Well, while you object to Calvinism being associated with a puppet master concept, you've pretty much quoted passages that support that concept. There's no argument over whether or not God can do whatever He wishes; the argument has to do with what God wishes to do. And with the whole counsel of Scripture together with historic teachings of the churches and ECFs, along with reason, alone, it's obvious, to me, at least, that God commands and seeks to draw from man a simple "yes" to Him, a yes comprised of faith, hope, and love born out by actions that should all grow stronger as one remains in Him and does His will by the help of His grace. In fact, He specifically does not want to do it all for you, as if He were a God who foreordained our evil choices, blamed us for our evil choices, and then takes credit for redeeming us from the penalty of our evil choices.
It's not either/or but both/and, Him and you, with His grace necessarily preceding it all.