The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts

[Khalliqa]

Anyone reading this? Or have read it and followed the book?

I am about to embark on studying it with my boyfriend.. We currently will read a devotional page or two every month and I got this book to help extend it..

Wondering if anyone has found it helpful.. :-D

 

[Poppyseed78]

I read it when my husband and I were dating. It was interesting, and I think it gives some valuable insight, but overall it just told me things I mostly already knew. I mean, my love language is quality time, and I already knew this. This book can improve communication and understanding between couples, but I don't think it can solve massive problems or create what's not already there - i.e., the desire to make your partner/spouse feel loved in the ways most important to them. The book can help facilitate that, though.

 

[Khalliqa]

Thank you. May I ask what prompted you to get the book?

 

[Greg J.]

I refer to this book often enough that I should probably read it, heh. Based on what @Poppyseed78 says, perhaps it is most valuable for people that have fewer years of introspection under their belt.

 

[Poppyseed78]

Thank you. May I ask what prompted you to get the book?

I checked it out of the library, since I rarely buy books. My church recommended it for couples that were dating, so I decided to give it a try. Also, after having been in a bad relationship previously, I was trying to do everything possible to do things differently. Part of that was reading relationship books. Some were helpful, some were mostly just common sense.

 

[Khalliqa]

Thank you. I am introspective so much so I never tire of the positive jolts I get perhaps I need the reminders..
Is there anyone for whom this book was helpful?

Just got off work and am about to read into it some before Sunday

 

[puregrl]

Good book! It can do a lot for a relationship.

 

[*LILAC]

I may have to re-read this book but I thought it was kinda cheesy first time around. lol Who ever heard of a "looove tank"?! Baby, I'm runnin' on fumes. Time to fill up the ol' tank!

 

[puregrl]

I may have to re-read this book but I thought it was kinda cheesy first time around. lol Who ever heard of a "looove tank"?! Baby, I'm runnin' on fumes. Time to fill up the ol' tank!

Bahaha....the premarital counseling videos we did with our pastor had a guy that mentioned that. We refer to the Love Tank all the time for fun.

 

[Khalliqa]

I may have to re-read this book but I thought it was kinda cheesy first time around. lol Who ever heard of a "looove tank"?! Baby, I'm runnin' on fumes. Time to fill up the ol' tank!

I like the visual

When I first started dating my bf mentioned deposits.. I thought it was crass and emotionally removed..

Until he put in the work to make them..

The reality of the words is a much more meaningful experience... however one may visualize it..


We've gotten through the first three chapters which does not present new information but presents a needed refresher..

 

[dayhiker]

One of the books that I think of often and have recommended often.

 

[Kindled]

It's a good book. A book I recommend often.

 

[Dave-W]

Anyone reading this? Or have read it and followed the book?

It probably works for many or most people; but is useless for those who have suffered from sexual, physical or spiritual abuse. A main part of the premise is finding your primary (and secondary) "Love Language." Many people take the test and have no definitive answer.

 

[WolfGate]

It is a relationship classic, both in and out of the church for a reason, it has value for most people. Dave-W points out correctly that no book, including this one, is a perfect one to help all couples. But it is one of the best out there.

 

[ValleyGal]

The book is a little simplistic, but can certainly raise awareness. The thing is that no matter how many books you read, they are meaningless unless you actually do what's in them. And for this book, I'd suggest discarding the idea that we all have one primary love language and maybe a secondary. Get rid of all that thinking and learn to speak them all to each other as well as to any children who come along. Also, don't get limited to thinking there's only a box of five. There are other love languages as well.

 

[Llleopard]

It probably works for many or most people; but is useless for those who have suffered from sexual, physical or spiritual abuse. A main part of the premise is finding your primary (and secondary) "Love Language." Many people take the test and have no definitive answer.

I would have to disagree with you on this one d w! My first two marriages were physically and sexually as well as mentally abusive. When I was finally single again I was a very mixed up person very out of touch with ordinary ways of relating. The aspergers doesn't help either! Reading love Lang helped me understand how to show love successfully to my new awesome husband. even though I struggle to understand it, I follow the method and it works . With years of kindness from him, we have found my love Lang too and I am mostly healed and able to receive love yay

 

[Dave-W]

I would have to disagree with you on this one d w! My first two marriages were physically and sexually as well as mentally abusive. When I was finally single again I was a very mixed up person very out of touch with ordinary ways of relating. The aspergers doesn't help either! Reading love Lang helped me understand how to show love successfully to my new awesome husband. even though I struggle to understand it, I follow the method and it works . With years of kindness from him, we have found my love Lang too and I am mostly healed and able to receive love yay

I am glad for you.

My wife and I read the LL book almost 20 years ago. We took the tests at the end and she had no love language. She came up negative for every one of the options. There was a foot note we found that said people who had severe abuse as children often did not develop a love language because they mentally walled themselves off.