The silence of God or "when is enough really enough?"

[Bru]

I do understand your situation more than you know and I will pray for you and all abused women across the world. When you're in this situation you think no one cares and you always think about what people will think and it can be very embrassing and shameful to you even though you didn't do anything wrong anf that's a shame that you have to feel that way and they the abuser doesn't. They just go on living their lives and meanwhile you have take off work and they don't, you have to heal and they don't etc. I know that it's a sin to have an affair when you're married, but I also understand how you were probably feeling at the time. You probably needed soemone to love you and not hit you and feel secure. You probably looked at every man you say and every couple you saw wondering if they abuse their spouse and wondering why you have to be a statistic as an abused wife out of all the men in the world you had to get an abusive one. Keep your head up, keep praying and whatever decision you make you will be ok.

 

[salsa]

I know that leaving is not the right thing, but I am going to do it anyway. Does that make sense? Probably not. I don't always make sense to me either. Even though things have been "good" recently I think I have had enough. There are so many sins in the world and divorce is views as so bad because it is more visible to others than many sins.

I emailed my dad telling him things weren't going well etc. and did not go into any detail but he wrote me back and it was nice to get that started. I am not sure what exactly to tell him at this point.

I am scared about moving out. Even with our issues moving out leaves me to the unknown. I don't know what will happen or how it will go. I feel so insecure about it. Am I supposed to do some sort of legal separation? I don't know anything at all. I am so confused and I think I am suffering from depression because I've been crying a lot at it seems like nothing and I have no motivation to do anything. At work I have been almost late a lot (and I used to be always early/on time) and I find myself looking for the easy job rather than taking on more than anyone else like I used to, I can barely focus on school, and its just hard to have so much going on.

I want something better. Kinda selfish, but I do.

 

[mehrunissa]

The Bible defines our views as Christians. I suggest you read what it says about when divorce is acceptable before you ignorantly comment on it.

hmmmmm exegesis please

 

[salsa]

There seems to be a change, maybe it is the fact that my parents are now praying. He is being nice.... I am moving out on Sunday, we shall see.

 

[Living4Him03]

Sounds like the typical profile of a case of spouse abuse. Learning to develop avoidance skills, not fighting back anymore, etc. Lemme give you and other women a hotline you can call (provided by a few ladies in my social work class who work in domestic violence):

1-800-799-SAFE
Or
1-800-787-3224
That's for the National Domestic Violence Hotline (in the U.S.).

There are also probably local women's shelters that can provide answers to questions and assistance. The hotline should provide a number for you to call or site to visit. Hope this helps someone here.

 

[Living4Him03]

By the way, emotional abuse is also intolerable and the hotline provides help for someone who is experiencing or has experienced any abuse. I haven't tried it, but righ tnow it's the best resource I can provide.

 

[Living4Him03]

You need to get help and get away from this man. Also, if they are true Christian friends they will not condemn you for getting a divorce from a man who abuses you. If he is not willing to change, you cannot continue being married to him. You are in my prayers.

 

[Living4Him03]

Faith doesn't necessarily mean you know what will happen. Continue to have faith and trust in God to heal your marriage. With the hotline, you don't have to end up in a shelter or anything like that. They can just talk with you and give you further resources if needed.

 

[desi]

hmmmmm exegesis please

Genesis 3:16 and Matthew 19:3.