Too old for kids?

[IndyCision]

Either side of the eisle can answer this.

I think it's generally true that those who have never been married and have never had kids, would like to get married and have their own kids.

The question is at what time of life is that an unrealistic expectation.

 

[wvmtnkid]

Hmmmm.....good question.

On the biological side, I have seen reports that women have greater trouble getting pregnant the older they get. We were once led to believe that women could have their careers and put off having their families until later on in life, such as in their late 30's, early 40's, or even middle 40's. Now, women are finding out it is much harder to get pregnant at these ages. Birth defects are a greater risk once a woman hits 35. Not that 35 is the "magic" age and once you are 35 you will have babies that have birth defects, but the chance becomes much greater. I think that is something you have to weigh when making this decision.

Not that a woman cannot get pregnant and have a healthy, normal child past 35. I have a friend that did not have her first child until she was close to 42 and her second one just 3 years later. Both were healthy babies. She did have some problems getting pregnant, but it wasn't impossible. I guess if the Lord wants you to have children, He will make it happen. I don't know how old though before it becomes impossible biologically. I guess after a woman enters menopause it would be impossible. That age is different for each woman.

On the other side is, how old do you want to be while still caring for a child or going through the teenage years? I think that is sorta of a personal question a couple has to decide for themselves.

 

[jenptcfan]

I have talked to a couple of people lately who feel like they want to have kids one day but think they will be too old to have the energy to keep up with them once they finally get to that point in their lives. I think that's something each individual has to think about...the infertility problems and birth complications/birth defect risks are something to think about too. But I think if a couple really wants children and thinks they have the energy to handle it, they can always adopt if they're unable to conceive. There are lots of kids out there that need the stability that a well-established couple could bring. For some people, it could be that God allows them to experience trouble conceiving just so they can take in a child they might not have considered otherwise.

My goal is to have 4 kids by the time I'm 35...I'm laughing as I write this because I have no prospect of getting married to anyone anytime soon and that's my goal, maybe not God's. I know that God has given me a desire to raise children. I don't know if they will be biologically mine or not. I'll just have to wait and see what He wants from me specifically.

I'm the child of a mother who was in her late 30's when she had me (my sisters are 10 and 15 years older than me...I was an 'oops baby'), and I think ideally she would have rather had me when she was younger because by the time I came along she was just tired. BUT it can be done. I'm living proof.

 

[urbanfaerie]

i think that if God desires for u to have kids, he'll make the 'impossible' possible..

look at abaham, he had a son after the age of 100. miracles happen when God is involved.

 

[Kirisutokyoo-shinja]

I was born when my mom was 36. Ironic how that is your age.

 

[desi]

Over 30 the risk of birth defects/retardation starts to increase, after 40 it increases alot.

 

[KeilCoppes]

My goal is to have 4 kids by the time I'm 35...I'm laughing as I write this because I have no prospect of getting married to anyone anytime soon and that's my goal, maybe not God's. I know that God has given me a desire to raise children. I don't know if they will be biologically mine or not. I'll just have to wait and see what He wants from me specifically.

All I can say is don't hide yourself in a box - at least go for the Mary Poppins route, else the last 36 months or so on the way to 35 are going to be REALLY busy!

-kc


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I was born when my dad was 28 - so much for meeting that date... :^)

 

[Super Gnat]

No one is ever too old to adopt .

 

[IndyCision]

It's questions like this that make me feel that I should never take off work on my birthday. It causes one to think too much.


I guess I knew the answer to the question, its just looking at the transition from possible to not likely that gets you to thinking.
Anyway, there are some good answers here, and as Jen and the kid from WV have said, it's a couples question. Otherwise, the question of kids is rather moot.

 

[wvmtnkid]

It's questions like this that make me feel that I should never take off work on my birthday. It causes one to think too much.

Birthdays are never a good day to do any serious, heavy thinking!!!