TTC vs Not wanting to

[romans324]

This seems like an area I can place this question in. My DW really wants a 3rd child, so do I but yet at the same want to be able to afford a child. Considering our other 2 are 6 and 4 yrs old. How do you really confrount the problem of one partner wanting and the other not really knowing?

 

[Green Orchid]

Praying and seeking the Word of God is probably the best way to go. God will tell you what His will is.

As for my opinion, if you both want a 3rd child and money is the only reason you wouldn't have a 3rd, I think you should go ahead. I believe God always provides for His children.

 

[PegasusOnFire]

Praying and seeking the Word of God is probably the best way to go. God will tell you what His will is.

As for my opinion, if you both want a 3rd child and money is the only reason you wouldn't have a 3rd, I think you should go ahead. I believe God always provides for His children.

What she said ^^^

 

[ChrisWin1]

I believe God always provides for His children.

Not all of them

Wouldn't donating money save many lives while that same amount of money could go to one child from the womb.

Many or One?

 

[HeyHomie]

NO child should be born into the world unless both of his/her parents are 100%, uniquivocally for it. If there is any doubt on the part of either parent, don't do it.

 

[Flipper]

NO child should be born into the world unless both of his/her parents are 100%, uniquivocally for it. If there is any doubt on the part of either parent, don't do it.

I have to agree with that.

A lot of people seem to think that once the baby is on the way, or once you see the baby, then you all of a sudden want it more than anything. Many times that's the case, a lot of times, it isn't. It's just setting yourself up for all kinds of trouble.

I know one couple where he didn't want kids right away after they got married, but she did. She just stopped taking her pills. He still resents her for it. More than that, the child they had, had severe special needs and died when he was 6. I'm go glad I got to know Timmy while he was with us, but I have to think. Was that really healthy for their marriage?

My husband and I didn't want children in the beginning, and I thought I was ready before he thought he was - so there was a time where I wanted children and he wanted to wait a bit longer. Just waiting for him to be ready is worth the heartache it could have been otherwise if we had one and he wasn't ready. Children are very, very important, but your spouse is even more so.

 

[lin1235]

I have to agree with that.

A lot of people seem to think that once the baby is on the way, or once you see the baby, then you all of a sudden want it more than anything. Many times that's the case, a lot of times, it isn't. It's just setting yourself up for all kinds of trouble.

I know one couple where he didn't want kids right away after they got married, but she did. She just stopped taking her pills. He still resents her for it. More than that, the child they had, had severe special needs and died when he was 6. I'm go glad I got to know Timmy while he was with us, but I have to think. Was that really healthy for their marriage?

My husband and I didn't want children in the beginning, and I thought I was ready before he thought he was - so there was a time where I wanted children and he wanted to wait a bit longer. Just waiting for him to be ready is worth the heartache it could have been otherwise if we had one and he wasn't ready. Children are very, very important, but your spouse is even more so.

I agree with this. My husband and I may well end up in the same position as the OP - he wants 2 kids, I may want 3 depending on my age etc. at that time. But I don't think it's a good idea to have a child unless both parents are sure. It's too easy for something like that to become a rift between the spouses...

But overall, pray pray and pray some more, and I am sure God will show you both what His will is.