Too attached to Christian Forums

[Lady Bug]

Anyone here struggle with being too emotionally attached/invested in CF?

Does anyone wish that they didn't have such a dependency on CF to go onto it at night and cleave to it?

Lately I've been logging onto CF and going to my subscribed forums, but not too long after I've been logged on, I feel a wave of emptiness and hollowness wash over me. It's as if I know CF is inadequate all by itself, but I just can't let go.

Does anyone struggle with putting some people they've met on CF on a pedestal, because they think it's hard to find people in their everyday lives who may be of similar intellectual and spiritual wavelength?

I wish the feelings toward this situation would subside a bit. I try to distract myself from this place by doing other things, it's just that I can't seem to wait to get those things done to come here. Yet when I come here, it's not too long into the process when the feelings of emptiness and hollowness emerge.

 

[drich0150]

Well from your posts and blog entries I'd say you have a substantial investment here. It's easy to be disappointed to see a big investment flounder. especially when you depend on the out come so much. But here in lyes the problem. You seem to be looking for a grown up Godly connection with his Children, and it seems by your own admission you hunger and thirst for more substantial Dialog, unfortunately "Children" cannot fill that request. for this, you will have to plug into the source of all our collective knowledge and wisdom.. I suggest you spend you normally allotted time on CF talking with God and going over his scriptures or listening to some of his more gifted radio ministers on Oneplace.com. You spirit hungers for more, than what we can give. that's not a bad thing, but ignoring this request would be.

 

[Johnnz]

Seems like you may be lonely and lacking close relationships?

Or not getting much that really stimulates you faith wise?

John
NZ

 

[Lady Bug]

Seems like you may be lonely and lacking close relationships?

Or not getting much that really stimulates you faith wise?

John
NZ

I think both of your questions I agree with Johnnz. Our relationship with God should be our strongest, I will grant you that but He also created us to mesh with others.

 

[RuthD]

I can't stop coming to CF either and I am not happy here right now. I can't say why but I want to leave right now. I feel empty and not good here. I relate to you, that's all.

 

[janny108]

Seems like you may be lonely and lacking close relationships?

Or not getting much that really stimulates you faith wise?

John
NZ

It's unrealistic to expect one forum/person/activity to be your focus. I'd try to stimulate yourself in meaningful activities. You'll meet other people interested in those things too. I can't right now, as I'm recovering from surgery and it's too blasted hot outside to do much of anything.

I agree with what John says.
Jan

Jan

 

[Johnnz]

Looks like some action plans are needed. (easier said than done though!)

You may need to make some effort to go out and meet people, and to seriously look at some shyness/insecurity you have.

Any ideas about your church and making God more vital (I am not thinking about more prayer, bible study, death to self etc stuff either).

There is nothing wrong with using the forum to interact with people. There is a great range of maturity and opinion here, and that is good for us. But it must not totally substitute for relationships with real people.

Bless you
John

 

[janny108]

True true. To have healthy relationships, not being enmeshed or codependent on those relationships to the point that you are overly needy.
Jan

 

[Lady Bug]

RuthD what you are saying is exactly how I feel, to the T.

You guys are right, I too have a neediness issue. I've been that way most of the time, to varying degrees. My mother is like this too. She gets sad when there's no one around. It's as if she isn't the same person if she is by herself in any circumstance. I hope it's not an inherited thing but me and my mother are a lot alike in so many ways.

 

[Johnnz]

Not inherited as much as she provided your learning model.

John
NZ

 

[Autumnleaf]

Every day at work I deal with people. Some I like and some I don't. At CF I get to talk with people like you who I enjoy hearing from and interacting with. This is my hobby when I could choose to do anything else with my time. Thank you for being here to talk with. I feel happy that there is a place like this for us to unwind at.