Truths

[DragonFox91]

The church with singles & Christian parents with Christian singles didn’t get Singles ready for life as a Single Christian at all. It’s a unique mission calling & like the world it’s all focused on marriage.
When I was younger I hadn’t realized how much the Bible teaches this

 

[DragonFox91]

I noticed a problem. It seems like all singles wanna do is play video games and watch movies. I think that’s all fine in moderation. But there’s way more to life than that. I noticed it a long time ago. I’ve always struggled because I’m always given people that are obsessed with that kind of stuff and I am not. Well, I guess I was at one point, but I kind of grew out of it as I got older and realized it was an addiction

 

[DragonFox91]

Today’s message and a.m. church in general were hard.

I am walking on the street named after my great grandma. All that talent my great grandparents and great great grandparents had and what they worked for can be gone in a couple generations

 

[DragonFox91]

It all makes you feel lied to
I am struggling again, it never goes away for good

 

[DragonFox91]

This mid /30s age is a very, very, very difficult age being a struggling single b/c the Singles who were content being single & were content w/ waiting, aren't content & don't want to wait anymore. They've developed & grown as individuals, are settled in careers, & have a good idea of who they're compatible w/. They viewed themselves as 'late' but are right on time.

So when you would like to be married & are struggling, it hits you hard you are at this age.

There will probably be another wave where it hits you hard at 40, when those 'really late' are revealed to be right on time, then maybe it gets easier? I haven't determined if it gets easier or harder as I've gotten older. In some ways it's gotten easier b/c sometimes you can see God's bigger work, in some ways it's gotten harder b/c the time just affirms you can't & you knew you couldn't. It will be strange still posting in this thread a long time from now

 

[DragonFox91]

I saw this yesterday: Your ministry is the oil that comes from what crushed you

 

[DragonFox91]

I am very sad. It was too hard for me

 

[DragonFox91]

It'll all be over soon. Just a little bit longer. In a flash. In a twinkle of the eye. At the sound of the trumpet. As promised

 

[DragonFox91]

I am really struggling.
One thing that helps me is marriage is actually a signpost to him. It's a picture of his promise to us. When you see married, it's a sign of his promises to you. Not that you'll be married, but that he fulfills promises, what he says passes, he does not back out of what he says long ago, his Word does not change, he keeps his covenants, b/c he determined 2 people to be married long ago & it happened accordingly.
Also, he is behind single & married both. In the same way in his divine wisdom he determines 2 people to be married is good, he has determined singles is good. The marrieds is a picture single is good. & what marrieds really is is 2 singles.

 

[High Fidelity]

I know I've said it before and I really don't want to be uncharitable, but you're dwelling on this far too much.

Live your life without expectations, and when the unexpected happens, whatever that is, appreciate the blessing.

These posts aren't healthy. I don't think they're helping you. I think you're giving far too much time, effort and emotion to something that is neither entirely inside or outside of your control.

Do what you can. Make the effort to meet people. Talk to women at church and ask your Pastor, friends or fellow congregants you're familiar with to make enquiries or introductions. Get a group together and see what happens.

Do what is within your control, and let go of the part that isn't.

This really is not healthy.

 

[DragonFox91]

I know I've said it before and I really don't want to be uncharitable, but you're dwelling on this far too much.

Live your life without expectations, and when the unexpected happens, whatever that is, appreciate the blessing.

These posts aren't healthy. I don't think they're helping you. I think you're giving far too much time, effort and emotion to something that is neither entirely inside or outside of your control.

Do what you can. Make the effort to meet people. Talk to women at church and ask your Pastor, friends or fellow congregants you're familiar with to make enquiries or introductions. Get a group together and see what happens.

Do what is within your control, and let go of the part that isn't.

This really is not healthy.

I appreciate the insight. You are not wrong. It is true it is very hard for me as well, storms come. I try my best to distract myself, but then reality hits so thank you for trying to pull me back