timeline anyone??

[emilina22]

hey guys...

so since this is the long term relationship section i assume you guys have been with your SO's for a while...
and i also am assuming that you guys have discussed getting married...

so whats your timeline? when do you guys plan on getting married...engaged?do you guys think about talk about it?

GUYS:what do you think about a time line? does it freak you out a bit?

 

[pepperfish]

Ron and I have been together for a year and a few months now, and we discuss our "timeline" all the time. (And no, he's not freaked out about it! haha...he's one guy who is not afraid of commitment, and he wants to get married as much as I do )

We are hopefully going to get engaged sometime next summer. We won't be able to get married for about five to seven years though, because we have to finish college and make sure we're financially stable. (He will be moving in with my family + I within the next few years, but we want to have our own house before we get married!).

So it will be quite a long engagement, but that doesn't really bother me. In our minds, we're pretty much engaged anyway (except for the ring), because we know we will be getting married.

 

[emilina22]

yea i know the engaged but not officially engaged deal...thats where were at...we have a pretty decent timeline though...which is....

engagement:before the end of this year (im so fliping exited you guys have no idea!!!!!!!!aaaaaaaaahhhhhhhh)
engagement party:next spring(this is like a mini wedding infornt of our close family and friends and church members...i.e. pastors and such who pray over our engagement and future marrige in a way they make our engagement official)
wedding:spring of '09 woohoo


weve been togethr for 5 and a hlaf years already and its about time i cant wait i get giggly just thinking about it...

am i the only crazy one?

 

[gailygirl]

Actually, I haven't been with my bf very long (maybe I shouldn't post in this forum in that case, but oh well ), but we've talked about a timeline in a more generic sense. We both know we're in this thing to figure out if we're going to marry each other, but we haven't gotten specific to us yet

In our conversation, we've agreed that getting engaged around 8 or 9 months is comfortable for both of us (again, not really specifically saying we will ). That would be around the beginning of 2008. I won't have a long engagement, hopefully 3-5 months. I certainly admire the patience you girls have to go for years while looking forward to marriage! There's no way I could wait that long. I'm about to go crazy as it is

 

[DeathMagus]

hey guys...

so since this is the long term relationship section i assume you guys have been with your SO's for a while...
and i also am assuming that you guys have discussed getting married...

so whats your timeline? when do you guys plan on getting married...engaged?do you guys think about talk about it?

GUYS:what do you think about a time line? does it freak you out a bit?

We've discussed marriage - not in the way of a time line, per-se, since I don't find those very useful. We're going to wait at least a year after we graduate college to get married, since going into college, and leaving college tend to have the greatest change in a person's personality - a lot of personal growth usually occurs during those times.

We just finished our first year at uni, and sure enough, it was difficult - just as we'd predicted it would be. But we're closer now, so I consider that a victory won. Just a couple more years to go.

We want to be sure that we're used to living on our own for a while and still wanting to be with each other at that point, rather than force ourselves through a long engagement. We're not afraid to break up if need be, and I think that attitude is important.

As for engagement, I consider it to be a mere formality, so I'll just propose sometime in the next 4 years.

 

[California Dreamin']

He asked me to be his girlfriend May 30 (2007, yes).

We are going on vacation to Ontario (Toronto, Niagara Falls) the beginning of August and he wants to propose then. We want to get married next year, May 24 is one of the ideas, but we have not set a date.

 

[BeautifulDestiny09]

We are already engaged, and our timeline is to get married next December or wait until Summer 2009...sooner hopefully...but all is subject to change, depending on how God leads us...

 

[Steph725]

My boyfriend and I celebrated our 1 year anniversary earlier this month. We are both currently in college working on our Bachelor degrees, and will both be done in the next 2 years. We will probably get married in 3 or 4 years, depending on how everything goes

 

[tessas212]

It has only been 4 months, but we have already been discussing many issues including our future, which also involves our marriage. I don't do the whole setting timeline things, but we've discussed it and engagement can wait, and we will not be married until he is done with college. My college will be a bit longer, and it all depends on how life is treating me. If I desperately need out of my parents house(not a mentally healthy place to live), and we feel absolutely comfortable and thrilled with teh idea of marriage, it may even happen before I'm out of college.

As for now.. I'm just going with the flow. I'm certain right now one day we'll be married, and he's excited just as much if not more about it than I am. No need to worry. Things will fall into place.

 

[Briseis]

I would love a timeline, in fact, thats all I ask for at the moment, but he wont give me one. All I know is that we will get married sometime after he is done school. So I dont know when we will get married, I only know when we wont get married. He doesnt want to have to worry about it while still in school. He is the worst multi-tasker ever. I made up my own timeline though. I suspect we will be engaged next spring and married in the fall, I hope. Oh, and we've been together 4.5 years.

 

[RebornSinner]

Timelines don't freak me out. However, planning the future and planning for the future are two different things.

We are now engaged (been dating for 9 months), and we are planning on getting married May next year. I only say that second sentence to remind myself, and maybe some others reading this. That we can make provisions and plans for the future, but we first need to submit those things to God. We have to know that God has a plan for us and seek after that before we even make decisions about tomorrow. Don't create a plan and then ask God to bless it. Follow God's plan because you know that is blessed.

 

[miss_klara]

After we'd been together about a month, he brought up the idea of marriage, and we agreed that we'd get married after being together for 2 years. These days, I have no idea and to be honest, I don't want to know!! We've been together 1 year, and I know that marriage is at the forefront of both our minds anyway... heck, his parents are offering us financial support to get married!! But I want to leave it to him and be surprised by the timing - he knows when he wants to propose, and I love romantic surprises, so I don't want to hassle it out of him!! I think he might propose before the end of the year? I'm not going to be cut up heaps about it if it reaches 2008 and I don't have a ring yet. But I'm kinda hoping he'll propose in early Summer so we can have an outdoor BBQ breakfast engagement party!! Lol.

 

[Paddington]

Been going out for 3 1/2 years and it'll have to be at least another 3 years until we've finished university.

 

[Luther073082]

From a guy's prospective here I don't think there should be a timeline.

Very simpily the guy should wait to ask until he is absolutly 100% sure he wants to spend the rest of his life with you. Now after that he has considerations such as finances, living situation, etc etc.

I don't know all your situations here but I know with girls and this includes Keri that you tend to go into what I would call "Bridal overdrive". And Christian women go into the biggest bridal overdrives in the world. One is that you might be sure but maybe he isn't and you need to wait until he is. (To a point)

A lot of girls seem to be in a rush to the alter here so I would advise you to take things easy a bit.

I would say for a man 25+ then 1-2 years average should be enough to decide and come across with a ring. Maybe more but I wouldn't hang around for more then 4 years with no committment from him.

20 to 25 year old men then you should probably give them longer and thats with NO SCHOOL for either of you and a fully sound financial situation that you can be seperated completly from your parents with no help. (Not easy to do at that age)

Under 20 . . . wow I would never suggest marrying for anyone under the age of 20 although I know thats not going to change anyone's mind. Just know your taking a huge risk here, marriages under the age of 20 have statistically horrible chances of survival.

But I think the point is that yes there needs to be a limit on how long because some men just don't like to commit but on the other hand don't lose your mind in your rush to the alter. And never ever rush him to the alter either.

 

[Briseis]

Well, we already know for sure we are getting married, so its not because he's not sure that he doesnt give me a timeline. He's just not ready to get into details.

 

[khakigirl]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years and 2 months. We plan on getting engaged whenever our finances are ready (when we both have jobs) because otherwise, we feel that we are ready. We want to get married within the next 6 months, but most likely we will get married within the next year and a half.

 

[hiddentears37]

my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 3 years. we've talked about our plans for a while, that way we knew we were on the same page. We both want to wait until at least one of us is out of College(hopefully both of us). but we just dont' feel like we are adult enough to be engaged, but we know that one day we want to be. but he only has two more years in college, so the next couple of years could be pretty eventful.

 

[~BelovedDaughter~]

My SO and I started dating May 13, 2007 and he says it'll be at least a year until we get engaged. I say it's up to him, but I would marry him in a heartbeat if he were to ask me We have talked about it and we want to marry each other and our families feel the same way

 

[juzzi]

Nothing's set in stone or anything, but the basic outline is that we'll most likely get engaged once my boyfriend has finished his 3yr Uni course (Starting this October) in May/June 2010. We'll probably get married the year after that, making our wedding in about 4 years or so. We've been together for around about 2yrs

 

[ANurseInChrist]

My boyfriend, Richard, and I are on OUR timeline. Some say it's too fast, some say go for it. We have only been together 3 weeks, however, we are 39 / 40 and know what we want. We have spent an enormous amount of time together online, phone, some in person, etc. There is a peace that I can't describe and have never had before with this relationship. We have talked about marriage, but we aren't looking at a specific time. God brought us together and when Richard feels he wants to ask me to marry him, it should be between him, me and God. This shouldn't be a timeline which is "politically correct" or "socially acceptable", rather by God's peace and touch that leads us to marriage. I will be honored to be his wife at any time or stay g/f and b/f for a long time. It is up to the peace from God that he sets on our hearts and minds.... I know Richard is following God's will in our relationship and I am too.
Again, it's not our time line, but God's.