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As is typical for me, I completely disagree. You cannot "wash your hands" of a person, a marriage, and more importantly a covenant. Doesn't work that way. It's not Biblical, and it's not in line with Christ's teachings.Ruhama said:my PERSONAL feelings (apart from what the Bible may or may not teach) is get things official, divorce and move on with your life.e relationship as completely as she believed possible. Given that, I expect she's made her decision firmly; if she has, I thinkYou with your forgiving attitude remind me a lot of Habbakuk. But if she does this as like a habit, you've got every right and in fact it would probably be wise, to wash your hands of it.
bkg said:As is typical for me, I completely disagree. You cannot "wash your hands" of a person, a marriage, and more importantly a covenant. Doesn't work that way. It's not Biblical, and it's not in line with Christ's teachings.
Den2004, I can empathise with what you are going through. Obviously no two situations are identical in all ways, but there are always common themes. And frankly ours are very similar.
That being said, no humans opinion on this issue means a hill of beans. No mine, not friends, not families, not anyone else on this board. The only opinion that matters is that of Christ Jesus. Anyone else will struggle to give Godly advice inline with Biblical teaching and Christ's words.
This is a spiritual battle, my friend. Your wife is not your enemy - Satan is. I think we often find ourselves blaming or fighting against our spouse as though they are mortal enemies because of the hurt or pain he/she has caused. That's exactly what Satan wants! That is NOT what God wants! I'm not at all condoning the behavior that your wife is displaying right now, but I am asking you to look beyond the pain of that behavior to the truth that Satan is at work here, and you need to turn this over to God and continue to pray fervently for your wife, her safety, her salvation, your marriage, etc. She is obviously not of sound mind right now - being irrational - which leads me to believe 100% that Satan is at work.
My opinion, which again shouldn't matter when compared against the Bible, is to pray for your wife, your family, your entire situation. I do not agree with getting a lawyer at this time, as that will only give Satan the rest of what he needs to destroy your marriage.
God Bless... keep praying. Never give up on God's promises.
Can you back that up with Scripture, please? As I recall, a covenant is not broken by someone simply leaving.Ruhama said:While you raise good points, a covenant is broken when only one breaks it, as in adultery. Now think about it logically: which is more detrimental, being unfaithful in sex or in cutting off the relationship entirely? She has chosen to completely leave the relationship. There is no covenant unless she reenters it.
Also needs scriptural support, IMHO. Saying "God doesn't want" needs support. There are great numbers of scriptural stories that speak to the exact opposite of what you are stating (Job, The Isrealites 40 years in the wilderness, Jesus Himself).I left room for her repentance, but God does not want us in situations where our lives are someone's doormat for our whole lifetimes and we are destroyed emotionally because we think we are following God.
I do believe it is a choice to maintain a covenant... But you're also saying that it's only a suggestion unless we are convicted? It's only a "it'd be nice if you did this, but it's not that big of a deal - I'll tell you if I REALLY mean it..." So I guess I really don't understand what you are saying...Understand what I'm saying? It is a choice, and a valid one, to continue to be faithful to a covenant that one party has broken. But it is not what God commands unless he personally convicts us like Habbakuk to stay.
How do you repair a damaged marriage if the other person is not willing to speak to you or claims you are harrassing them when you do try to confront them? My husband has not spoken to me in almost four months...I have prayed hard, cried hard and nothing. My husband wants nothing to do with me and it's a nightmare...I love him just as much as I did when we married. He is not a Godly person, and he doesn't pray or even go to church...he is such a proud man and sticks to his guns no matter what. I have asked God to soften his heart and pray for strength to deal with all this grief. I have decided to leave my husband alone and continue to pray hard and believe that God will continue to work in our lives. No matter what happens...I know I tried my best to save our marriage, but what can you do when the other no longer believes in hope or love or anything..Leanna said:Yup, BKG, I'm with you. Its a covenant and just because one person leaves doesn't mean it is broken. It is damaged not broken...
Please check out this thread: http://www.christianforums.com/t786600troubled heart said:How do you repair a damaged marriage if the other person is not willing to speak to you or claims you are harrassing them when you do try to confront them? My husband has not spoken to me in almost four months...I have prayed hard, cried hard and nothing. My husband wants nothing to do with me and it's a nightmare...I love him just as much as I did when we married. He is not a Godly person, and he doesn't pray or even go to church...he is such a proud man and sticks to his guns no matter what. I have asked God to soften his heart and pray for strength to deal with all this grief. I have decided to leave my husband alone and continue to pray hard and believe that God will continue to work in our lives. No matter what happens...I know I tried my best to save our marriage, but what can you do when the other no longer believes in hope or love or anything..
You do exactly what you are doing. My husband did that when I moved out and we did reconcile. Sometimes it wasnt pretty but he is a good man and now a good support. It may take longer, but don't give up just yet. Keep praying and don't replace him or divorce.troubled heart said:How do you repair a damaged marriage if the other person is not willing to speak to you or claims you are harrassing them when you do try to confront them? My husband has not spoken to me in almost four months...I have prayed hard, cried hard and nothing. My husband wants nothing to do with me and it's a nightmare...I love him just as much as I did when we married. He is not a Godly person, and he doesn't pray or even go to church...he is such a proud man and sticks to his guns no matter what. I have asked God to soften his heart and pray for strength to deal with all this grief. I have decided to leave my husband alone and continue to pray hard and believe that God will continue to work in our lives. No matter what happens...I know I tried my best to save our marriage, but what can you do when the other no longer believes in hope or love or anything..
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