trouble crying?

[memoryroad]

i'm the same if i'm in public. i just cant let it out.

 

[Fallenphoenix]

i just turned 16 a few days ago and i have had a lot of trouble crying ever since my gf of 2 years dumped me over a year ago. wen she did i cried once but since then i havent been able to. i get intense feeling of depression occasionally and wish i could cry because i feel so much inside me that i just want to let it out. i havent SI for almost a year and i'm starting to get those feelings again but i havent. i wish i could get some medication to make me stop feeling this way because i can't stand it, but i would need to go to a psychiatrist and i am afraid of what my parents would think.

 

[VeryTiredGirl]

to verytiredgirl

I guess it will come when the time is right. I think the only outlet i did have was SI but have been cut free for a month now.

I talk to God about it but still feel numb. Even listening to P & W.

MIchelle

Thanks for the hug. I hope you're doing well.

Congratulations on being cut-free! I quit back in late 2002.

The numbness will fade with time; do you have a doctor or therapist or pastor you trust and can talk to?

 

[VeryTiredGirl]

This may sound strange, but I wish I was like you. I sob incessantly b/c of my depression.

I'm not quite to the point of sobbing incessantly, but I've been doing a lot more crying lately. I even cried for nearly 90 minutes in front of the church secretary. That wasn't too bad, but then she told my PASTOR I'd been crying. I was so embarrassed. :o I know he's seen people cry before, but not ME. *sighs*

 

[raihna]

I have been to both extremes over the years,the good news it will level out !
pray pray pray every day!!!

 

[soaring as eagles]

hi Thanks everyone

verytiredgirl- no there is no one really i can talk to. I do see a therapist but he didnt say much. My church is not bothered as they keep cancelling appointments.

I did have a little cry last night which i suppose is a start.

If my psychologist is thinking of discharging me then why do i still feel so numb and dead. There are no more issues for me worrying about.
Thanks, i know crying is not the only way out but it always has been for me. I could cry at anything. Its the way i could let everything go.

I cannot talk to my Dad as he is quite ill and my mum does not care.

 

[HomeChicklet]

its a problem for me too but i think mine is because in my house we are not allowed to cry. If we cry we get yelled at so I have learned how to hold it in and now that I have held it in for so long I can't let myself cry. I am soon to start counseling so that will be helpful.

 

[soaring as eagles]

hi thanks everyone.

Great news. I have been able to cry. Dont know how but thanks for all your prayers.

 

[Maharg]

Two types of crying

There are many types of crying, but I'm just going to write about the two types I have experienced.

I have been experiencing what I suppose is depression for a very long time now. When it gets to its worst, I do sob, but it's not good sobbing. it doesn't seem to let anything out. It simply feels like chewing over the pain again and again. it's pretty horrible, and I believe it is caused by the crying being as the result of an emotion other than sorrow, e.g. anger or grief, or grievance.

But there are times when crying really helps. It is when I cry from sorrow, and somehow the crying lets something out, gets rid of a burden. Sometimes, the same sorts of things come out if I talk with someone I trust - although, more often, if I feel depressed, the talking doesn't let things out - instead, like what I wrote above, it feels like chewing over the pain. Often the latter is linked with a softening of my heart and the breakdown of resistance to painful feelings and memories.

I don't know what the answer is to making sure we only have to experience the second, healing type of crying. The main thing is to keep on giving things over to Jesus. It can feel very hard to do this, but it does tend to get better with practice - and it does make things a whole lot easier. He does help us if we put our faith in Him - and we have to keep on trying to do this, and not let other people's hurtful treatment of us predict how much we trust Him.

Hope this helps someone a little.

Maharg

 

[Tamara77777]

hi

For the past year i have had trouble crying. to the point that i cannot. I want to but nothing actually comes.
Has anyone else felt this way and how do you get your tears back. I hate feeling like this with an intense feeling inside that you cant let out.

Hello....Have you prayed and asked the Lord be give you a spirit of repentance and brokeness??? I am not sure why or what events have taken place in your life up to this point or perhaps none at all...Ask the Father to help you, invite him in your heart to dig deeper and ask Him to break the flood gates to release you in this area. Father,I pray for this person that you would touch her and cause her to 'cry' help her find a release in her spirit...press the button that would cause her tears to come...whether in repentence or in just the joy that you love her and care for every area of her life...in JESUS mighty name amen!