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I wanted to know. Can you be a Christian while at the same time being a hermit? I cannot function well with anyone and wanted to know if finding a new life well away from civilization would be a bad decision? I cannot help anyone draw closer to God and I am not doing such a good job now. I want to get a away from it all and I have found the means to. I don't need the love or acceptance of my fellow man (It would be a joke to expect it now.) What need would the lord have for such man? I am only a grain of sand the grand scheme of things, would my removal matter?
 

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i feel exactly the way that you do. There is nothing good in men, and i have no desire to be around them either. I find myself turning into a hermit also. I really felt like scrooge over the holidays. But thats not the person i want to be, and its not the person i have always been... And i dont think its the person God wants us to be. God wants us to have joy, that we may share it with others. He doesnt want you to exclude yourself from the world, but to be a light unto it.. You cant read your bible, and grow and understanding, yet hoard the knowledge to yourself..you cant have faith without works. And you cant have works isolating yourself... It sounds like your having a tough time, and i really am too. Im being hard on myself, and feel like i really have nothing to offer God. But i think to myself..if Gods will for my life was over, then i would be dead. So that encourages me, that he isnt done with me yet. Im sure you feel the way you do because of your outlook on the world. Maybe your like me and analyze things constantly and your non stop thinking has helped you dig a deep hole...Running away however will not be the answer to any of your problems...ive thought about it myself..even today. My friend i am here for you...i know what its like and your not alone..im here even if you just want to talk..
 
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I've definitely felt this way in the past. I've felt so unhappy with myself that I never wanted to show my face in public. Just wanted to crawl into a hole. I read the Bible on my own, and stopped going to church altogether.

But all that ended up making things worse for me. I can't explain it exactly, but I benefit from human contact even when I don't want it. I think that's the same for everyone. I think that's the way God made us - to be social creatures, to share things. Unfortunately we'll share some bad things as well as good things, but we can work it all out together.

Are you able to tell me how you came to feel this way? Is it because of something you've done, or something else?
 
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I would say that a season for solitude and prayer for the soul purpose of drawing near to God is beneficial.. Paul did three years.. and came back a different person. It is the purpose of living the life of a hermit that will make the difference.
 
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Of course you can still be a Christian.

And of course it would still matter. Come on man, the Lost Sheep parable??? Proof that 1 is just as important as the other 99.

I don't really know how you're defining "hermit" in this case. Just keep it in your prayers... ask God how He can use you to glorify Him, and if that could include "a new life well away from civilization." Yes, He CAN use you, that's why you're here. Remember, your life is not about you. As visionary said, perhaps you could use some time away.

Either way, of course you can still be a Christian.
 
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I wanted to know. Can you be a Christian while at the same time being a hermit? I cannot function well with anyone and wanted to know if finding a new life well away from civilization would be a bad decision? I cannot help anyone draw closer to God and I am not doing such a good job now. I want to get a away from it all and I have found the means to. I don't need the love or acceptance of my fellow man (It would be a joke to expect it now.) What need would the lord have for such man? I am only a grain of sand the grand scheme of things, would my removal matter?
Yes. See St. John the Baptist.


In the Orthodox Church, a hermit is a type of monastic (monk) who has achieved such a state of spiritual being that he lives alone even from other monks. Although the hermit is cared for by a nearby monastery when needed (food, death, etc).

I agree that there is little good in the world. Men look like women, women like men and the gender line is being further and further blurred by the day. Very few actually live their faith.

But one is not to be a hermit just because they're sick with the world. If I had a penny for every time I wanted to be a hermit just because I was sick with the world I would be able to pay enough in college tuition for twelve PhDs.

But of course within Protestantism there is no monasticism.
 
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Yes. See St. John the Baptist.
this is the first thing that came to my mind reading this thread.

it sounds like you (the OP) might need a period of solitude in order to become a person able to cope with a public life. god can work on you and through you in all places.
 
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