the purpose of finding a girlfriend or boyfriend

[Krysstian]

Well sex is overrated as it last only around 7 minutes anyway so for me it's about companionship and support.

lol that's sad! Seven minutes! LOL

 

[Krysstian]

What is the purpose of finding a girlfriend or boyfriend in the modern world today?

I do not believe in boyfriend/girlfriend relationships. Just like some others had said, it’s a way for people to have an excuse to have sex. Men in my family didn’t marry their girlfriends because they were giving them all they need. What is the purpose of getting married if they are already playing man and wife?

I only believe in friendships and marriage. I believe friendship is a good way to set healthy boundaries. If I meet my husband today…he is going to stay my friend until marriage. I don’t care if he talks to other women or whatever. I want to give him enough space to be himself with me as a friend. If things start to get serious…I think both of us would know but going to the next step isn’t boyfriend and girlfriend.

I don’t understand it, my sister been with her boyfriend for almost 7 years but they don’t want to get married. It’s confusing to me. People are getting married for sex, money, drugs, some women just want a family or a child, men want a slave to take care of them, and I barely meet, BARELY meet people who marry for love and not lust.

 

[Crispie]

Well, with recent studies showing that premarital sex is committed by some 95% of the population, it becomes fairly hard to deny that the whole "boyfriend girlfriend" bit in this world is not for sex.

 

[sweetlambofgod]

theres 5% that doesn't want that!

 

[Weasel7711]

95% of the population of what country? united states? I would say it was high but I dont know about that high, maybe 80%??

 

[Blank123]

IMHO some people get too worked up over labels, i have a boyfriend and we're both firmly committed to abstaining from premarital sex, just being someone's girlfriend or boyfriend doesn't automatically mean you're 'loose', just like telling people you're dating someone doesn't automatically mean you're having sex

 

[Weasel7711]

Well sex is overrated as it last only around 7 minutes anyway so for me it's about companionship and support.

i refuse to believe that!

 

[Renewme]

IMHO some people get too worked up over labels, i have a boyfriend and we're both firmly committed to abstaining from premarital sex, just being someone's girlfriend or boyfriend doesn't automatically mean you're 'loose', just like telling people you're dating someone doesn't automatically mean you're having sex

Exactly.

 

[OhhJim]

My purpose in having a girlfriend would be to fill a need or desire in my life. It doesn't have to result in marriage. I think too many people get married thinking that will fill their needs and desires, without analysing what their needs and desires are, and how getting married will fill them.

For example: Someone here thinks the first and foremost purpose of marriage is to have children. Now, if that were true, it wouldn't matter whether or not you were in love with your spouse when you got married. It wouldn't matter if you found them attractive, or were nice to each other, or even enjoyed each other's company. As long as you crank out the babies, you're doing God's Will.

Another example: Many single people have certain qualifications they want in a spouse, but often these qualifications take a backseat to physical attraction. Many single people marry someone they are physically attracted to, but who lacks their other qualifications. I don't see the converse being true, i.e. that people marry someone with all their qualifications, but the physical attraction isn't there. This tells me that physical attraction is not merely the first requirement, but often the only one. There is no analyzation of one's needs and the ability of the spouse to meet them.

Believe it or not, it's possible for a couple to meet each other's needs without sex being involved. I know some married couples that do it!!

 

[Dragoon]

Well, with recent studies showing that premarital sex is committed by some 95% of the population, it becomes fairly hard to deny that the whole "boyfriend girlfriend" bit in this world is not for sex.

Actually, most people I know go out because they think they're in love with each other. Some may be right, I don't know. But I do know that none of them got together for sex. Some of them, maybe all of them, may have sex, but that's because sex is another way of showing how much you love someone. And the sin of premarital sex is not an issue with non-Christians.

Which leads me to this. I'm sure many still do go out only for sex, but could you really blame a non-believer for doing so? I'm sure if I was a different person, I would have sex in a heartbeat, mainly because there's just too many beautiful girls out there. I know sex is meaningless outside of a love relationship, but being the man I am, I would probably still do it. Which is why I understand why non-Christians have premarital sex.

 

[Lacko]

You could not be more mistaken about the exegesis of that verse, my friend.

this is standard christian practise my friend: it is common place to use that biblical reference to justify that position

 

[Lacko]

"the first commandment given to Adam and Eve in the Book of Genesis was to "be fruitful and multiply"."

from wikipedia: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Forbidden_fruit

this only mentions this in passing im somewhat lazy right now to find the direct link about it on wikipedia.

 

[Blank123]

the next time the earth is void of any real population like it was during the only two times in the Bible the command was given, i would see the justification using that verse to support that doctrine. Until then I need something more to believe it still applies

 

[Lacko]

the next time the earth is void of any real population like it was during the only two times in the Bible the command was given, i would see the justification using that verse to support that doctrine. Until then I need something more to believe it still applies

that's your opinion but it isn't the belief of mainstream Christianity.

for example the Roman Catholic church believes that this is a commandment from God that still must be followed: http://www.vatican.va/archive/ENG0015/__P51.HTM (official)

that's why they don't allow any form of contraception during marriage.

it is also the belief of the main stream evanjelical movement in the US. And other denominations like Lutheran's which im a member of.

https://www.lcms.org/pages/internal.asp?NavID=2122 (official)...

i can go and on and on....my point again that is what is believed to be a commandment from God by the vast majority of Christianity.

 

[Blank123]

for example the Roman Catholic church believes that this is a commandment from God that still must be followed:

i'm happy for them, but i'm not Catholic and i'm not obligated to listen to the Catholic church for teaching.

it is also the belief of the main stream evanjelical movement in the US. And other denominations like Lutheran's which im a member of.

i'm also neither American nor Lutheran, so again thats not going to sway me. Thats the beauty of being a nondenominational, i don't care what any particular denominations believe - i care what the Bible has to say. The only thing i respond to is Biblical exegesis. If this is in fact a command we're supposed to follow please post that rather than links to denominational sources.

 

[ImperialPhantom]

that's your opinion but it isn't the belief of mainstream Christianity.

for example the Roman Catholic church believes that this is a commandment from God that still must be followed: http://www.vatican.va/archive/ENG0015/__P51.HTM (official)

that's why they don't allow any form of contraception during marriage.

it is also the belief of the main stream evanjelical movement in the US. And other denominations like Lutheran's which im a member of.

https://www.lcms.org/pages/internal.asp?NavID=2122 (official)...

i can go and on and on....my point again that is what is believed to be a commandment from God by the vast majority of Christianity.

Actually, the link you provided for the LCMS stated that it takes no position on contraception.

 

[charlie_hunter]

for me?

live
laugh
love
marry
get noise complaints from the neighbours

in that order.

 

[sweetlambofgod]

for me?

live
laugh
love
marry
get noise complaints from the neighbours

in that order.

LOL

 

[GQ Chris]

i'm happy for them, but i'm not Catholic and i'm not obligated to listen to the Catholic church for teaching.

Amen.

 

[paul123]

For me, I just date to have fun. And no I don't mean "fun." Even if it's only once and you never see them again, you still met some one you never would have before. I don't date to marry. I date to meet people. This way there is no preasure.