The Ex

[LostUntilSaved]

Jeremiah 29:11 says, "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans for a hope and a future."

If I'm to believe this, then I have to believe that God would not want me to allow people in my life that want to hurt me or cause me pain. I had to learn to believe that it wasn't anything I was or wasn't doing that made my ex the way he was - it was all on him. Since he is not capable of having a conversation with me without trying to blame me for something, I avoid talking to him unless I absolutely have to regarding the kids.

Like it was said above, you are absolutely worthy of being loved by someone - loved, respected, and treated well. Don't settle for anything less and don't allow people in your life that aren't willing/able to treat you that way.

you are strong of woman of God. My ex blames me too. I hope I can be as strong as you one day.

 

[ido]

you are strong of woman of God. My ex blames me too. I hope I can be as strong as you one day.

Sweetie, you can be anything you want to be if you lean on your faith.

 

[LostUntilSaved]

Sweetie, you can be anything you want to be if you lean on your faith.

My heart hurts. I realize there is darkness in my life.

 

[JonMiller]

I said a prayer for you... I hope that everything comes out well.

JM

 

[LostUntilSaved]

I said a prayer for you... I hope that everything comes out well.

JM

thank you sweetie

 

[soccerdad66]

I just said a quick prayer for you. Too bad there isn't a magic button we can push to make it go away.

 

[LostUntilSaved]

I just said a quick prayer for you. Too bad there isn't a magic button we can push to make it go away.

thank you if there was a button I think it would break down because I would be pressing it 2 much.

 

[ido]

My heart hurts. I realize there is darkness in my life.

I have a few more verses for you. If you don't have a bible, I strongly encourage you to get one and read it as much as possible. If you can't afford a bible, most churches offer to let people keep a pew bible to take home as their own. Getting into the word and finding passages that speak to you and offer you peace is what will help you the most, IMO.

Psalm 119:105

105 Your word is a lamp to my feet
and a light for my path.

Isaiah 40:30-31 (NIV)



30 Even youths grow tired and weary,
and young men stumble and fall; 31 but those who hope in the LORD
will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles;
they will run and not grow weary,
they will walk and not be faint.

 

[LostUntilSaved]

I have a few more verses for you. If you don't have a bible, I strongly encourage you to get one and read it as much as possible. If you can't afford a bible, most churches offer to let people keep a pew bible to take home as their own. Getting into the word and finding passages that speak to you and offer you peace is what will help you the most, IMO.

Psalm 119:105

105 Your word is a lamp to my feet
and a light for my path.

Isaiah 40:30-31 (NIV)



30 Even youths grow tired and weary,
and young men stumble and fall; 31 but those who hope in the LORD
will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles;
they will run and not grow weary,
they will walk and not be faint.

Thank you sweetie. I haven't been to church in a long time. Something is wrong with me.

 

[JonMiller]

I often have a hard time going to church, but if I allow it to be, it is often a blessing.

Even if the message the pastor has I disagree with, often at least the praise and worship I can take part in (even if others around me are not).

I know it isn't blessing at all times foreveryone (then find a new church!).

JM

 

[LostUntilSaved]

I often have a hard time going to church, but if I allow it to be, it is often a blessing.

Even if the message the pastor has I disagree with, often at least the praise and worship I can take part in (even if others around me are not).

I know it isn't blessing at all times foreveryone (then find a new church!).

JM

I'm not ready to go to church. cf is the closest I come to with church

 

[JonMiller]

Why not? (we could take this elsewhere if you desire)

JM

 

[LostUntilSaved]

Why not? (we could take this elsewhere if you desire)

JM

I would take it elsewhere but I'm off of work in 15 minutes. I have to get ready to close the lab.

and because I make my heart hard. I am afraid to let love in my heart again so I put a wall up.

 

[ido]

Lost - nothing is wrong with you. I have been "churchless" for the better part of two years now b/c I haven't found a church that is a good fit for me.

I just keep trying different churches in the area and am praying that I will feel led to worship regularly at one of them.

I'll be praying for you that you take the opportunity to look for a church home.

 

[JonMiller]

I use to rarely go to church, I have been blessed by decided to go.. whether I always felt comfortable or agreed or not or so.

JM

 

[JonMiller]

By decided to go, I mean I go twice a month (on average). When I go again, I always wish that I was going after week though.

It is just during the week that negativeness starts to get me.

JM

 

[JonMiller]

I'm not ready to go to church. cf is the closest I come to with church

I don't know if you go to other areas or not, but at least here (and the SDA denomination areas) there is a severe lack of worship or praise. Which are the most important things about meeting together in church.

We can study by ourselves.

JM

 

[joyouspirit]

I don't know why I text him back sometimes. Sometimes we don't talk for months then he texts me and I text him back. I end up getting upset and I stop texting him. After that he waits for awhile and texts again. thanks for the advice

Honey, came from an abusive relationship, too. I do communicate with my ex, because of our children other than that, I put my foot down that it is all we ever will talk about.

If he texts, I dont text back. I pray that you will have the courage to not entertain him anymore honey, please. Let go of him. Even posting about him, will not help, do not try to figure him out, I did that, it hurt me alot. I know you don't need advice but I just had to say something because I love you and I dont want you to get hurt all over again.

 

[joyouspirit]

I'm not ready to go to church. cf is the closest I come to with church

It's okay, hon. When you are ready.

 

[mechman]

hey lost sorry i wasnt on here to talk to you earlyer. i agree with them, sever all ties with him. i know its easier said than done, some people im my life have had this happen to them and i have found out to late... i agree get a concealed gun permit and find the quickest, high caliber, biggest clip gun you can find and practice with it. ill keep you in my prayers.

*stands gaurd next to Lost* no one will hurt you while im on watch!