The Odd Predicament

[ilovejesus86]

Hello,
Thanks for taking the time to read this. I could really use some advice on what to do. I had been dating this girl for 6 months now, she got me into religion, she brought me to christ. Her Father, is a pastor. Well last night she called me and told me she felt God didnt want us to be together, for us just to be friends. Times had been really rough lately because we didnt get to see each other much, with her being so busy. She really didnt show much emotion over the phone and she thought it is what he wanted, so she did it. A Broken heart in time can be fixed, i understand this. My question is, Tommorow my Youth group (led by her father, and she is in it) will be going on a Winter Retreat. We would be gone till Sunday Morning. My problem is, this Winter Retreat is meant for us to become closer to the Lord. I am afraid that being near here, for that amount of time, knowing my feelings for her, and knowing how she truely feels about me, it would just rip me apart inside, and make me want to cry. If i became emotional, it would take the attention Off of God, and on to me. Would i be smart in not attending? I will be attending Sunday Service this Sunday, and i will return to YG next Thursday, but going on this retreat just seems wrong. I dont want to end up bursting out into tears in front of everybody. My attention should be on God, not on my feelings for her... any info would be appreciated! Thanks

Mike

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Hey man. Perhaps the purpose of your relationship was for you to meet Jesus. Often things are only clear in hindsight.
That doesn't help a broken heart though. One thing I can say is that whether you go or stay, you're still going to hurt.
It's ok to hurt, and its ok to hurt in front of God.
If you choose not to go, let it be only for the sake of your own sanity. I can understand that one.

Things get better. So look forward to the day when they are.

 

[Jack_Racz]

Everything happens for a reason.. even the sad stuff.

Just stay strong in the light of the Lord.

 

[ChristsChick]

If it was me I'd go, even if it's likely to hurt, because the point of this weekend is to get closer to God, and he's what you really need right now to get over your broken heart. But obviously it's between you and God, pray about it, and he'll show you what to do!

 

[Crazy Liz]

If i became emotional, it would take the attention Off of God, and on to me. Would i be smart in not attending?

Actually, at nearly every retreat I've been to where the Holy Spirit really works, there is at least one person who comes bringing an emotional issue with them. I am thinking back on one retreat I went on and spent most of the time in the back of the room or in some other place crying. It was only through this retreat that God could have ministered to me as God did, through some of the other people who were there.

If you think your emotions would distract you from God, God's presence is exactly where you need to be. There is a new aspect of God that God wants you to encounter.

 

[Risen Tree]

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this. Breakups suck.

Honestly, there isn't any way that you can take her off your mind this weekend. Granted, it would be a risky maneuver to go. But if you stayed home, all you would think about is her. You might as well go and find some time to talk to God about this. Heck, you might even want to have a heart-to-heart talk with her and let her know how brokenhearted you are. Just be sure not to get angry, as natural as it may be to do so.

 

[Sketcher]

Sorry to hear that. Praying for you as I type.

Do you have any Christian friends that are male? The good, trustworthy type? If so, hang around with them. You need them right now. Maybe they are going to the retreat. Perhaps not. I do know that these things are usually good for getting to know good people. Then again, she's there.

I'll pray for you because God knows where you need to be. And He is more faithful than any human being.