This guy at school

[thenewageriseth]

This dude who I mistook as "gay" the first time I met him, personally in Ceramics, seemingly is NOT "gay" and now I think that he's flipped his lid, cuz he came at me yesterday morning talking about how he was thinking of me all last weekend, after meeting him in that class last week. I thought that was normal, but a lil discomforting since I had no interest in him(He had his signals crossed about my interest but I was just being nice to him-I'm nice to lotsa folks if they are nice to me-<STAFF EDIT>, but then he started talking about how he had this "vision" of us getting married and having a family. God TOLD HIM, he claims. (But we JUST met last week! >_< I had <STAFF EDIT> written all over my face). Plus, afterwards I had agreed to go with him to the library, cuz he was going to show me some of his music interests and stuff on the net, all awhile we went walking and he started trying to link arms with me on campus (I tried to pull away)...
.I tried to pull away gently. And he started shouting to some folks that I was his future WIFE! Talk about being mortified. And I was trying to tell him nicely, that I was not interested in marriage or dating... So what should I do? Drop him or keep him as a friend? At least, I want to be a friend, but not a prospective wife. Hell no. Not even my type. And he's a VIRGO male, and I'm sure <STAFF EDIT> not interested in Virgo males, seeing as they are workaholics and bossy as <STAFF EDIT>. (<---Astrology enthusiast.) (I want a Pisces XD.lol) What to do? What to do?

My dad and bro said dude's WHACK and my mom says I ought not make fun of him, and he seems nice, and who knows... Sureeee

Hey, y'all, lol. He's looking for someone to marry...I guess it must be one of life's WEIRD <STAFF EDIT> synchronicities, in terms of me meeting him and being friendly to him at the WRONG time. He has a lotta female friends on campus. Male, too, I believe. Why me, right??? >_<
1 month ago

This is what I wrote on Yahoo Answers, some weeks ago.
Does this sound like a guy who is balanced and mature?

 

[Sketcher]

The way I see it, you're going to either reject him now or later.

 

[thenewageriseth]

The way I see it, you're going to either reject him now or later.

I was told by many ppl to "cut him loose", cuz he's bad news.

 

[StarryEyes]

sounds like you've already made up your mind

 

[NESHero]

Yea, i really hate situations like this, it feels like you are trapped dont it?
My advice is to maybe just stay friends as you want and not ditch him all together, tell him like you said, you are not interested, just friends, it maybe a hard thing to say but as soon as u say it you gonna have a sigh of releaf,

On a side note, Im Pisces

 

[ALASKACHICK10]

Okay, I'm sorry! but I sorta laughed a wee bit at this, because this reminds of something that happened to me!!! Don't you hate it when some people don't get that your just being nice and friendly to them??

 

[NESHero]

Well yea the guy obviously isnt going out of his way to hurt you, but just make sure you tell him what you think, he is a bit wacky i agree but just make sure he doesn't do anything funny or stupid if he doesn't like your desionion. but no problem with just being friends.

 

[TheReasoner]

ah. My wife was confronted by someone like this a few years back. Not good.

A relevant (and funny) story:

I used to be connected with YWAM. Still am to some extent.
One year there was a guy who could be described as 'mr. perfect' on a DTS. Passionate about the Lord, Good conversationalist, socially responsible, exceptionally intelligent, model-level good looking, physically able (strong), excellent musician and very loyal.

About ten women approached one of the leaders, all claiming God had told them to marry him...

I say, reject him.

 

[WileyCoyote]

If the guy wants to marry you after knowing you a week, he's not balanced. If he's telling others that you are his future wife while you are standing right there, he's not mature. If he keeps trying to lock arms with you when you continually pull away and make it known you are not interested, he's AGGRESSIVE. Sounds like a dangerous combination to me. Tell the guy to either calm down or take a hike. If he really cares for you, he will respect your wishes. If he keeps harassing you, he doesn't care for you. That's my two cents.

 

[NESHero]

i think the above poster pretty much summed it up.
Becareful

 

[Evangelina]

Could be that he's stressed about all the '_____ is gay' rumours and going overboard in trying to prove otherwise. Doesn't mean he is or isn't, just that the stress might be part of the problem. And being socially awkward!

I'd say, have a talk with him. Tell him that a) you're NOT interested in a relationship, b) if God wants you to marry him, you're sure God will tell YOU about it too and c) for the foreseeable future, he needs to keep his hands off you, respect your boundaries, and NOT bug you about it, because that will cause you to decide that he's an <unmentionable on this forum> and avoid him.

PS. NICE people respect other people's desires and limits. NASTY people don't.

PPS. You might think it's nasty to be so blunt with him. Being blunt now is a whole lot less painful than letting him think he's in for a couple of years until he finally wakes up to reality and gets his heart broken BAD.

 

[TheReasoner]

If the guy wants to marry you after knowing you a week, he's not balanced. If he's telling others that you are his future wife while you are standing right there, he's not mature. If he keeps trying to lock arms with you when you continually pull away and make it known you are not interested, he's AGGRESSIVE. Sounds like a dangerous combination to me. Tell the guy to either calm down or take a hike. If he really cares for you, he will respect your wishes. If he keeps harassing you, he doesn't care for you. That's my two cents.

Agreed. (Reps to you WoF)

 

[8462]

if you look at this situation from a biblical perspective... There are many aspects that need to be taken into consideration. First, ask yourself if maybe God does want this person to be in your life. As a Christian a person should not make up his or her mind based on what they want but rather on what God's will is.
Second, who knows if this guy is really into you? Maybe he is just joking around. If he isn't then be nice about telling him that you just want to be friends. Third, Don't completely cut him loose until you pray and make sure that God is not trying to tell you something. Nothing is worse than ignoring the Lord.
Maybe this guy is not the one for you but you should always try and find a deeper meaning in things. Some things may seem rare on the surface but if you dig deeper you may find that they have more meaning on the inside. Time will tell... Give it a little time with God.

 

[Allegory]

Don't listen to 8462, get rid of this guy cause he sounds like a psycho.

 

[thenewageriseth]

Yea, i really hate situations like this, it feels like you are trapped dont it?
My advice is to maybe just stay friends as you want and not ditch him all together, tell him like you said, you are not interested, just friends, it maybe a hard thing to say but as soon as u say it you gonna have a sigh of releaf,

On a side note, Im Pisces

Wow. Didn't know you were a Pisces.

 

[thenewageriseth]

Okay, I'm sorry! but I sorta laughed a wee bit at this, because this reminds of something that happened to me!!! Don't you hate it when some people don't get that your just being nice and friendly to them??

Oh yes, those sitches SUCK

 

[thenewageriseth]

Well yea the guy obviously isnt going out of his way to hurt you, but just make sure you tell him what you think, he is a bit wacky i agree but just make sure he doesn't do anything funny or stupid if he doesn't like your desionion. but no problem with just being friends.

Problem is, I haven't seen him in days. Weeks even. Last time I spoke to him he needed money and wanted ME to bail him out and since I didn't do that, on account of me thinking he'll always want money and 2. Me needing that money for bus fare, he has not showed up for Ceramics class. At all. I hope it has nothing to do with ME.

 

[thenewageriseth]

ah. My wife was confronted by someone like this a few years back. Not good.

A relevant (and funny) story:

I used to be connected with YWAM. Still am to some extent.
One year there was a guy who could be described as 'mr. perfect' on a DTS. Passionate about the Lord, Good conversationalist, socially responsible, exceptionally intelligent, model-level good looking, physically able (strong), excellent musician and very loyal.

About ten women approached one of the leaders, all claiming God had told them to marry him...

I say, reject him.

LOL Wow!

 

[thenewageriseth]

If the guy wants to marry you after knowing you a week, he's not balanced. If he's telling others that you are his future wife while you are standing right there, he's not mature. If he keeps trying to lock arms with you when you continually pull away and make it known you are not interested, he's AGGRESSIVE. Sounds like a dangerous combination to me. Tell the guy to either calm down or take a hike. If he really cares for you, he will respect your wishes. If he keeps harassing you, he doesn't care for you. That's my two cents.

That's what I thought from the get go and was being all-too nice. I was just being friendly as one of the posters puts it and it started that day when he said he was going to the bookstore and said he'd be back but then I didn't feel like waiting for him so in turn, I went to the bookstore myself and he thought I was leading him on! :O
But thanks for your two cents.

 

[thenewageriseth]

if you look at this situation from a biblical perspective... There are many aspects that need to be taken into consideration. First, ask yourself if maybe God does want this person to be in your life. As a Christian a person should not make up his or her mind based on what they want but rather on what God's will is.
Second, who knows if this guy is really into you? Maybe he is just joking around. If he isn't then be nice about telling him that you just want to be friends. Third, Don't completely cut him loose until you pray and make sure that God is not trying to tell you something. Nothing is worse than ignoring the Lord.
Maybe this guy is not the one for you but you should always try and find a deeper meaning in things. Some things may seem rare on the surface but if you dig deeper you may find that they have more meaning on the inside. Time will tell... Give it a little time with God.

Hehe okay. Interesting POV, 8462. Like at least 5 women told me to watch out for this guy and stop hanging with him. 2 said that he owed them money. 3 say that he's gay. Another in the bookstore on campus says that he's a "hot mess". One laughed when her associate told her that I was inquiring about Josh's refusal to pay the women back and she said" Baby, bye..."
Dude's a total nutcase and I wish I knew why he hasn't been going to class just to relieve my worries, cuz I hope the reason ain't me, not giving him money. I'd call him but another part of me says "no, he'd keep bugging you for money, etc."
Plus he's hella ugly. (My flesh side coming out lol) You'd gag if you saw him, too. JK. Seriously, though.
Hella ugly-he ain't no Denzel.