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Those days

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Have you ever had those days when you're slowly starving to death for affection beyond hellos and professional conversation? When family only goes so far?

Those are the hard, dry, and empty days. You can do things for others and fill some, you can pray and fill others, but the echoes return. There are days when you simply want that hug and to just be together in close company...
 

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Amen. Today is definitely one of those days. I can't get in touch with any of my friends tonight and I really wanted to go somewhere. Maybe I can contact them tomorrow. I talked to my bro today but he was busy and needed to go. I really honestly wish I had a date, but I also don't want to be desperate for one. It looks like no one is in a position of wishing to ask me on one either, which is kinda rough. Feels like what I went through in high school all over again. It's so nice to just have someone to sit and talk to and be in your company, ya know? I just pray God will end my loneliness when the time is right. I think I may have upset one of my friends...but I don't know what I said to him...ugh I'm confused. I hope I didn't upset him :(
 
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Princess Pea said:
Human contact - I sometimes wonder, when I'm greeted by a coworker first thing in the morning, if he/she realizes that's the first human contact I've had all day!
I can relate. When I get to my internship I listen to everyone talk about their weekend or how last night they went with their husband (we're all female...that's social work for ya ;) ) to do some fun thing or how this one lady spent time with her grandkids. It's nice to hear their stories, but when I get home and it's quiet and there's no one there but the TV, it's hard. I have found that lately I will turn on the TV and just leave it as background noise because then I don't feel so alone. :(
 
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It has definetly been that week. In a way it can be good because it will cause you to seek out people and help them (ie in ministry)... but then at the end of the day you are still alone and you would rather someone reach out to hug you instead of you hugging on anyone that you can. :( Sigh, yeah I know how you feel.
 
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Living4Him03 said:
I have found that lately I will turn on the TV and just leave it as background noise because then I don't feel so alone. :(
I often do this too

TriptychR said:
The odd thing is I usually wake up the next morning feeling fine and wondering why I let myself be in such a funk before.
I often do this too
 
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Yes I have those times too it is tough at times not having that special person there in your life especially when trials come and we just have to be brave at times about it and wait upon God nothing else we can do. Guess it helps at these times to pray for those worse off well I find that helps and it puts everything into perspective to pray for those that are really sick or have lost their loved ones through death have lost their homes in disasters etc etc. Life does seem to be tough at times and a series of struggles. Thing is I guess to wake up each day and just say Lord what would you have me do today and to just live each day for him. And to be thankful for the good things in our lifes which ok right now do not include a special person to love and be loved in return but do include other good things!!!!
 
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Well, I think anyone who says he hasn't had a day like you're describing is lying. It seems that each of us get lonely from time to time, especially those (myself included) living the single life.

I find my comfort in realizing that I am not alone in my situation. I do this by looking up sites such as this one, as well as sites where there are people with similar interests and life stages. The great thing about the internet is that there is so much information available that can be beneficial in helping us deal with our problems.

Another thing I like to do is help someone else. It doesn't matter where I am, there is almost always be some kind of opportunity to do something for someone around. It can be something small like cooking dinner for a family member or talking with a grandparent. Volunteering is also a good thing to do something for someone else.

When we help others, it takes our mind off ourselves and places our focus on the other person. Give it a try. It doesn't take long and you'll feel the difference.
 
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rainbowprism said:
...you would rather someone reach out to hug you instead of you hugging on anyone that you can. :( Sigh, yeah I know how you feel.
After a while you can only pour yourself out so much and really ache for someone to pour back.

Well, happily it's the morning - a good meal, a long hot shower, and a good night's sleep don't do everything, but they're helpful.
 
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KeilCoppes said:
After a while you can only pour yourself out so much and really ache for someone to pour back.

Well, happily it's the morning - a good meal, a long hot shower, and a good night's sleep don't do everything, but they're helpful.


Amen!
And thank You God!
 
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