The Matt Chandler Situation

[Saucy]

I don't know if this is being discussed elsewhere in the forum, but I wanted to know what some of you thought about it.

In short, Matt Chandler is a popular pastor of a mega-church in Texas. I've always thought he was amazing and taught biblical concepts really well, even if I did not always agree with him. A few weeks ago, he got involved in a situation with a woman and willingly stepped down when asked.

Before anyone who doesn't know the story says, "Aha! Another pastor falls in sexual sin!" it wasn't like that at all. Here is the story:

Starts about 4-minutes in:

• Matt Chandler did NOT have a sexual relationship with a woman
• Matt Chandler did not flirt or lead a woman on
• His wife and her husband knew about their conversations

The issue is the familiarity and frequency of these two people chatting with each other.

Is this wrong for a pastor to have friends of the opposite sex? Sometimes, we just gel with a person and their personality can make someone easy to talk to. Should that lead to him having to step down or did the elders of the church overreact?

 

[Gregory Thompson]

they sound very sensitive, like they were "catching it" before it became something worse.

 

[Saucy]

I can understand that, but you can't punish someone for what may or may not get worse in the future. If it did take a turn, then punish, but I think a conversation about being extra careful was a better course of action? I mean, humiliation was heaped on the man for having a woman who is a friend. Now many Christians think much worse had to be going on behind the scenes and are questioning him. Maybe even people from his own church.

I agree such situations need to be handled, but to that level when there was no romantic interest or flirting and both spouses knew about the conversations?

 

[Gregory Thompson]

I can understand that, but you can't punish someone for what may or may not get worse in the future. If it did take a turn, then punish, but I think a conversation about being extra careful was a better course of action? I mean, humiliation was heaped on the man for having a woman who is a friend. Now many Christians think much worse had to be going on behind the scenes and are questioning him. Maybe even people from his own church.

I agree such situations need to be handled, but to that level when there was no romantic interest or flirting and both spouses knew about the conversations?

Pastors need to be under deeper scrutiny, since they are held in a position of honor in the body of Christ.

if the leadership of a church was able to take note when a seed had been planted, and take action right away, maybe there's hope for the body of Christ in the near future.

Besides, since the me too thing started, being careful isn't a bad thing.

 

[Joy]

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[Tropical Wilds]

They felt the need to investigate him via lawyers and Elders and as a result of that he stepped aside. If that’s what he and his Church say say need to happen, then it needs to happen. As long as he wasn’t doing something illegal that needs to be reported to authorities, this is a simple, private, organizational leadership change based off him violating their rules of ethics or employment.

 

[CMDRExorcist]

I haven't studied in-depth all the things that happened with this, but from what I've read, I'm on the fence over whether he should have stepped down or not. Being able to admit to your faults in such a public way takes courage. he could have confessed and stayed on, especially if there was no truly inappropriate or illegal activities. But I also can see how that would erode confidence in his leadership and stepping down does show that he values the integrity of his congregation's relationship with their church leaders. I wish him and his family all the best.

 

[JimR-OCDS]

I don't know what actually took place between the pastor and the woman, but apparently nothing inappropriate or illegal.

The elders were more concerned about the image of the church rather than
the integrity of the pastor. If there were those who distrusted him because
of his relationship with this woman, then the problem is theirs.