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StaySalty said:I'll start by asking whether or not you are a virgin
StaySalty said:how important it is to you to marry a virgin?
Diane_Windsor said:You go first.
I don't mean to single you out, this is something that I think a lot of people would feel.Eagle_Wings said:...I just wouldn't want to be compared to the other people he's been with.
I have thought of this too. I am a virgin, but it is hard to find guys out there who haven't slept with some girl already. I mean it would be great to find a guy out there who is a Christian and a virgin...but nowadays it is almost unheard of.thrach said:I personally have a hard time understanding the honeymoon would be soo special if the virginity isn't mutual. Its like "thanks god its almost perfect except he/she didn't wait and I did". Why settle for second best? To me that just isn't good enough.
My husband would disagree with you. I was quite promiscuous before I was a Christian and I can assure you that I am not second best. I can also assure you that our honeymoon was nothing short of beautiful.thrach said:I personally have a hard time understanding the honeymoon would be soo special if the virginity isn't mutual. Its like "thanks god its almost perfect except he/she didn't wait and I did". Why settle for second best? To me that just isn't good enough.
I actually compare my husband all the time. Because of the love and the grace and the gift of this beautiful marriage that God has given us, I reflect all the time on how our love making is more beautiful than that sad stuff I experienced when I was so lost.Hope_0004 said:Hmm... I don't really think that nonvirgins "compare" people to other people... is that true? I mean, yeah, having more experiences will obviously give you more knowledge than others, but if you're not the type of person who compares people to other people, you won't, and if you are, then you will.
Either way, I don't really think it is something to worry about... if you are with a nonvirgin and you are a virgin, I hope they know you're a virgin and will of course take that into consideration in any judgments they make on your performance. My guess would be someone would think it was so special you were giving them your virginity that they wouldn't be thinking of judging you, though.
thrach said:I meant I as in "Me personally" dont want to be second best. I want to be worth waiting for and if I were to marry a non-virgin then I will feel I wasn't worth it because obviously the person didn't wait for me. I also don't see how mine could be appreciated if someone couldn't appreciate their own as to throw theirs away to someone else. I would also be very jealous that I wasn't first and only and that just wont fly with me because it would be too painfull.
Being as there aren't a lot of widows my age, I think that's highly unlikely. But I would make an exception in that case. I won't have to deal with the baggage that former party girls have to carry.Diane_Windsor said:What if God wants you to marry a widow/widower?
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