Triggers

[pwood]

I have been trying to find the root cause of my depression and I believe that maybe I have.

I've never experienced this while looking at pictures of my own family. But as I was looking over the pictures of a friends family, a huge emotional crash was triggered when I realized that the content of those pictures was void in virtually every picture, and in reality of my own family.

And that was the depiction of love and happiness towards me from my Mom and Dad. If it was just pictures, I probably could deal, after all, pictures do not always tell the truth.

However, I know my friends parents are very loving and nurturing and mine were never that way.

I know that I cannot make my parents be that way, nor can I turn back the clock and hope everything is different.

I guess what I want to try to know now is how to deal with this knowledge that appears to be the root of my issues.

 

[Mask]

I think forgiveness would be the first thing you have to deal with. You need to forgive your parents for failing you. Bring you revelation to God and tell Him how you feel. Tell Him that you have chosen to forgive your parents for failing to give you the basic emotional needs every child has...the need for love and acceptance. Tell Him you will not hold their failure against them. Ask Him to come into those places were a child would have needed love and acceptance and fill those voids with the love He has for you. Hope this helps! Sending you big hugs and prayers !

 

[RescueAngel]

Well its a good place to start. And its a very big step that you could find this on your own too. You are a very strong and intelligent person, who really wants to heal and have a good life, you want something for yourself. So, all that is very important and a very positive thing.

Now you need to find someone to help you, guide you through all this, so you can feel the feelings and heal the pains of this, and see how it has effected you and give you tools for creating the life you truly deserve and desire. This happens through a good couselor or therapists. I suggest that is where you start. I have seen one for many years, though my problems are far greater than depression I fear, I have lived through traumatic events that left me far more scarred so my healing process will take much more time, and some of my depression is going to be a life long struggle. But I am ok with it, because I have found hope and help.

So, that is my advice, I hope it helps you.

 

[RescueAngel]

Realize too that a Spiritual Director, or Priest or Minister depending on your faith and their background in psychology, human resources or social services etc. could also be the place to go..... it doesn't have to be just a regular therapist.. if you feel better with someone of faith to go with, by all means do........ its about you and what will help you to heal.

I forget to mention that, because I am new and we are just so programmed not to mention our clergy as places to go for help, when they too are sometimes more than appropriate and if they aren't they can lead you too where to go. So, you have many options for help.