This is going to sound really stupid but -

[leytonstones]

I never realised I was/am a carer.

Hubby has a brain tumour and was recently diagnosed with hydrochephalus and had a valve and shunt inserted.

We just got on with things and it never occurred to me that i'm a carer, but I am feeling like I need some support at the moment, or is that just me being weak?

 

[Criada]

No, it's not you being weak!
Needing support is part of being human... and it's the way God designed us... so please don't feel guilty about that! "Just getting on with things' is fine, but sometimes you will need others to lean on.
Praying for you, sweetie, and here if you need a listening ear.

 

[the.Sheepdog]

What the lovely Criada said! Being a care giver can in itself be lonely! We are hear for you when you need to vent!

 

[rambot]

Carers are wonderful people that are so important. But sometimes they forget they are important and don't take any time to enjoy themselves. Care and love! And take some time to read a book or something you enjoy!
I'll be thinking about you.

 

[Jenafer]

A lot of times this care giving is a lonely thing.. full of fear and stress. It is horrible watching a loved one suffer and not know the outcome of an illness at times.

Be kind and patient to yourself.. do the best you can a day at a time.. and if things get really bad just do what comes next.. like the dishes.. preparing a meal.. etc..

There is no right way or wrong way.. there is your way and often it is a matter of muddling through..

 

[eternalson]

Imagine the hurdles we could get over with the support of others. All those who through in the towel did so at least some because of the lack of support they received. Asking for support is a strength that ensures our success in life. That is why I think as powerful and loving as God and Jesus is They give us each other to lean on. Those who are carers or {servants} are the greatest among us because when we are feeling weak there is always someone to come to our aid. In your husband's case you are his aid let someone be your aid.

P.S. The Apostle Paul said it was when he felt weak that in Christ he was most truly powerful.

 

[plumbernater]

I know how you feel. I too have been caring for my daughter for 18 years now. My wife Sheila has always been there for her as well. I would be able to work, come home and then give her a hand. Over the last couple of years my wife and help has had some health issues take hold of her and make it hard for her to do the things she use to. Its put alot on me now Im taking care of two now. My wife can still do some but cant lift or do anything phycal as she use to. I to some times feel over welmed. I cant hold a job and servive, rely on odd jobs the LORD sends my way and HE is faithful. We also have a granddaughter we have been raising since she was born, shes 9 now. Believe it or not she is a lot of help growing up around this she takes to the chores at hand like you wouldnt believe. I wake and thank my LORD for each day and the strength to do what HE has put in front of me for that day. I sometimes are not the best follower but HE always gets me through. I will pray for my sisters help in this care giving thing. I never looked at it as I was a care giver either. I was just doing what I was suppose to do.

 

[leytonstones]

Thank you for your lovely replies and I pray the Lord's blessing on all of you in your various circumstances.

My husband is doing quite well. The scans show that the tumour has started to reduce in size following the radiotherapy and it is now sufficiently reduced that it is taking some pressure off the brain stem. This is a wonderful answer to prayer! He does have a balance problem though and I feel I can't leave him too long as he can fall upstairs as well as downstairs! and recently he lost his balance and fell backwards into the greenhouse - thank goodness he was wearing a big old jacket and no harm came to him except being a bit shaken up. I do think we need to move to a smaller place now.

Blessings

Ley