This is Me

[Prodical]

Well, I can't believe I'm in this situation. My wife and I have been seperated since Fubruary 13, 2007. Yeah, the day before Valentines Day. We got into a huge arguement over NOTHING. She ran to her parents and they suggested calling the cops and getting an Ex parte Order of Protection so I couldnt see my daughter.

We went to court last week and I can only see my daughter Saturdays from 10am-6pm. My wife wants a divorce and my heart has crumbled b/c of this.

I have grown from this experience and still am. I thank God that he has taken me to the side and gotten me alone. This way, all the things Ive ran from, God can now address to me. I have given my situation completely to him and just pray to accept what he allows. I love my wife beyond measure and pray for reconcilitation, but I will wait to see what God wants.

 

[tryingtobeagain]

I'm sorry to hear about your situation. We seem to lean on each other when necessary and it's great to have the people on this board to talk to who understand how you're feeling and what you're going through. I'll keep you in my prayers.

 

[psalms66]

Prodical,

I hear ya. I never would have dreamed I'd be a single mother of 4 when I married my husband almost 15 years ago. It's a hard thing to live through but I can tell from your post that you're determined to GROW from it, not wither up in self-pity. You'll probably have a few of those moments too (self-pity I mean) and that's ok. I now plan mine. lol They are a weekly "ritual" involving a glass of red wine and 3 chocolate truffles.

There is a buddhist saying that says something like, "When fear knocks on you door, invite him in, welcome him, offer him a cup of tea. See if he brings a gift for you. Then show him the door. Do not allow him to take residence there."

Accepting what is happening and accepting whatever comes your way as being the Hand of God in our lives is, I think , the key to surviving divorce with victory.

PS - don't worry, I'm a devout Jesus freak, not a buddhist. I just thought this was really beneficial when I read it and thought I'd share.

 

[Prodical]

I understand what you are saying psalm