The 14th was my 20th anniversary but we've been separated for the past 2 years. I was 16 and he was 19 when we were married. He slapped me for the first time when we were dating. But I overlooked it. We fought on our honeymoon. I lost our sons twin at 14weeks pregnant after a fight but he was always sorry and we always worked things out! He wasn't always physical. usually he just liked to scream or throw and break up my favorite things. Usually it was only after I stressed him really badly. Our3 oldest kids have grown up to hate him because of what he has done to me. They are all teenagers now.But He can also be the sweetest and most loving guy on the face of the planet! He had a few affairs but I forgave him for those and since we've separated i've lost over 100lbs so that I'll look good for him. He now thinks I'm beautiful. He wants to work things out. Part of me thinks I still love him...but the other part of me screams RUN!!! My kids are telling me to file for divorce! But my parents are telling me that I need to honor my commitment and stay. He has apologized and I should forgive and forget. They know about his hitting me,his breaking up my stuff,his affairs,and some other things about him...and as a former minister my dad says my duty is to stay. My pastor says leave!! I feel like my heart is being torn in two. I'm tired and lonely! We have two special needs children ages 6 and 8 and I'm exhausted I keep thinking it would be easier if we were a team. I feel like my heart is in an emotional tug of war
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The General Mental Health Forum is now a Read Only Forum. As we had two large areas making it difficult for many to find, we decided to combine the Mental Health & the Recovery sections of the forum into Mental Health & Recovery as a whole. Physical Health still remains as it's own area within the entire Recovery area.
If you are having struggles, need support in a particular area that you aren't finding a specific recovery area forum, you may find the General Struggles forum a great place to post. Any any that is related to emotions, self-esteem, insomnia, anger, relationship dynamics due to mental health and recovery and other issues that don't fit better in another forum would be examples of topics that might go there.
If you have spiritual issues related to a mental health and recovery issue, please use the Recovery Related Spiritual Advice forum. This forum is designed to be like Christian Advice, only for recovery type of issues. Recovery being like a family in many ways, allows us to support one another together. May you be blessed today and each day.
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Starting today August 7th, 2024, in order to post in the Married Couples, Courting Couples, or Singles forums, you will not be allowed to post if you have your Marital status designated as private. Announcements will be made in the respective forums as well but please note that if yours is currently listed as Private, you will need to submit a ticket in the Support Area to have yours changed.
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CF has always been a site that welcomes people from different backgrounds and beliefs to participate in discussion and even debate. That is the nature of its ministry. In view of recent events emotions are running very high. We need to remind people of some basic principles in debating on this site. We need to be civil when we express differences in opinion. No personal attacks. Avoid you, your statements. Don't characterize an entire political party with comparisons to Fascism or Communism or other extreme movements that committed atrocities. CF is not the place for broad brush or blanket statements about groups and political parties. Put the broad brushes and blankets away when you come to CF, better yet, put them in the incinerator. Debate had no place for them. We need to remember that people that commit acts of violence represent themselves or a small extreme faction.
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