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[Salted_with_fire]

Hello all! I am not sure if this is the right place to post my question but here goes. I am approaching marriage and am starting to think about our future physical relationship, specifically whether or not [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]/cunninglus is 'morally' acceptable. To me, they seem demeaning and, for [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] specifically, a blatent disregard for the purpose of the man's seed. I am anxious to hear your thoughts.

His blessings,
Mike

 

[illudium_phosdex]

I have no problem with it at all. My husband and I enjoy both quite regularly. I don't think there's much that is off limits as long as it's within the boundaries of a married relationship.

 

[k450ofu3k-gh-5ipe]

No problem with either here.

 

[JaneFW]

Whatever is acceptable between husband and wife, that does not involve anything "outside" of the marriage bed (pornography, third party etc.) is all good. Perhaps you should be talking to your future wife about it?

 

[Conservativation]

Topic should be moved I think

Besides, WHO CARES what we think about it, honestly. I never get these topics, Im sorry if this sounds unkind, I just think some people find it titillating to start discussing things in groups, and at the end of the day, once you are married, I PROMISE you, what some strangers online said they are OK or not with it will not be of any import

 

[Salted_with_fire]

I do not know where to move it too and have to say, I am a bit offended that you think I posted this to be 'titillated'. I am trying to cast my bread upon many waters as I want to honor God, and my wife, to the best of my ability in my future marriage.

 

[Salted_with_fire]

We are in the process of discussing this. I am just looking at differing points of view on the subject.

 

[Conservativation]

Not you, sorry, not you being titillated, just thats the risk...someone be titillated (now here it comes Im drawing fire)

Anyway....Im not uptight about it, at all, and I think both are fine, no issues here

 

[Salted_with_fire]

No worries; I understand where you are coming from and agree with you. I wasn't sure if there was a sub-forum for these type of questions.

 

[Niffer]

I see no issue with any of that.
As long as both spouses enjoy it, what's the problem?
As for "seed" issues, no one is saying it has to go "all the way" - if you're uncomfortable with that aspect, just don't finish.

Lol, I'm trying to make sense here but still be politically correct....I feel it's no working.

- Niff

 

[Luther073082]

There is nothing in scripture which indicates that its morally unacceptable.

 

[BigDaddy4]

Hello all! I am not sure if this is the right place to post my question but here goes. I am approaching marriage and am starting to think about our future physical relationship, specifically whether or not [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]/cunninglus is 'morally' acceptable. To me, they seem demeaning and, for [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] specifically, a blatent disregard for the purpose of the man's seed. I am anxious to hear your thoughts.

His blessings,
Mike

What happens to the millions and billions of your "seed" that does not get planted (i.e. make your wife pregnant)? They die.

What happens if/when you use birth control in its many forms? They die.

What do you think God is more concerned with, the intimacy of sexual relations within the confines of marriage, or what happens to your little swimmers after [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]?

Keep God's perspective in mind and you will do fine.

 

[Hisbygrace]

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[citizenthom]

Nothing is "demeaning" between a husband and wife who approach the marriage bed with mutual submission to one another, as Scripture commands. And there is in fact something very empowering about the range of different ways you can please your spouse in bed--even if it looks from the outside like you are in a "demeaning" physical position when you do so.

You will learn more about this when you are actually engaged and studying the science of sex together, but a man's "seed" has more purposes than you think. The force of sperm through the penis is in fact the major component of the male [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]. In other words, God in fact intended your "seed" to come out of you not just for making babies, but also to give you pleasure.

That, and as Niffer alluded to, oral sex can also be just foreplay--it does not have to end in [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]. So if you really don't want to [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] from it, you don't have to.

 

[Speculative]

Besides, WHO CARES what we think about it, honestly...[snip]...and at the end of the day, once you are married, I PROMISE you, what some strangers online said they are OK or not with it will not be of any import

I agree with this. Anyway the OP answered his own question. If he or his wife are uncomfortable in any way with it, then it is wrong for them.

 

[dallasapple]

As far as Im concerned the mans "seed" has no more purpose for reproduction than the womans "seed" which she only uses typically a few of those in a lIFETIME for having children..the rest are litterally flushed out of her every month in blood.. ....unless you want to use it to have a baby its supposed to be washed away..just because the mans seed is expelled during sex doesnt mean its only destination should be to find an egg..that would make as much sense as saying that a woman shouldnt have sex AT ALL if she isnt fertile at the time.If you are looking at your reproduction organs including sperm as strictly for reproduction we should never have sex usign BC..or during pregnancy..or after menopause(or if the woman has to have a hysterectomy or is just plainly infertile) which would leave EVERY women OUT of the loop by around 50 for sex.Or how about men with "low sperm count"?Is it O.K for HIM to spill his seed other than "one place" because heck..theres not enough there anyway to impregnate why bother?

But for the average healthy fertile man?I wouldnt be worried about running out of or wasting "seed"..out of many trillions and trillions you will produce over your life time..Im sure you won't waste so much that a few arent left over to use for getting your wife pregnant.

And besides that..your wifes body just gets rid of it anyway..your "seed" isnt stored in her body somewhere in a bucket..Once "depostited" if all flushes out of her..IF she does happen to get pregnant its ONE out of billions of the sperm..the rest exits the same way her eggs do..So if you look at it that way..its just a matter of WHERE its going to get wasted..Im not trying to be mean..but sperm is a dime a dozen.

Dallas

 

[dallasapple]

Oh and one MORE thing..they have figured out(scientificially) that a womans [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] aides in drawing sperm up into her uterus..the contractions help propel the sperms upwards into her deeper...

So by your line of thinking..then the woman is "wasting an [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]" if she has one if she isnt filled up with sperm in the minutes directly preceding or following sperm beign depositied in her birth canal.

Dallas

 

[WolfGate]

Certainly isn't prohibited scripturally. Many believe Song of Soloman discusses.

Would fall into the area of personal conviction.

 

[bendslikeawillow]

Thank you for posting this.

Before we got married we both read "The First Years of Forever" by Ed Wheat. It was written a billion years lol, so of course didn't mention oral sex at all. And I haven't managed to find a truly modern book on this issue from a conservative Christian viewpoint (if anyone knows of one, please let me know). Christians who are engaged and have waited until marriage for sex really do struggle with this issue.

In the end, I BELIEVE, if it is an activity that promotes intimacy between the couple, if it is alright with both parties, and it doesn't involve any other people, it's good in God's eyes.

Other than that, I think Dallas has said it all

 

[highlife]

I would not be in a relationship where it was not a regular occurance, including more advanced oral sex.