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I think it is important for women to dress modestly. The Bible tells us that we must dress modestly, and that is something important to my husband and me. He doesn't like it when I show my legs at all. There are some nice fashions I'd like to wear, but it is important to honor my God and my husband.
But is showing your legs immodest, or is your husband simply unreasonable? How would you know the difference? The problem centers around a value-loaded word; we are told to be modest without actually being told what modesty is, so we have to guess.
I think the bible says what modest means in regards to women. Though it is not for our day, we can understand also from certain scripture for example, don't do anything to cause your brother to stumble. I don't think it's our job to tell a person to be more modest or not, unless they are in a church where they have certain guidelines. I suppose someone would love to point out to another immodesty, and maybe that's okay. I wouldn't do it. At least I don't think I would.
I don't think her husband is being unreasonable. It causes him problems when her legs are revealed. She is pleasing him by not causing him to trouble or be insecure or jealous.
...but he may actually be causing her to immodest by having her dress in an inappropriate manner for certain weather conditions, social enviroments, activities, etc.
*tangent* That's what so interesting and beautiful about Indian dress: it seems to bridge the gap between modesty, practicality, and beauty. */tangent*
Modesty is not about how much you cover. It's about dressing and acting in a way that is appropriate for the weather, the enviroment, the activity... a full-coverage, long-sleeved gown is modest at a formal ball, but at the park. A designer business suit is modest at the office, but not at a soup kitchen. A bathing suit is great for swimming, but not for going to the mall. Each piece of clothing has its modest place. There's no reason to ban anything; it is about finding the appropriate time and place to wear a certain outfit.
Hi, I'm not sure how he is causing her to be immodest. She sounds like she is real modest. It may be uncomfortable if that's what you mean, but the reason she does what she does is to please her husband, and she is willing to that.
But modesty, real modesty, isn't about how much is covered. It is about being appropriate for the activity, the enviroment, the weather, etc.
I can understand when there are religious convictions in the books of that religion to cover certain parts of the body... such as in Islam... but the Bible lacks such clarity. The Bible implies that a person must be appropriate for the occasion at hand, not that they must keep covered in ways that don't make any cultural sense. And in North American culture and society, frankly, showing calf isn't that sexy. A person at a park in the summer will get little attention if they are in knee-length shorts and a t-shirt, but they will get attention if they are wearing a long skirt, leggings, and are covered fully. The question of what is under all that covering may be more alluring than just wearing what is common, modest, and comfortable in that society, in this case, North American society.
Perhaps this example will help bring the subject in to perspective: At a party, it is appropriate and modest to talk, laugh, be goofy, have fun, be outgoing, etc. At a formal business meeting, it is appropriate and modest to wait until you have something important and on-topic to say, and to be in a sober mood.
The issue of modesty is so much mroe complicated than covering everything. It is much more about being appropriate in the time, place, weather, activity, culture.
And one must remember that what is covered can often be more alluring than what is not, to a point...
I think it is important for women to dress modestly. The Bible tells us that we must dress modestly, and that is something important to my husband and me. He doesn't like it when I show my legs at all. There are some nice fashions I'd like to wear, but it is important to honor my God and my husband.
The brunette is wearing a ankle length skirt, black low heel boots, also in a sweater, but wearing a suede jacket on top of it. Her hair is straight, a little less than shoulder length. Her make-up is just lip gloss. She's wearing glasses.
Ya upper weight limits vary as well by person and culture. I would not be surprised to find out this amazon I met at a Halloween party last year weighed over 200. She was about 6'2", perhaps more, and definitely not fat.
Tastes vary.
Solomon, there are some gentlemen who don't think 200 pounds is the upper limit for attractiveness in women. Would you deny them their pleasure while enjoying your own?
I've known some very athletic and attractive women who weighed more than that.
Also, why even say something like that?
"Bad taste is timeless."- Anonymouswomen have been modest for 2000 years - when are we going to get to the men - I see men all the time with thier forearms and heads uncovered - completely unmodest - several wear shirts which actually cling to their body as if taunting others into lust. Then there is the unmodest adornments - including rings, clashing socks and hideous shoes - isn't really bad fashion also a sign of immodest attitudes?
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