and the discussion was about endurance, and one of the guys talked about his wife's pregnancy, and enduring thru it. It wasn't easy for me to sit thru.

 

[jenrenee]

Just got back on today - I'm so sorry to hear about all the negatives! I will be praying for all of you - I know how tough it is. Lovesdolphins - If you indeed had a m/c, I've been there too. Mine were also that early. I didn't even find out I was pregnant until after I had lost it. It is so heartbreaking! Hugs to you!!