The "R" Word

[Carri20]

I don't know if this is the right forum to post this in, but I would really like your thoughts..

If a guy comes over to his girlfriend's house and they start kidding around, and then he traps her in her bedroom and won't let her leave until she has sex with him, but he makes it all out to be some kind of game even though she keeps saying "no" and telling him to stop...and they both know that the girl's father will be home soon and there's a "no boys in the house" rule...and the boyfriend tells his girlfriend that if she doesn't have sex with him, he'll stay until her father comes home so she'll get in trouble...and she gets scared because she knows her father might literally kill her boyfriend if he finds him there...so she goes ahead and has sex with him...is that like some kind of rape or abuse?

 

[Chaan Stines]

Yes, it is. "No" means "no."

 

[Terri12345]

Were they already involved in a sexual relationship?

If they were already having sex, the guy may have just THOUGHT he was kidding around and stuff when in reality it probably wasn't that great of an idea.

If they WEREN'T having sex already....then, yeah it kinda is some sort of "abuse".

 

[Carri20]

They were involved in a sexual relationship at one time but the girlfriend had been very clear telling her boyfriend that she didn't want to live that way anymore, and it had been about a year or more later that this happened.

 

[lady_of_god]

I would say definitely it is abuse, and to stay far away from him. He knew that she wasn't kidding when she said "no", because she stated that she'd changed her lifestyle in the past to him. It wasn't physically forced this time (it was just him taken advantage of the situation which is abuse of her) but it could turn into a violent scene next time if the relationship continues. This has the making of trouble written all over it. The guy is only out for self gratification at the expensive of someone else.... not a good guy at all. This is the beginning signs and symptoms of an abusive relationship.

 

[justasinner]

That is called "DATE RAPE" in the US.

If a person says "NO" and is forced in any way or is threaten into having sex, this is one of the legal definitions of "Date Rape". Every guy should know this definition frontwards and backwards.

Therefore, this girl should go to the police or just wait for her father. The guy knows that if father would punish his daughter he would surely kill the guy also and first. So, the girl should face the threat and let her father come home. Normally, the guy will simply leave at the last moment he can before the father come home.

 

[JPPT1974]

That is called "DATE RAPE" in the US.

If a person says "NO" and is forced in any way or is threaten into having sex, this is one of the legal definitions of "Date Rape". Every guy should know this definition frontwards and backwards.

Therefore, this girl should go to the police or just wait for her father. The guy knows that if father would punish his daughter he would surely kill the guy also and first. So, the girl should face the threat and let her father come home. Normally, the guy will simply leave at the last moment he can before the father come home.

She should tell her parents and then go to the police and tell on the guy. Because the threat could be serious and that the guy would want to do something bad to the girl or her family.

 

[gunblayde]

I think it's abuse.

 

[fishstix]

I don't know if this is the right forum to post this in, but I would really like your thoughts..

If a guy comes over to his girlfriend's house and they start kidding around, and then he traps her in her bedroom and won't let her leave until she has sex with him, but he makes it all out to be some kind of game even though she keeps saying "no" and telling him to stop...and they both know that the girl's father will be home soon and there's a "no boys in the house" rule...and the boyfriend tells his girlfriend that if she doesn't have sex with him, he'll stay until her father comes home so she'll get in trouble...and she gets scared because she knows her father might literally kill her boyfriend if he finds him there...so she goes ahead and has sex with him...is that like some kind of rape or abuse?

That's most certainly rape. If someone says 'no' and is pressured into having sex against his/her will, it's rape - regardless of whether or not they have had consensual sex previously. 'Consent' due to being threatened is not really consent.

 

[Carri20]

Thanks for the feedback!

 

[revelations12_12]

if she was a friend of mine and told me about that, I would find that guy and beat him senseless. That is BS!!

 

[london boy]

Yes, it is rape, since she hasn't agreed to them having sex. Also, she was being psychologically pressured (one could say, blackmailed) into participating. Sadly, this is a situation which will only become worse if no further action is taken. The guy here is showing signs of being abusive and seeking power and control. Power and control are two key elements in abuse.

 

[Dying2Live4Christ]

Yes, it is rape, since she hasn't agreed to them having sex. Also, she was being psychologically pressured (one could say, blackmailed) into participating. Sadly, this is a situation which will only become worse if no further action is taken. The guy here is showing signs of being abusive and seeking power and control. Power and control are two key elements in abuse.

I agree. The action was obviously forced upon making her current circumstances hard to change. The feeling, instead of being of love, was out of fear that she now had complete loss of control. He took all rights and freedoms from her. Once seeing the desperate state of a situation, she may tend to give into things to regain control. This, to me, was definitely abuse.

 

[Sketcher]

I wouldn't consider it rape, but I would consider it abuse. Very dispicable.

 

[Sketcher]

if she was a friend of mine and told me about that, I would find that guy and beat him senseless. That is BS!!

You'd stop there?

 

[the_man]

Yes, it is. "No" means "no."

'nuff said.

 

[Stanfi]

Without question, as already said no means NO and it is a crime.

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

previous situations don't matter. If she said no, it's rape. Even if some don't consider that rape, the guy should still be dealt with in the same way.

 

[beetlequeendiva]

I would most definitely say it abuse if not rape, because as everyone has said NO means NO!!!

 

[plum]

absolutely rape. 100%