Trying To Conceive

[Surviving]

Me & my husband have been trying to conceive for 3 years now and with no luck. I went to see my GP back in August and she referred me to the hospital to have checks. It's really weird the way things are done here in England (or maybe in my county) but I had to ring to make an appointment and see which consultant I wanted.

The problem that I have had is that I have dreaded seeing anyone because it triggers past memories off for me. It has taken me a while to be able to get to the stage of seeing my GP let alone a consultant - and I need a female one as well.

I booked a couple of months ago an appointment for this week. It took me ages to get hold of a female consultant. I rang and checked this week to see what the consultation would be about and to make sure that no examinations were done as I wasn't ready for this yet.

Well, I saw the consultant yesterday (with my husband) and she was so nice it was unbelievable. I did end up having an examination which I wasn't prepared for and it did trigger off memories for me. I was so glad that my husband was there as I don't know how I would have coped without him.

There is good news in that there is nothing wrong with me internally from what she could tell and that my blood tests came back good, so I am ovulating. She is now refering me to another consultant to do a laparoscopy. I'm quite nervous about this as it will have to be a male consultant. There are no female consultants around apart from the one that I saw (and I had to try 4 hospitals to get her).

Please can people pray for me for a number of things:

• That my past will not effect the way that I feel about getting pregnant.
• That I will feel a sense of peace when I see the consultants
• That I fall pregnant

Thank you for reading. Any thoughts on this are most greatly welcomed, especially from people in a similar situation to me.

 

[JayJay77]

Hang in there! Me and my wife ended up trying for 2 years with no success before going to a pregnancy specialist. It took another 2 more years before we finally concieved. Now, my son is 8 mo. old, and we're expecting another in April!!!

God is awesome. Don't lose faith! God can do all things!

 

[swee]

May the Lord bless you.

 

[Surviving]

Just to give an update on how I am getting on. Well, there have been a few blood tests that have taken place, and I have an x-ray that needs doing in a couple of weeks. The big thing for me though is the laparoscopy, which is going to take place on 31st January. Please will people keep praying for me?

 

[swee]

Of course.. My problem is not conceiving but staying pregnant. I wonder whether God is trying to tell me something....

Happy Christmas! God's blessings! May you go forth and multipliy!

 

[Sign Of The Fish Burger]

I had a laparascopy done 2 months ago along with a chromotubation (I think thats how u spell it) anyway it was a piece of cake. Seriously... I was expecting the worse and it was really nothing bad. I was out of the hospital by the end of the day. I was a little sore in the tummy area the first few days and I slept a lot but honestly, it was nothing.

You'll be fine.

 

[Surviving]

Of course.. My problem is not conceiving but staying pregnant. I wonder whether God is trying to tell me something....

Happy Christmas! God's blessings! May you go forth and multipliy!

I'm sorry to hear that you are not able to stay pregnant. I can't even think how that must feel. I hope you are ok?

 

[Surviving]

I had a laparascopy done 2 months ago along with a chromotubation (I think thats how u spell it) anyway it was a piece of cake. Seriously... I was expecting the worse and it was really nothing bad. I was out of the hospital by the end of the day. I was a little sore in the tummy area the first few days and I slept a lot but honestly, it was nothing.

You'll be fine.

Thank you so much for the reasurance...it makes me feel a little bit better...still worried though.

 

[StrawberryShortcake2]

(((hugs))) I'll be praying for you and your husband.

 

[Surviving]

(((hugs))) I'll be praying for you and your husband.

Thank you very much.

 

[swee]

I'm sorry to hear that you are not able to stay pregnant. I can't even think how that must feel. I hope you are ok?

Heya

Aw thanks.

It's how it is *sigh* I think if I ever have a successful pregnancy I will be Miss High Anxiety for the entire gestation. Maybe I'm not meant to have kids but if so THAT SUCKS AND I WANT TO KNOW WHY!!!!! *sulking*

Your laparoscopy will be fine, I'm sure. Of course it's natural to worry when you want something so much. I'm praying you have peace of mind and the results help you along your journey to becoming a mother. The hardest part - as I'm sure you'll agree, heh - is everyone seems to be pregnant...no, evweryone IS pregnant. In the street, magazines, tv, music, BABIES EVERYWHERE. So many of my friends can get pregnant by so much as looking at their partner.

 

[Maharg]

Me & my husband have been trying to conceive for 3 years now and with no luck. I went to see my GP back in August and she referred me to the hospital to have checks. It's really weird the way things are done here in England (or maybe in my county) but I had to ring to make an appointment and see which consultant I wanted.

The problem that I have had is that I have dreaded seeing anyone because it triggers past memories off for me. It has taken me a while to be able to get to the stage of seeing my GP let alone a consultant - and I need a female one as well.

I booked a couple of months ago an appointment for this week. It took me ages to get hold of a female consultant. I rang and checked this week to see what the consultation would be about and to make sure that no examinations were done as I wasn't ready for this yet.

Well, I saw the consultant yesterday (with my husband) and she was so nice it was unbelievable. I did end up having an examination which I wasn't prepared for and it did trigger off memories for me. I was so glad that my husband was there as I don't know how I would have coped without him.

There is good news in that there is nothing wrong with me internally from what she could tell and that my blood tests came back good, so I am ovulating. She is now refering me to another consultant to do a laparoscopy. I'm quite nervous about this as it will have to be a male consultant. There are no female consultants around apart from the one that I saw (and I had to try 4 hospitals to get her).

Please can people pray for me for a number of things:

• That my past will not effect the way that I feel about getting pregnant.
• That I will feel a sense of peace when I see the consultants
• That I fall pregnant

Thank you for reading. Any thoughts on this are most greatly welcomed, especially from people in a similar situation to me.

Hello there,

I just wanted to say that sometimes these events, which may trigger memories can also actually be healing of past unpleasant events as well, or at least this is what I found. I prayed before each time I had to be examined, and I have found that although I remembered past stuff, the actual experience of being treated by people in an appropriate and caring way somehow seemed to heal or sanctify what had happened before - it was like moving on a step. I pray that you will be seen by people who have a caring attitude towards you, that you will be without pain and discomfort and that the experiences would be positive and healing for you. I also praythat you will fall pregnant and will love it.

In Jesus' name

Amen

 

[Surviving]

Heya

Aw thanks.

It's how it is *sigh* I think if I ever have a successful pregnancy I will be Miss High Anxiety for the entire gestation. Maybe I'm not meant to have kids but if so THAT SUCKS AND I WANT TO KNOW WHY!!!!! *sulking*

Your laparoscopy will be fine, I'm sure. Of course it's natural to worry when you want something so much. I'm praying you have peace of mind and the results help you along your journey to becoming a mother. The hardest part - as I'm sure you'll agree, heh - is everyone seems to be pregnant...no, evweryone IS pregnant. In the street, magazines, tv, music, BABIES EVERYWHERE. So many of my friends can get pregnant by so much as looking at their partner.

I know what you mean about seeing everyone else be pregnant. It has just started to get to me a little. My husband told me that someone he knows is pregnant again. She already has one child, and she is now pregnant with twins...of all the luck! She only needs to think about it and she gets pregnant!!

 

[Surviving]

Hello there,

I just wanted to say that sometimes these events, which may trigger memories can also actually be healing of past unpleasant events as well, or at least this is what I found. I prayed before each time I had to be examined, and I have found that although I remembered past stuff, the actual experience of being treated by people in an appropriate and caring way somehow seemed to heal or sanctify what had happened before - it was like moving on a step. I pray that you will be seen by people who have a caring attitude towards you, that you will be without pain and discomfort and that the experiences would be positive and healing for you. I also praythat you will fall pregnant and will love it.

In Jesus' name

Amen

This is a really great way of looking at things. I would never think of going to an examination as healing at all. I must admit though, that it does help if people are more caring towards you during an examination then it is a little easier.

My first examination, the doctor was really nice to me and did things in my time. She never pushed me in to doing what I didn't want to do. The next doctor I saw was a man. He didn't examine me, but he was really insensitive...this didn't help. I thought that I had taken a step forward, and he knowcked me two steps back.

Today, I had an ultra sound. I didn't think much of it before I went as I thought it would just be normal. How wrong was I. I never expected her to do an x-ray inside of me. I was quite upset afterwards...glad that it is over now.

 

[felinity]

I know what you mean about seeing everyone else be pregnant. It has just started to get to me a little. My husband told me that someone he knows is pregnant again. She already has one child, and she is now pregnant with twins...of all the luck! She only needs to think about it and she gets pregnant!!

Some people don't think that's luck.

 

[Surviving]

Some people don't think that's luck.

What do you mean by this?

 

[felinity]

What do you mean by this?

Sorry-

I just meant that some people don't think it's good luck to be extra-fertile. At some point, unless you subscribe to quiverfull, another mouth to feed represents a potential burden.

It would be nice if all the fertility were evened out a bit, though.

 

[Surviving]

Sorry-

I just meant that some people don't think it's good luck to be extra-fertile. At some point, unless you subscribe to quiverfull, another mouth to feed represents a potential burden.

It would be nice if all the fertility were evened out a bit, though.

I agree with what you are saying. I said the word luck because I am angry at the fact that she is pregnant and I am not. It's just a figure of speech.

 

[felinity]

I know. I'm in the same boat you are, and I totally understand those feelings.

 

[Surviving]

I know. I'm in the same boat you are, and I totally understand those feelings.

Thanks.

I'm counting down the days at the moment to the operation.