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16 For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world.

17 And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever.

1 John 2:16-17 (KJV)

Lord Jesus, help me, and all of my brothers and sisters in You, to overcome lust. As Your Word says, we who do Your will abide forever. Amen.
 

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Amen Brother, the lust of the eyes can be "other flesh, Trucks, Boats, Money or any other thing" and it is still lust.
It is an unnatural desire for an object.


Please say a special prayer for me today. I have struggled with sexual lust all my life. Even at my highest point in my walk with God I still caved to it every single time. Last night, I had a couple "dreams" and woke up in strong temptation. I've turned to scripture and have been fixated on that to fight it. I'm winning so far.
 
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Amen my Brother, I will be an accountability partner if you wish, Feel free to message me anytime and remember Isa 54:17 No weapon that is formed against thee shall prosper; and every tongue that shall rise against thee in judgment thou shalt condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the LORD, and their righteousness is of me, saith the LORD.
 
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This thread has been moved from Daily Devotionals to Struggles with Sexuality.

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Links and Resources of Interest (more to be added):
Crisis Hotlines
Christian Porn Addiction Recovery » Blazing Grace

Distraction Ideas for Masturbation/Sexual Fantasy


Home (Pure Life Ministries)

12 Steps for Sexual Addiction

X3groups - Freedom From Porn



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Remember in Christ's sermon on the Mount he preached that not only is adultery wrong, but lust is wrong.

Lust includes sexual fantasies. This disease is linked to porn. Porn addiction sometimes resulted in fornication, unplanned pregnancies, court ordered DNA testing, child support payments, STD's etc. I had to abstain from going to any porn sites and stopped masturbation. My situation improved. Others have come to CF to testify they stopped masturbation.

You may need to ask God to convince you life is better without lust.
 
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He already has. That’s why I share this.
 
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