To work or not to work?

[Erinwilcox]

Not in my interpretation, it doesn't. The New Testament's role for women who lived in the Eastern Roman Empire in the 1st century AD is what you described, but that model doesn't roll over into this century.

Kids should have responsible parents who are there for them, and one stay-at-home parent would be ideal, but I see no reason to believe that God necessitates that it be the wife.

If a man not provide for his own he is worse than an infidel. . .If a man is head of his household, he should provide (unless really not able for some reason)--the wife is the help-meet, not the sole bread winner.

the way that I would answer this poll was not a choice, so here is my answer on this from a post in the young adults forum....

For a woman when she is married and has a family her life now consists of what you could refer to as three ring circus now. She has her home, her family (aka, husband and kids), and she has a job.

Now if one of there three areas starts to fail in her performance in any way shape or form then the first one that needs to be droped is the job, her calling first and formost is to be a mother, and wife.

John MacArthur sermon of the role of a wife, can she work outside of the home.

Also more sermons of John MacArthur's if you scroll down you will find about 12 different sermons of his on the roles of Women. You can either ask for the tapes, or take the time to read them.....(I would get the tapes, he can be pretty longwinded )

Yay for MacArthur (I like him). Don't have time to listen to these, but I'm sure that they are good.

Personally, I want to marry a man who would love to have me stay at home and home school the kids. . .and since my major is music ed, I can have a private studio in my home for a little extra income.

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

I will be working when I get married and have a family. I simply will not marry a guy that expects me to sit at home with the kids. While I do not at all think I would be bored being at home with kids, I know that I would go crazy, lol. I am going to school right now for a career, and I am a hard worker. I have never, ever imagined that I would be staying home while my husband went to work.

 

[Blank123]

bah.. i don't see why this subject is always such a big deal. personally i think i'd want at least a part-time or volunteer job or something before the kids came along so i wouldn't go crazy sitting at home and doing nothing lol but once the kids start coming i dunno where else i'd rather spend my time than raising them *shrugs*

 

[KomissarSteve]

the wife is the help-meet, not the sole bread winner.

In your interpretation of the Bible, she is. Not in mine.

 

[Argent]

Like I've always said: Barefoot, pregnant and sitting in the back row...with her mouth shut!

 

[KomissarSteve]

Like I've always said: Barefoot, pregnant and sitting in the back row...with her mouth shut!

Yyyyyyyyyyyyikes...

 

[HotToast]

Like I've always said: Barefoot, pregnant and sitting in the back row...with her mouth shut!

Good luck with that.

I don't know whether you (the OP) want the views of women too. Personally I would like to work until I have kids, and then stay at home with them until the youngest is in school full time, and then go back to work. (Although not in my current career, rather one that doesn't requires work to be brought home.). But who knows what will happen, it is all in God's hands.

 

[~HopeFloats~]

Like I've always said: Barefoot, pregnant and sitting in the back row...with her mouth shut!

cute!

I think nowadays it is a hard call for a single income to run a household..every marriage is different, I am not going to say I am not going to work or going to have to work..its a gametime thing.

I am a single mom to 2 kids now and work 2 jobs and am in college..goes not leave much time for anything else.

 

[mina]

I'd like to stay home with my children, if i ever get married and have kids. But i would also like to have a home buisness or a part time job. I think someone needs to be staying home with the kids (the dad or the mom) and I would gladly do it.

 

[Macrina]

One of the reasons I'm doubtful about having children is because of my vocation in ministry. My perspective might change, of course, but at this point I don't see myself taking years off while the children are young (although I would enjoy it), and I think that having someone home regularly with them would be best. Of course, I might find a guy who wants to be a SAHD, or we could each cut down hours... it's complicated.

 

[Im_A]

as far as i'm concerned, it is up to her. i'll be working regardless, but it's all up to her if she wants to work/have a career.

 

[JPPT1974]

My mom hasn't worked in eleven years
Nearly twelve due to being laid off
But also having lupus as well.
She however, does missions and church
Community work.

 

[Alenci]

Personally I would like to work until I have kids, and then stay at home with them until the youngest is in school full time, and then go back to work.

I would like that too... unfortunately I'm studying electrical engineering. And it would be hard to walk away from that for years and be able to enter the field again. I've thought about trying to do something to keep my foot in the door, like maybe technical writing.

I trust in the Lord's plan for my family life... whatever that may be. But here's to hoping my husband's patient, gentle, understanding, and ready to pick up on household and childrearing duties when I can't come through. I hope he can support me in my career the same way I plan to support him. I am not serving ambition or greed. I would be more than content to devote myself wholly to the job of a wife and mother. And for the sake of my family, I wish that I could. But my interests, my desires, my talents, my personality, everything in my life suggests dual callings. As irreconcilable as those callings may seem, I don't think I could ever be fully satisifed in the pursuit of just one.

I still plan to put my family before my career. I still plan to fulfill my Biblical roles as a wife. And I still expect him to be the primary breadwinner of the family. I think that is implicit in his role as head of our family- the one who provides and protects- independent of my choice to work outside the home or not.

That's what I've got on the table, at least.