True love doesn't exist...

[axshonjackson]

True love only exists in our imagination and within the ideals we create for ourselves. True love would be like claiming an absolute, it would need to be static in nature, unconditional at all costs, anything besides would prove that it's just a state of mind or a feeling we have at a certain moment. When we choose a mate we have conditions attached don't we? Thats not true love. True love would be like the dolphins who mate for life and excluding the rare occasion, if their mate dies the other FISH will not seek another mate. Don't misunderstand me, I would love to have one beautiful women and a family, a small one. {having too many kids is just stupid!} But if either of us were to "get wiggy" our love would end. Now we start to see why the divorce rate is 50%. Love is conditional, therefore it is not true love. True love; like morality changes with time. any thoughts????

I think I understand what you are saying. I know that God has unconditional or 'true' love for us all even when we don't love him or do what he wants us to do.

God is love!
"Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love." - 1 John
4:8
Without love I am nothing
"2If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing." --1 Corinthians 13:2

We only have love to give because God first loved us. It is true that we can never give as much love as we receive from God. That would be idolatry of self.

 

[]RiSeN[]

True love only exists in our imagination and within the ideals we create for ourselves. True love would be like claiming an absolute, it would need to be static in nature, unconditional at all costs, anything besides would prove that it's just a state of mind or a feeling we have at a certain moment. When we choose a mate we have conditions attached don't we? Thats not true love. True love would be like the dolphins who mate for life and excluding the rare occasion, if their mate dies the other FISH will not seek another mate. Don't misunderstand me, I would love to have one beautiful women and a family, a small one. {having too many kids is just stupid!} But if either of us were to "get wiggy" our love would end. Now we start to see why the divorce rate is 50%. Love is conditional, therefore it is not true love. True love; like morality changes with time. any thoughts????

Your making the mistake of defining it as an absolute. A true love is a love that is perfect for the one evaluating the standard. Perfection of any person or thing, then, is relative, not absolute. That is, a thing is "perfect" according to, or in relation to, the purpose or end for which it is appointed by its designer or producer, or the use to which it is to be put by its receiver or user. The very meaning of perfection requires that there be someone who decides when "completion" has been reached, what the standards of excellence are, what requirements are to be satisfied, and what details are essential.

 

[skinner]

I disagree. God's love for us is unconditional. Many a mother's love for a child is unconditional. That child can go his own way, do everything against her wishes, and still she will love him.

Now, is it possible for us to love perfectly? Of course not. We are human and sinful and will never reach perfection in this world. Sometimes we are going to be selfish when we should be selfless.

If you are talking about the idea of true love that so often exists in movies and books, I agree. That idea being that the right person will fullfil your every desire, need and want, and all you have to do is find her. I think this fantasy is probably the cause of a lot of failed marriages. No one can fill your every need, no one can affirm you as a man, or heal your every emotional wound. Only God can do that.