Trouble with mom

[Love4ever]

I've got a problem with my mother. I'm catholic but on Sunday I would like to go service at a Baptist church.
My mom is telling me that she had friends who were other denominations but she had never went to their churches or even wanted to be part of them.
And she thinks that is a sin. But I'm telling her that we are all Christians and have the same foundation.
But that's not all. She had a major operation and the doctor told her that she mustn't get upset.
So I didn't want to get her upset... After a while I finaly asked her but I knew she will say "No". And now I don't know what to do.

 

[~Beauty_from_Pain~]

First off, how old are you? If you are an adult, then you don't need to ask.

I would just like to say that going to another denomination is not a sin. There are some religions that I believe are accults and we should stay away from them...but this is not the case. I remember that once, I had this Baptist friend who thought I was going to hell because I went to other churches then Baptist. He said that he would "pray for my soul."

Your mother may just not understand, and you may not be able to convince her. If you are not an adult, you have to honor your father and your mother. I would pray about it, and then, I would have a chat with your mom. Just ask her about it, etc....I don't know what other advice to say at the moment...

 

[Love4ever]

I'm 17. My parents are divorced. So that could be a problem too. My dad even don't know about it and I think he doesn't need to know...
And yes my mom just don't understand. And I don't know how to explain her.
She think "It's ok to believe but not too much". If you understand me.

 

[Alive again]

Hello and welcome to Christian Forums. In your situation at age 17 and living at home, particularly in your culture. My first response would be to pray. The Bible is clear about honoring your mother out of love-the greastest commandment is to love one another. so what if you sat down with your Mom (after praying for wisdom and the words to say) and telling her that while you are still underage and living with her, out of your desire to follow christ and honor her (your mother) and thank her for all she has done you will agree to attend the Catholic church, but asks if she would be willing to prau about and talk with you about what you enjoy about the Baptist church. In this way you may open a door to share your growing faith with your Mother and deepen your understanding of each other. this allows God to be in control. the bible is clear that we are to be under God's authority first than earthly authorities. So if your Mom told you to steal, you would not have to obey as this is contrary to a higher authority (God). this can be challenging to work out in life. And By the way, God does not say you are to obey a husband, submission is a totally different word. Just my thoughts. But BE IN MUCH PRAYER ABOUT THIS!!!!

 

[nowhereville]

Wow, that's a tough one.

I can understand (as a former catholic) why your mother would be hesitant, particularly if she's been beseiged and attacked by people claiming she is going to hell. I'd had it happen to me in the past and what not and I can fully understand why a Catholic person might feel that way.

You do need to honor her wishes, particularly in light of her health. She may not have such an issue if you were to go to youth group or an evening service. Most baptist churches meet both one weekenight (wed. maybe) and sunday night. You may also point out you have no intention of leaving the Catholic church as that may ease her mind as well.

 

[Love4ever]

Wow, that's a tough one.

I can understand (as a former catholic) why your mother would be hesitant, particularly if she's been beseiged and attacked by people claiming she is going to hell. I'd had it happen to me in the past and what not and I can fully understand why a Catholic person might feel that way.

You do need to honor her wishes, particularly in light of her health. She may not have such an issue if you were to go to youth group or an evening service. Most baptist churches meet both one weekenight (wed. maybe) and sunday night. You may also point out you have no intention of leaving the Catholic church as that may ease her mind as well.

But, you see, I would like to go to services at Baptist curch. On Saturday evening I go to youth group there...
Last few Sundays I'm just thinking how's there (at Baptist churc), what are they doing now, which song are they singing (i know most of their songs).
And last Sunday I was crying (at mass where I go) because all this was to much for me!
I pray every day for my mom and my desperation. It's driving me crazy!

 

[janny108]

I'm 17. My parents are divorced. So that could be a problem too. My dad even don't know about it and I think he doesn't need to know...
And yes my mom just don't understand. And I don't know how to explain her.
She think "It's ok to believe but not too much". If you understand me.

I understand where this is coming from. My mom sounded very familiar to yours.
"Just don't believe too much, you'll be a fanatic", because I went to church, bible study and choir!
Pray for her, and for yourself, maybe talk to the pastor this other church how to handle this.

My mom was Catholic and thought if anyone went outside the Catholic church, it was a "sin". It's not.
Jan

 

[Love4ever]

I understand where this is coming from. My mom sounded very familiar to yours.
"Just don't believe too much, you'll be a fanatic", because I went to church, bible study and choir!
Pray for her, and for yourself, maybe talk to the pastor this other church how to handle this.

My mom was Catholic and thought if anyone went outside the Catholic church, it was a "sin". It's not.
Jan

I'm praying, but maybe not enough! I don't know. I don't want to hurt my mom. After devorce my mom and I became very close. But after awile I discovered some new ideas etc. and then we weren't so close anymore!
Please pray for me! Thanks!

 

[Akathist]

It sounds to me that our mother's health is impaired and therefore the right thing to do right now is to honor her wishes and go with her to Mass.

You might see if you could go to the youth group on Saturday night as a compromise.

This is your gift to your mother. It is not something you will have to do forever. At 17 you are on the verge of adulthood.

When you are off to college or living on your own somewhere you can go to whatever church you wish on Sundays.

But for now, as a gift to her, honor her wishes. And when you attend Mass remember that we are all Christians. You can worship there and learn more about Christ and His teachings at a Catholic Church as well as a Baptist Church. Focus on learning right now and not just on socializing.

Keep in touch with your Baptist friends of course. You can do that through IM or emails or even the phone.

 

[nowhereville]

I'm sorry you in such a spot

I find it very honorable you regard your mother and her feelings so highly- that speaks volumes about your character at such a young age. God will honor that also

Keep going Saturday Nights and ask about other evening services. No reason why you can't still go there other then Sunday morning - that way you continue to honor your mother and be fed

You know sometimes "where we are at" is really not "as bad" as it "feels" - meaning, yes it seems so terrible, but really we CAN overcome it.

You rock Woooo Hoooo

 

[Anti Existance]

It isn't a sin , all the religions in the world help people to return back to God and act as stepping stones , for each a different stone, because everyone is on a different spiritual level and needs different feedback and experiences that lead them to the real truth which is Jesus who's teachings are yet another stepping stone into bringing us back to God.

God gave you free will therefore you are allowed to go wherever you want.

 

[Love4ever]

Thanks to all yours posts! I'm better now even situation is the same! God bless you all!

 

[RadioJeff1983]

Dilema, Honor thy mother and thy father, but yet, Jesus said, "Call no man thy father cept' He that is in heaven". This means, and I also speak as a former Catholic, that you should not call "Father Weiss" father. This because He knew of the conflicts to come before they were. Best advise, don't upset your mother for now and read the direct word of God in the King James bible. New Testiment would be best....