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Kelly

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Found this link on MSN. It's a book about how marriage is harmful to humanity.
http://slate.msn.com/id/2087897/

What kind of world would we live in if no one had to commit to anyone else? What kind of children would we raise and what kind of world would they inherit? One where personal satisfaction and selfishness reigned, where you never bond with someone, change and grow with them.

It left me sort of sickened.
 

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Marriage is a beautiful union when a man and a woman hold Christ as the foundation of their relationship. Love is not about stubborness and pride and poor me...It's all your fault I lost my idenity. Love does not blame. Love does not invoke vengence and wrath. I think many marriages end because people aren't big enough to let go of selfish desires. I don't think many understand the vows in the sense that they are a covenant with God. People ignore them and recite them. They find them simplly pretty and romantic words. They have no faith in their vows. Very sad.

The best years of my life have been under the covenant of marriage. We have grown to understand devotion. We raise our children under a roof of love and respect. We are not perfect our journey gets extremely bumpy because all humans are imperfect. We survive our troubles because we can forgive. We grow together as one because we can release our pride. Love is bigger than pride. Material things are trinkets compared to the true emotional connection love provides. Trinkets only dress up an apperance. Love tears down apperances and reveals the naked truth about people. We are not rich in material things, but this does not bother me. Neither do I desire the material things of others; I have discovered what being rich really means. One could strive for material possesions for a lifetime and still have a void in their life.

As for my children, I also wish for them to know what real riches are. I pray that they are wise enough to look for the real value of life. The value is not one's self. The value is not the emptiness of pride. The value of richness is found in love.
 
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I think that's a great answer!!

Love has made me feel complete as a person. :yum:

Since I found my fiancee, I have felt that I have found myself. I am happy within myself, it has given me the strength and the courage to challenge what I want with my life. And I found that I want to make the people around me as happy as I am.
If people can't commit themselves, I think they wander around desparately looking for something and never finding it (actually has a male friend who is) and he just appears shallow.
 
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Marriage harmful to society?! :eek: Boloney!

The opposite is true. (Get ready for a long post)

Anthropologist J. D. Unwin conducted an exhaustive study of the 88 civilizations which have existed in the history of the world. Each culture has reflected a similar life cycle, beginning with a strict code of sexual conduct and ending with the demand for complete "freedom" to express individual passion. Unwin reports that every society which extended sexual permissiveness to its people (i.e., demolish marriage) was soon to perish. There have been no exceptions.

Compared with unmarried people, married men and women tend to have lower mortality, less risky behavior, more monitoring of health, more compliance with medical regimens, higher sexual frequency, more satisfaction with their sexual lives, more financial savings, and higher wages. A lower mortality risk among those who are married has been shown to persist even after health in early adulthood was controlled. This suggests that at least part of the benefit of marriage is not the result of selection of healthier people.

Adverse outcomes accrue to children of divorce and children raised in single-parent families. Although not all single-parent families are the result of divorce and not all divorced mothers remain single, virtually all children of divorce spend some time in a single-parent household until the mother remarries. Even when the mother does remarry, studies suggest that children in step families are similar to children in single-parent families; both groups of children do worse than children living with two parents in terms of academic achievement, depression, and behavior problems such as drug and alcohol abuse, premarital sexual intercourse, and being arrested.

Compared with two-parent families, single-parent families demonstrate lower levels of parental involvement in school activities and lower student achievement. Children raised in single-parent families are more likely to drop out of high school, have lower grades and attendance while in school, and are less likely to attend and graduate from college than children raised in two-parent families. They are more likely to be out of school and unemployed and are more likely to become single parents than children raised in two-parent families. Studies have found that compared with children in two-parent families, children of divorce score lower on measures of self-concept, social competence, conduct, psychological adjustment, and long-term health.

Married people live longer, experience less depression, are more emotionally and physically healthy, have lower rates of alcoholism and substance abuse, and higher income and savings levels than the unmarried. The lowest rates for mental hospital admissions are consistently found among the married.

Sociologists acknowledge that when families remain intact, it creates a cohesive, integrating effect on its members, which serves as a strong deterrent to suicidal tendencies—for parents and children. The benefits of marriage and family have been proven to directly affect both the parents and children of the couple. For example, the state would not have to be burdened with caring for fatherless children or the elderly who never had children.

Traditional marriage improves the health of its participants, has the lowest rate of domestic violence, prolongs life, and is the best context in which to raise children.

TAKE THAT, MSN! :p
 
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lambslove said:
The Bible says that in the Last Days, the good things would be regarded as bad and undesirable, and bad things would be regarded as good and desirable.I think we're there.

can you tell me the location of that in the bible, I'd like to show it to someone else I've given this rotten article to. Thanks in advance! :wave:
 
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I think the author is just alone and miserable...maybe (s)he has had numerous failed relationships and/or had her/his heart broken too many times and has become bitter about marriage and love. Personally, I can't wait to get married and spend the rest of my life with my sweetheart.
 
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