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The Notebook

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I saw The Notebook, my thought on it was "Only In The Movies!" Only in the moives does the underdog get the attractive girl from the wealthy family and love prevails. That is what is wrong with so many of us, we watch all of these sappy love stories and wonder why are lives are not like this. Movies diassociate of from reality! The lead guy always get the girl in the movies, in real life he doesn't.
 
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mrstace said:
I saw The Notebook, my thought on it was "Only In The Movies!" Only in the moives does the underdog get the attractive girl from the wealthy family and love prevails. That is what is wrong with so many of us, we watch all of these sappy love stories and wonder why are lives are not like this. Movies diassociate of from reality! The lead guy always get the girl in the movies, in real life he doesn't.
I beg to differ with at least your last statement because it can go BOTH ways. I like to think of myself as the girl who has been gotten at least twice by two different "lead" guys, the second of which is the "rich" one. So though that situation was reversed, I still think it's proof enough that even reality has potential of being fake. Lead guys in life actually CAN get the girl. It's just a matter of what they do with them that make the difference.
 
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lunalinda said:
Darn that pestersome testosterone. :p

you're telling me. I won't even get to the movie until I'm done changing the oil in my car and hammering up some drywall and swearing and drinking beers and scratching and watching football and doing my nails with a pocket knife and eating red meat...
 
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The book was moving, but it's so hard for me to take in the idea of sex before marriage, so that aspect ruins it for me. (And wasn't there cheating in there, too?) Call me weird, but what gets me misty is when I pick up a religious romance (in between the nonfiction books of preference:thumbsup: ) and read about tender love and deep respect that's strong enough to wait.

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I cried...it was such a great movie. The glory, the sublimity of it all...and... the honor of his death...

what? no, I was talking about Gladiator... I cried for Maximus when he died. I don't think I could cry for a cooked up romance that is contrary to human experience... oh, what? Gladiator actually contradicted many historical events, making it a cooked up pseudo-historical drama? ... hmmm, well isn't that interesting... it was still a good movie...

Why is it that the movies we enjoy so much are quite often contrary to our experience? Are we not deluding ourselves with ideas of extreme or rare circumstances which may never inform our actions in a relatively normal life?

Before one replies either way - that such movies are a sham or that they are the spice of inner life - I beg the question whether or not it is better to avoid determining their worth and looking instead at our own?

How is it that we may stop appraising others' romance to create it in a world that is filled with jade mixed into the white marble of our imaginations? Is there not a pragmatic romance, one which stands the test of both the human condition as well as the poignant necessity for the right circumstance?

These questions drive me backward to think upon the old philosophers and writers of the Romantic era, that time in which humankind began to embrace art as not only an expression of culture but of the human experience itself. I think upon the time of Don Quixote de la Mancha, Count di Monte Cristo, and even of Jules Verne. Maybe the answer lies in suddenly taking off the blinders which keep us so fixated on "romance" and consider the other less transient aspects of the human condition: duty, suffering, exploration. In my opinion, these can be just as romantic as the touching story of two lovers. And if two lovers find each other amidst the search for some other noble human goal, then isn't that a much stronger romance? One that may last beyond infatuation, based on something real?
 
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I'm one of hose guys who secretly enjoys "chick-flicks". Nobody knows but you guys! :wave:

Whenever a girlfriend would want to watch one of those movies I'd have to pretend I didn't really want to see it, but said I'd love to watch it with her if she wanted to see it. Then I always have to hold back tears or hide them because I am a big crybaby! I cry at sad movies more than any girl I've been with. I'm pretty good at holding it back though by now. My eyes will just get all watery :cry: unless it's something really moving.

Don't tell anyone!
 
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fungku said:
I'm one of hose guys who secretly enjoys "chick-flicks". Nobody knows but you guys! :wave:

Whenever a girlfriend would want to watch one of those movies I'd have to pretend I didn't really want to see it, but said I'd love to watch it with her if she wanted to see it. Then I always have to hold back tears or hide them because I am a big crybaby! I cry at sad movies more than any girl I've been with. I'm pretty good at holding it back though by now. My eyes will just get all watery :cry: unless it's something really moving.

Don't tell anyone!
Your secret is safe fungku ;)
 
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fungku said:
I'm one of hose guys who secretly enjoys "chick-flicks". Nobody knows but you guys! :wave:

Whenever a girlfriend would want to watch one of those movies I'd have to pretend I didn't really want to see it, but said I'd love to watch it with her if she wanted to see it. Then I always have to hold back tears or hide them because I am a big crybaby! I cry at sad movies more than any girl I've been with. I'm pretty good at holding it back though by now. My eyes will just get all watery :cry: unless it's something really moving.

Don't tell anyone!

I'm with you in that boat.

As far as any girls and mates are concerned, I'm a rugby watching, steak eating, sought of fellow, who's idea of a good movie would be one like Gladiator or a John Wayne one.

Let's hope none of them come onto CF then. Cover will be blown LOL.
 
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fungku said:
I'm one of hose guys who secretly enjoys "chick-flicks". Nobody knows but you guys! :wave:

Whenever a girlfriend would want to watch one of those movies I'd have to pretend I didn't really want to see it, but said I'd love to watch it with her if she wanted to see it. Then I always have to hold back tears or hide them because I am a big crybaby! I cry at sad movies more than any girl I've been with. I'm pretty good at holding it back though by now. My eyes will just get all watery :cry: unless it's something really moving.

Don't tell anyone!

Hey I cry at sad movies or cry at movies that are true. Because movies that are true really get to me because they happen in real life. But I love a man that is sensitive and has a concious. That says something to me about you fungku. Don't feel like a crybaby. Because I love men that cry would you believe it!
 
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