This Guy...I'm Clueless!

[MrsGnomeCrusher]

I just want to know HOW to GET him interested

Be supportive and be yourself. It sounds as if he was a bit interested before hand. If there's something there, it'll work out for you. I don't think it's a good idea to stress a realtionship at this point while he's over there. Just let him know you're interested in getting together when he comes home and go from there.

I used to do that perfume thing with my ex while he was on float. He probably used it as TP. Hope it stung.

 

[jenptcfan]

I think one of the most important things is just to be confident in yourself. Know that you're a good catch and even if things don't work out with this particular guy, it's probably more of a no fault incompatibility thing than a personal slam against you.

 

[Living4Him03]

I'm definitely not ready to start dating anyone again just yet, but I want to get to know this guy and for whatever reason I passed up the opportunity when he was here in the states. I guess I feel like now is my chance to at least let him know I am interested in getting to know him and that I care. Before i'm not sure I conveyed that very well because with guys like him I tend to be standoffish...not that I mean to, just that I'll get shy and get afraid of being rejected. I hope the care package lets him know that he does mean something to me and isn't just some guy out there. I also wanted to send one cuz I know that it has to be tough doing what those guys are doing and they need to have something to remind them of good times and to have a little fun.
Hehe...about the perfume thing, I included wet ones, cottonelle wipes, AND clorox wipes. So, he has plenty stuff to use for toilet paper other than my letter lol.

 

[SDSUMarcus01]

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[Living4Him03]

A friend of mine was telling me she thinks he never knew I liked him. I mean I was nice to him but I didn't really flirt or anything...I guess I assumed he was out of my league or was too intimidated by him. I usually dont have a big problem talking to guys, but I got nervous around him and had so much I wanted to say but I just didn't talk much. Since I didn't talk to him much my friends used to think I didn't like him. So, I tried to be more talkative but again I was really nervous. I guess I didn't want to try and pursue something that I didn't think would ever happen. I don't know. Apparently he never knew I liked him and still doesn't know.

 

[Living4Him03]

I guess the big care package with all kinds of stuff could be a hint lol

 

[SDSUMarcus01]

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[Living4Him03]

sure, shoot. I'm open

Well, good tips sdsumarcus, BUT he's in Iraq at the moment, so I can't exactly stand close to him. I always did out of default when I was around him before because I was so attracted to him...it felt nice to stand close to him and be able to smell his cologne

I was sorta in denial that I liked him lol. But when I really like a guy I'll normally get standoffish and ignore him somewhat, not like get away from me you weirdo ignoring, but just like pretending I don't really notice him sometimes to see how he responds. Us women are strange I suppose

 

[SDSUMarcus01]

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[Living4Him03]

yep same with women. I don't know why we have such silly logic, but we do! then we realize how silly it was!

Anyway, I got your PM and I'll reply as soon as I can. I have class tonight at six and some errands to run before then, but I'll get back to you on that after my class is over. God bless!

 

[Justin04]

Living4him,
After reading this post it reminds me that we all have some daddy issues to deal with.......... dont take that the wrong way. your neat.

 

[Living4Him03]

um ok. that was kind of weird. how does this thread make you think of dad issues?

 

[Justin04]

um ok. that was kind of weird. how does this thread make you think of dad issues?

The way that certain posters portray themselfs.

 

[Living4Him03]

I still dont' understand what you're talking about. Who portrays themself as what?

Update on the care package: Okay so I sent it on July 13th priority mail. That means it should get there at least by the first week in August I'm hoping. Still no more emails from him but I don't think anyone has gotten one. I'm sure he's pretty busy over there! I can't wait til he and his guys get my care package! They are gonna love it!

 

[Justin04]

I just think your a funny person (in a good way). Just the way you talk about yourself and your life. Your extremly interesting to me.

Just the way certain people talk about their lives and who they are is it. (sorry maybe i'm just dumb.)

 

[The Traveller]

Well after getting over the terrible phrase "dumped" you used i would say yes write to him but don't try to "be" or "do" so much, just be you. Make an effort to communicate but that's it, if he likes you he likes you, if he doesn't he doesn't. Mind you getting to like someone sometimes takes time as that person grows on you. Other girls should not be a factor as it doesn't matter how many girls are after him, the one he likes could still be you. Don't get your hopes up though, just have fun communicating. If you look at this as a plan to try to start dating him you'll build up your hopes and you might be dissapointed. Would you be happy with a friendship only, if so you're much more likely to be sucessful romantically as you will be more natural in your relationship with him i think.

 

[Living4Him03]

Well, he added me to his yahoo buddy list, but the time difference is like 9 hours! Might be kinda hard to be online at the same time he is. Oh well! I hope he gets my care package soon! It's been a full week since I sent it, so surely it's almost there if not already since I sent it Priority! As I've said, I don't know him well, and would like to know him better. So before considering dating him or anything I need to get to know him, and it's not very plausible to try and start something while he's at war. That would be pretty selfish, but I can be supportive as a friend and pray for him and send cool care packages for him and his guys!