The Truth About Birth Control

[Wiffey]

Ufonium, the women in my family have a long history of GYN problems and other problems that interfered with fertility by their mid-30's. Knowing that, I always knew that if I wished to breed, it needed to be when I was young and healthy. When I got pregnant with my daughter I was 23, fit as a horse. Lo and behold I had an exceedingly hard pregnancy full of complications, but was able to deliver a healthy baby (I was 24 when she was born).

Due to medical problems that would make another pregnancy potentially deadly, several years ago I underwent a tubal ligation. I thank God for my daughter. If I had tried to wait until my 30's (I've spent most of my 30's having and recovering from major spinal surgeries), I would not have been able to have children at all.

The truth is that our bodies and our health are best able to support pregnancy while we are younger. Don't be afraid to tell your OBGYN that you aren't interested in the pill (if you want children).

Children do not require a lot of fancy things in order to grow up happy. They need a roof, food, medical care and LOVE. So many people wait, thinking that they need to be able to afford Harvard before they reproduce. Sadly, alot of women wait too long and don't realize it until it's too late.

 

[EllenMoran]

Wiffey-

Do you have any resources on the fertility decline as a woman ages? I hadn't heard the specific age of 27 before. My husband and I want to try right around then (though I'd love a baby anytime ), but I'm concerned because of family history that I might have a harder time having a child. My mom had me at 23, then had 3 miscarriages between myself and my brother. (She was able to have 2 more children -- one right after my first brother and then another boy when she was 40).

 

[sculpturegirl]

My mom and I are currently arguing over this. She and my grandmother both had reproductive problems that left them unable to conceive by age 30. So, I'm in the high risk category for this type of stuff. I've never been to a gyno, and I'm 24 and about to get married. I won't go because I know that no matter what is wrong with me (even if there's nothing wrong, probably) they are going to want to put me on the pill. I have several friends who have been put on it for everything from acne to depression, so I know they would put me on it based on family history alone. Ugh!

Just accept the prescription and don't fill it if you don't want to take it. If you refuse the prescription, they will write on your charts "Refused medication, patient difficult," but they do not come to your house to see if you have taken it or not. My chart has that written all over it and doctors hate to see me! LOL! It is still beneficial to be checked out to make sure there is no cancer, etc. However, if you don't want to go to the gyno before you are married, don't. A lot of people would recommend that you do to make sure everything is OK, but if you think it will be traumatic, wait until after you are married. I am sure that a few months aren't going to hurt anything. I didn't find the experience of going to the OB/GYN traumatizing at all, but some girls do.

I would suggest seeing a naturopathic doctor. She can offer natural treatments for you. Much more effective and not harmful.

 

[sculpturegirl]

Wiffey-

Do you have any resources on the fertility decline as a woman ages? I hadn't heard the specific age of 27 before. My husband and I want to try right around then (though I'd love a baby anytime ), but I'm concerned because of family history that I might have a harder time having a child. My mom had me at 23, then had 3 miscarriages between myself and my brother. (She was able to have 2 more children -- one right after my first brother and then another boy when she was 40).

I have heard 27 as well- when it begins to decline. I will be 28 by the time we marry- YIKES! We have a hugely fertile family. My grandmother had 7 children and the last one was born to her at 40 with NO fertility drugs or complications. My mother was pregnant very easily, too. We are going to get started pretty soon after we are married a.) just to be sure b.) the alarm from the biological clock is going off like CRAZY!

It is really crazy how more and more women are waiting later and later. With this and the Pill it is no wonder that so many women are having trouble concieving

Plus, I know one woman whose diet was so terrible that she was rendered infertile. They decide to continue to forgo the broccoli and take Clovent (sp?) instead. A drug over some greens? Like our mothers always said, "Eat your vegetables!"

 

[Filia Mariae]

Shakkai,

I'm sorry you're going through all this, but I am so glad you've found a good doctor. I will pray that God will give you a baby if it is His will.

 

[Filia Mariae]

But another rerason she is on the pill is that her menstruation cycles are crazy. She can have a menstruation period twice in a month sometimes. They come without warning as well as NO ability to monitor them effectively. The doctors have solved this problem with the pill, too.

But really, they haven't. She isn't actually getting her period, she is just having break through bleeding. I had the exact same experience. Tell her to buy Marilyn Shannon's Fertility, Cycles, and Nutrition. I was able to stop taking the pill and resolve the issue nutritionally.

 

[ukok]

Shakkai,

I'm sorry you're going through all this, but I am so glad you've found a good doctor. I will pray that God will give you a baby if it is His will.

I second that.

 

[DivineFiliation]

Thanks Carly and Ukok! you support is appreciated. If God wills it, it will happen... should he not, my husband and I must accept.